How to meet nice 40s to 50s women

[GeorgeA12]

Been a single dad for 15 years, worked hard and juggled to keep everything together. Daughter is going off to uni this year.

Thought it would be nice to meet someone again as will have more time for a relationship now. Looking for something meaningful. I'm 51, fit, tall, in good shape, good job but where do you start? I've tried OLD but it's always a nightmare! Any advice appreciated!

Thread title updated by MNHQ on OP's request

And another one

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/5437211-how-to-make-female-friendships-in-your-40s

Here's where I am suss about these kind of threads. Bloke comes on a site mainly full of women. Says he's not had a good time OLD and how can he meet women. I wouldn't think of popping in Piston heads to ask men.

Are you hoping to meet women by posting?

Otherwise , OLD is not great for either sex if you want a nice relationship. You have to kiss a lot of frogs..take up a hobby or try those meet ups is the usual advice.

Just ignore the beraters @GeorgeA12 Nothing wrong with saying females. Many men do. You meant no harm. As has been suggested, join a few hobby groups maybe. You will very likely meet some like minded 'females' then.

Good luck! And I'm sorry some posters are getting at you or using a certain word (a word that was fine by the way!)

There is only one way to meet anyone OP, getting out there and luck. OLD seems to be terrible for both sexes but there are some success stories, think you have to be the right kind of person to do it and just roll with the bad and move on.

It's not easy but just get yourself into a hobby, a group and broaden your circle, it really is the only way

As I said in this thread I'm a single parent and I've received and provided support on mumsnet.

A previous thread asked about meeting men and I was interested in other peoples opinions the other way around as it's difficult meeting anyone nowadays. I wasn't expecting this backlash and I feel crap now.

I think you will have immense success ...there was a thread indeed where are the nice 50 to 60 decent MALES recently on here and the predominant womens' opinion was that they are snapped immediately in real life, and do not make it even on dating apps - this is how fast they are snapped. I am married to a decent 50smth so cannot extend myself like < Macaroni> but wishing you both good luck and let us know how it went

Honestly ignore the nonsense comments about the terminology. It’s stupid to take offence at something like that and no need for people to call it out to prove some kind of point. You are fine and your question was fine

Don't be stupid. The same women who poo poo a post from a man will snap a decent, caring, single hard working man in his 50s according to the other thread. Be a man my dear and go forth

Yes that was the post I was reading, hence my question as it's proving tricky to get 'snapped up' 😂.

I'm female. I don't mind being called female, and as you've shown, no one minds if men are called males.

Volunteering is a good idea OP, for a big set-up with lots of volunteers you can potentially interact with. Clubs if you're a club person. Speed dating. Get a dog (but only if you have tge time, money and love for one) - they're a great way to get chatting with strangers. Join a local Civic Society, History society etc. The possibilities are endless!

@thekewgirl thank you!

That's understandable then. Sorry I missed that and didn't mean to make you feel crap. I've had men message me on here (and Instagram and LinkedIn) so forgive my cynicism.

As posters have said, taking up hobbies, assuming there are a reasonable number of women involved, can be a good way to meet women in a more relaxed way. Also, an activity which involves giving back to the community could be fruitful: something like working at a food bank or a homeless breakfast shelter or similar.

Manosphere vibes.

She cat fished you? That is OLD for you.

I dint understand why people do this, you know as soon as they arrive they dont look like their pics. I would say at least ten years out of date for the last person I met.

Respectfully, perhaps you’re not the prize you think you are? Might the women also be leaving these first dates disappointed?

I never have said I was a prize, but I'll respectfully disagree with your comment. I've worked hard on myself, career and raised my daughter in trying times.

I'm just in the position, have the time and frame of mind to want to meet someone nice again.

Well that thread title is grammatically correct, so doesn't support your theory at all.

That’s because MN is full of double standards

Personal favourites are a poster being told to keep inheritance a secret from her husband. Another poster found out her husband had came in to some money, hadn’t told her, she was told to get a divorce

There’s also the one where a poster went on a hens do and gave a stripper a blow job. She was told not to tell her husband. If a man goes with 800 yds of a strip club you have to get a divorce according to MN

What you need to remember is that most women on MN have got failed marriages and hate men so I wouldn’t advise posting on here for advice

It uses the word 'female' and not the word 'women'

Well many men are annoying women by saying that, so perhaps they need to think on, and actually listen to what women are telling them for once.

at the risk of being the 94th person to say this:

mate, only incels and the Ferengi use "females" when they talk about women. Pack it in.

Im a lovely older woman. Every single man who has replied to me has been a scammer. I can spot them a mile off after a couple of chats. How people fall for this shit I dont know so Ive given up.

that’s not uncommon unfortunately, people ( men and women) , like to paint themselves in the most favourable light possible to impress a potential suitor and that could include lying about height, weight, age using younger / filtered photos , pretty much anything to get infront of you