Why do men cheat if their wife is beautiful?

[Leyna2]

Hi everyone does anyone know why a man who has a stunning wife that he loves still looks around for other options or cheats? It’s something I can never understand. If they have a gorgeous wife, and a loving happy marriage why do they risk it all for no reason? Thanks

Also (from my experience) loud, confident women always get cheated on as well (but thats understandable as they are bloody annoying!).

Men are often harder on beautiful women, they seem to want to take them down a peg or two, knock their confidence.

What

Ignore the woman hating rage baiting swap dweller 😂

I don't think men who cheat are thinking of their wives in the moment at all. I don't think they look at another woman and think oh, she's less attractive than my wife, I'm not interested in her.

i think they see something they want sex/ attention/ a challenge/ novelty/ excitement / dopamine/ ego boost and they see an opportunity and that is all it takes.

Some people have an incredible capacity to compartmentalise.

Thanks for an informative post.

Would it be fair to say though that the fact these couples come to see you would affect the reason why infidelity happened?

DAILY?
no she's not.

Some people are just selfish and entitled. Their wife could look like a Hadid sister, be a Mensa member and be fantastically loving and giving, and faced with an opportunity they'd still risk it all for a cheap shag with someone who massages their ego. How these men respond when caught is what separates the ones that are worth another go from the serial losers. If they're genuinely mortified that they could get sucked in to something sordid then you might have something worth salvaging. Otherwise - run.

Haha! Thank you :) yes, it should it took me a long time to realise I didn’t have to spend my life with someone who wasn’t even basically nice to me! I’ve got a much higher bar now.

Because the vast majority of men will always want to try different pussy given the opportunity. It's that simple. And when they say that it was just sex, they usually mean it. It's just like scratching an itch or trying a different cut of steak, except "conquering" another woman also serves to boost their ginormous egos.

Because it rarely is about looks

Kristen is gorgeous and definitely not butch

My husband has a fast, plain wife, I'll be sure to tell him it's ok for him to cheat

IMO - Some men cheat because their wife is beautiful. Others because she gained pregnancy weight. Some cheat because there wife works and OW doesn’t so has more time for him. Some cheat because their wife doesn’t work and OW is a career woman. It’s all excuses. The real reason is having a but in their fidelity. I’m faithful but not if my wife will never find out. I’m faithful but stag do encounters don’t count. I’m faithful but not a Tuesday when the moon is full.

All have character flaws, feeling inferior or a void inside they cannot fill. Or they are liars or cannot create their own joy/happiness. Grass is always greener types.

Your cousins cheater will be faced with a choice when he is dating. He will be asked by a lovely lady - did you cheat on your ex wife?

A) He says No and remains a liar. The entire relationship starts with a lie and the risk she finds out.

B) Or he says yes and is decreasing the amount of ladies who will have another date with him. The only ones who will have a second date are ones who are okay building a relationship with a cheat.

I don’t cheat for me. I remain faithful for me, it’s a value I have and nothing my husband does or doesn’t do affects that. I like who I am and want to like the person I see in the mirror - I find it easier to explain why I am faithful rather than why I don’t cheat. Also selfishly if I am single I don’t ever want to have to decide whether to lie or be honest on a date as I do think many people would run a mile if I’d cheated on a husband.

Really?

You could also ask the same question about women.

Anybody, man or woman can and do cheat, for any number of reasons. For me, they're just not wired up right, they don't understand the pain they caused to their partners once they get found out. They deserve everything they get in payback/karma.

Yes - I've long since learned that choosing a partner is choosing an "experience" not an ornament. The people who give the best relationship experiences are the most desirable, not the best looking. But as women we're taught the opposite - it's not true!!! Men don't only care about looks! And neither do women

@Thundertoast as a man that’s only had 3 long-term relationships spanning 35 years i would say the one thing i’ve learnt is that the most important qualities i look for in a partner are loyalty and trust, the rest is just material. I just don’t think i’ve actually found it yet, i thought i had it but now i have my doubts.

A man cheating is due a character flaw in the man regardless of what his wife looks like. Serial cheaters have some sort of addiction and are not capable of being in a committed relationship with anyone.

The exact same can be said about a woman / wife.

Yes totally the same for both men and women.

It’s got nothing to do with how beautiful she is and everything to do with the cheater and whatever he feels he is lacking in the relationship and in himself. Beauty becomes far less important in a long term relationship over time. It’s quite mysoginistic question tbh because it reduces a woman’s value down to her physical appearance. Think of it in reverse. Why did he cheat on her? Oh because shes ugly or she aged and became undesirable.