Refusing to chase after another silent treatment

[Melon1989]

Hi everyone, just looking for some outside perspective/sanity check on this as I’m currently feeling really crappy but trying to hold my ground.

I’ve been dating a guy since January, and we agreed to be exclusive in March.

About six weeks ago, we had a minor argument. He got annoyed, ignored my phone calls, and wouldn’t speak to me at all for two days. I was ready to end things then and there because it felt so emotionally immature, but he came back with a massive apology, swore it wouldn’t happen again, and to be fair, put in a lot of effort after that. We’ve been spending a lot of time together since and he has been thoughtful and considerate.

Fast forward to this weekend. We went on a lovely date on Saturday night and I stayed over his. On Sunday, he woke up in a massive huff. It turns out he was annoyed/paranoid about the fact that I was going out with a group of friends drinking on Sunday for a friends birthday. I left his, and he was in a mood even when saying goodbye.

There has been absolute radio silence since then.

I haven't reached out to him and I don't plan to. I feel this is just another silent treatment power play to try and make me chase him, or feel guilty for having a social life outside of him. It’s completely emotionally draining.

Am I doing the right thing by refusing to chase him, and just letting it fizzle out? It feels empty and awful right now.

Of course you're doing the right thing. This is clear evidence of domestically abusive behaviour. Stonewalling is emotional abuse and throwing a tantrum over you going out with friends is controlling and coercive. You would be absolutely mad to keep seeing him.

You are 100% doing the right thing. The silent treatment is a form of abusive behaviour and a form of control.

God forbid you have a social life outside of the Greek god of a man he must be!

You feel bad now but trust me you'll look back and realise you dodged a bullet.

Thanks. He also made a point recently of saying he’s uncomfortable with me having male friends. Even me speaking to male colleagues seems to make him feel uncomfortable/is seen as some sort of betrayal.

Nobody in their right mind would encourage you to pursue a relationship with this man.
If he’s behaving like this already, you don’t need to hang around to find out how much worse it will get.
And yes, the silent treatment is very much a form of abuse.
I know you feel rubbish right now but you deserve so much better than this, run don’t walk.

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Too many of these OP especially with your update.

He sounds controlling and it'll only get worse. Use this time to block his number and move on.

Did you think this was ok? Why didn't you break up with him when he said that?

This guy is a controlling dickhead. Thank goodness he's shown you his true colours so early in the relationship.

Time to ditch and move on
I've read too many threads on here of women trying to appease these types thing is you never will.
You'd be more isolated with not going out with friends family etc to keep the peace.

I've noticed the same conditions don't apply to them going out etc.

He's shown you quite clearly who he is. Take heed and move on. This is not a man who should be in a relationship with any woman.

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He doesn't own you. Remember that.

This is a Moscow parade of red flags 🚩 and you'd be better off without him.

Move on and don't look back.

You only met this Prince of men in January?!
This is the honeymoon phase and his mask has slipped already.
It's only going to get worse unless you toe his jealous, childish, controlling line.

Get rid..and don't accept his crawling back to you this time - which he will.

Absolutely not, in the bin. He’s trying to bring you to heel and each time you cave, you lose a little bit of yourself. You know already that it’s wrong.

Be grateful he’s shown his true colours so early. Sometimes they can drag it out for two years or more. Block and delete. No doubt you’ll get love moved in a week or two. Don’t fall for it like I did. The good times get fewer and fewer and the bad times get longer and longer. It’s a form of control and it’s abusive.

He is showing you who he is. Believe him.
What a dickhead. This won't get better
I honestly don't understand men who don't like their GF / DW to speak to other men. How weird and stupid.
Dump him

Run!

RUN

He doesn't like you meeting up with friends without him, can't you see how controlling that is.

Sounds like he's controlling and you'll be well out of it.

His previous apology was meaningless as he just went ahead and repeated the behaviour.

Massive red flags all over this and your first post. RUN.

Block him on everything now.

I can't shout this loud enough. BIN!!!

Walk away with your head held high. You’re not a person you’re a possession to him. If he comes back … read all these messages and put him in the bin.