Would having a fifth child in our blended family be unrealistic?

[AmITotallyBonkers]

I have been in a relationship with DP for 2 years. We are engaged and live together. He has two DSS (3) and (5). I have DD (9) and DD (7). I am 31 and he is 38. I work part time school hours and he works full time half from home.

We have DSSs T W Th Night Week 1 and F S S Night Week 2. We have DD until Friday school pick up during Week 1 they are returned Sunday morning. Week 2 they don’t see their DF.

Would I be totally crazy to have another? We have the room at home and financial flexibility. Does anyone actually have 5 kids?!

As to not drip feed, life is busy but enjoyable, sometimes chaotic but worth it.

Dont do it. Really don’t.

^^

First post nails it - don’t do it … blended families are messy roam some boards adding a new baby and your kids and his kids will begin to show jealousy as this one has two parents full time one home etc

Also his kids are really young they are still getting used to mummy and daddy dont live together anymore

We had the same set up as you but 5-9. I’m grateful every single day that we stopped there.

Im the youngest of 6 in a recomposed family. When my DSM asked us about another one we were all vehemently against it. It’s really really hard to do a good job for 4 kids. Adding even more dynamics into a very complicated set up is to no one’s benefit despite what your hormones are telling you.

@AmITotallyBonkers

Take a look at the stepparents thread on here before deciding.

B

So in 9 years time you will potentially start a solid patch of 12 years of paying university contributions… that seems like a lot… exactly how financially secure are you?

Nobody can really tell you what to do but busy lives and 4 children. I wouldn't add a child, no.

One woman? @Costatesco

It would be incredibly selfish of you imo.

His youngest is only 3 but you hve been together 2 years.

Quite confusing for the young one, and the others to some degree.

@Costatesco he doesn’t, the pattern alternates fortnightly.

Everything sounds way too rushed already. How do your children feel - really feel - about this whole situation?

Why would you consider having a child to a man you are not actually married to when you are already financially vulnerable?

Personally, a man having separated from his wife when he had a baby and a preschooler would be a massive red flag for me in itself.

All of your DC are currently in the same position - split between two households. What would it be like to have a child who isn't - for the existing children and the new one.

Isn’t it different days each week….. but he same children….

Oops.

Blending families always causes problems.

Never mind the financials of it.

Love the MN's saying "Nanny with a fanny".

Don't become one OP.

Two years, fourDC already between you and not married? Sounds like a brilliant idea...

@Costatesco split soon after DS2 was born. Taking on board the comments!