Was I right to block him after another vague date plan, what am I doing wrong?

[Karlaken]

So I was talking to this one guy the end of last year, he begged me for a date the date came and he unexpectedly had a family emergency so I excused it. Things fell of from there, months later he comes back I entertain it cause I was bored my mistake. He organizes a date for this week asks me what I’m doing, if I’m free on certain days etc. This is him initiating to see me, I’m not asking him or even making an effort in our conversations. I agree he suggested a certain place and I declined and he said let’s do something else. So I agree to that.

So he said that he had a few spots he wanted to take me on. I ask him the name of the place he says “I don’t know the name I’m going to ask a friend”? Then he asks me if the certain time we agreed to still works I say yes. He still texting me as normal, I started to withdrawal cause I knew he was on some bull, you still haven’t given me the name of the spot?

Fast forward to the day of the “date” he sends me these texts

GOOD MORNINN
WAKE UP ITS A GOOD DAY FOR US
soo on this good day like this we gone have a good one…

So you’re texting me for what? There’s still no time, place, location, effort. He should have kept it playa and just said nothing today why even send a text.

Then he sends me a voice note at 3pm keep in mind our time was 7:30pm

“Work has been so busy today, so much stuff has happened. Did you still want to hang out later today, so and so is a good spot to go to”

BLOCKED.
That was it, I’m appalled I mean who do these men think I am? I try to give people the benefit of the doubt yet I feel like a laughing stock. I’m not sure what I’m dong wrong or what type of vibe I’m giving off to these weird men.

Yep. Once chance was plenty x

So you arranged to meet up at 7.30pm, and he contacted you at 3pm to confirm and you blocked him?

I don’t know, you sound like hard work tbh!
And giving him the benefit of the doubt the first time with the family emergency, neither of you seem compatible. No loss from either side.

Why did you block him?

He never confirmed a place? All he said was the time and he planned the time on Monday. The date was supposed to be for “Friday which was yesterday…. He was texting me like normal throughout the whole week and still never picked a place. I had to ask him the night of if he found a spot

I don’t understand. Was the ‘spot’ (who says that?) several hundred miles away in which case 4 hours notice was shit, or was it local in which case sounds ok?

Yea block him ,, move on

You said his voice note said ‘so and so is a good place to go’…. Surely that’s him confirming the venue?

Yea I’m not really seeing why you reacted like you did tbh

What was wrong with where he chose? You blocked him after he told you what you wanted to know.

Reckon he's had a lucky escape.

You don’t sound compatible, you have different ideas of how you need to plan things.

But I don’t think his messages today were a problem. You’d already agreed a time previously. He made it clear that he was still planning to see you, and messaged 4.5 hours before the date to organise a place. “Works been busy today” was presumably him explaining why he hadn’t made a definite plan about location before.

Edit: I originally said you were reasonable to look elsewhere for someone more organised, but actually, now I’m reading it back that sounds unfair on him. You say yourself that he was doing all the planning and you were barely responding to make him chase you. He suggested somewhere and you turned it down, but still expected him to sort out a place. He confirmed the time and date and you, and then did plan the location 4.5 hours before the date time.

your post isn't all that clear.

are you saying he wanted to confirm a date with you but hasn't told you where to meet him yet?

And it's not a "spot". It's a place.

You sound like hard work TBH.

He came up with a meeting place and you already had a time, so not sure why you blocked him?

You'd previously rejected a suggested meeting place, so maybe that's why he phrased it the way he did so if you didn't like the idea, you might suggest somewhere else?

Did you reply to any of his messages that day?

It doesn’t sound like you really wanted to get to know him anyway?

It’s on the person who asked for the date to arrange it and it’s not difficult! I think you’re just different people and that’s fine. I would also prefer to know where I’m going in advance but I would have just asked if it hadn’t been decided. I also would have said to him why I wanted to cancel the date because I do think it’s shitty to just block.. although it seems a popular method on here.

Tbh I can’t see what he has done wrong. You sound very anxious. You also sound like you made no effort. I would say your definitely not compatible

No time and place. No opportunity given to make travel plans for the venue, what to wear etc. Last thing you want is for a last minute plan in some unknown area which could be dangerous etc.

Yes, move on.

They’d agreed 7.30pm and he text ‘Did you still want to hang out later today, so and so is a good spot to go to” - assuming OP has just put so and so instead of outing the actual location there was indeed a time, and a place.

Why on earth would anywhere be dangerous? Where are you imagining OP might live?

What was this message if not confirming a place? Did he say an actual location not ‘so & so’?

‘Did you still want to hang out later today, so and so is a good spot to go to”

Blocking someone a few hours before a date when he has told you a time and a place is a bit shit. Cancel / call it off by all means if you don't feel he's made enough effort or picked a nice enough place but just to leave him hanging makes you seem rude and overly dramatic. I think he had a lucky escape.

Blocking is for when you've said no/ not interested and someone either still contacts you (or when you want to make sure you don't contact them). Using it to 'punish' someone is as immature as giving the silent treatment/ sulking.

Sorry op but tbh I think you have been a bit harsh.

He did originally suggest a place which you declined. Plus he was working most of Saturday. He did apologise too for being busy.

I would have given him a second chance.

You’ve been a bit harsh blocking him unless there’s a drip feed.

I don't get ehy you blocked him either. You both agreed that you were meeting up, you both kept tge evening free, he messaged you in the afternoon to check you could still make it - so what's the big deal? I'd assume we were meeting at 7.30 and would decide where we were going from there. It sounds like you're more of a planner and he's more of a go with the flow person - neither are wrong, just different - but if I liked him I'd give it a couple of dates before I decided whether to carry on or not.

You sound very odd OP.

The way he writes/talks would annoy the hell out of me. Is english his first language?