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Was I right to block him after another vague date plan, what am I doing wrong?

116 replies

Karlaken · 25/04/2026 16:15

So I was talking to this one guy the end of last year, he begged me for a date the date came and he unexpectedly had a family emergency so I excused it. Things fell of from there, months later he comes back I entertain it cause I was bored my mistake. He organizes a date for this week asks me what I’m doing, if I’m free on certain days etc. This is him initiating to see me, I’m not asking him or even making an effort in our conversations. I agree he suggested a certain place and I declined and he said let’s do something else. So I agree to that.

So he said that he had a few spots he wanted to take me on. I ask him the name of the place he says “I don’t know the name I’m going to ask a friend”? Then he asks me if the certain time we agreed to still works I say yes. He still texting me as normal, I started to withdrawal cause I knew he was on some bull, you still haven’t given me the name of the spot?

Fast forward to the day of the “date” he sends me these texts

GOOD MORNINN
WAKE UP ITS A GOOD DAY FOR US
soo on this good day like this we gone have a good one…

So you’re texting me for what? There’s still no time, place, location, effort. He should have kept it playa and just said nothing today why even send a text.

Then he sends me a voice note at 3pm keep in mind our time was 7:30pm

“Work has been so busy today, so much stuff has happened. Did you still want to hang out later today, so and so is a good spot to go to”

BLOCKED.
That was it, I’m appalled I mean who do these men think I am? I try to give people the benefit of the doubt yet I feel like a laughing stock. I’m not sure what I’m dong wrong or what type of vibe I’m giving off to these weird men.

OP posts:
swingingbytheseat · 29/04/2026 23:14

Why couldn’t you suggest a place?
i don’t really get this behaviour but I’m gay

Karlaken · 05/05/2026 04:44

Y’all this has really messed with my self esteem especially since I posted it on another forum and they said the reason this happened was because I catfished him

OP posts:
Flyingintotheunknown · 05/05/2026 05:17

Karlaken · 05/05/2026 04:44

Y’all this has really messed with my self esteem especially since I posted it on another forum and they said the reason this happened was because I catfished him

Did you use filters on your dating profile pictures? How old were the pictures?

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 05/05/2026 06:40

It will only mess with you if you let it. You thought the guy might be a flake, he was! End of story.

Just write him off and start again. It’s hard, right? But he wasn’t worth having.

JulietteHasAGun · 05/05/2026 06:52

Karlaken · 05/05/2026 04:44

Y’all this has really messed with my self esteem especially since I posted it on another forum and they said the reason this happened was because I catfished him

Edited as seen the update. He sounds a twit anyway. Think you’ve dodged a bullet

JulietteHasAGun · 05/05/2026 06:53

Id have blocked him Ages ago when it took him months to arrange something

IdaGlossop · 05/05/2026 13:50

Really, OP, how many times do you need to read the same opinion? Or are you looking for a different one?

Seajaye · 24/09/2026 07:55

It sounds like there was no planned venue for your first , he was just hoping you would ask him to come over to hang out at yours for an evening. Chancery.

I know textspeak is casual, and shortened sentences are the norm, but I must admit the erratic messages would irritate the hell out of me, unless English is not his first language., so might be excused.

Although why anyone seeking to arrange a date can't string a message together that communicates 'let's meet at X ( meeting place) at (time) on Y(date)' for Z ( coffee, drinks, meal, etc) is difficult to fathom.

I can see by you update you did meet him eventually and he still messed you around.

Just forget him. He was just a waste of you time. Don't waste more time trying to justify or rationalise his reasons for bailing out as it achieved nothing.

CleverlyBeery · 24/09/2026 08:02

Seajaye · 24/09/2026 07:55

It sounds like there was no planned venue for your first , he was just hoping you would ask him to come over to hang out at yours for an evening. Chancery.

I know textspeak is casual, and shortened sentences are the norm, but I must admit the erratic messages would irritate the hell out of me, unless English is not his first language., so might be excused.

Although why anyone seeking to arrange a date can't string a message together that communicates 'let's meet at X ( meeting place) at (time) on Y(date)' for Z ( coffee, drinks, meal, etc) is difficult to fathom.

I can see by you update you did meet him eventually and he still messed you around.

Just forget him. He was just a waste of you time. Don't waste more time trying to justify or rationalise his reasons for bailing out as it achieved nothing.

Edited

This was over 4 months ago

Sunbringer · 24/09/2026 08:04

Idk it sounds like you’d decided you didn’t like him before the date so I don’t know why you bothered.

TheThirteenthFairy · 24/09/2026 09:25

'Did you still want to hang out today?' is a strange thing to say when you've already arranged the day and the time; Sounds like, to him, the date had only been pencilled in, when you were thinking in ink.

Retro12 · 24/09/2026 13:39

coolwind · 25/04/2026 16:50

your post isn't all that clear.

are you saying he wanted to confirm a date with you but hasn't told you where to meet him yet?

And it's not a "spot". It's a place.

I think she may be American, this is an American term for place.

duckfordinner · 24/09/2026 13:43

He is a time waster. Next!

CleanShirt · 24/09/2026 13:45

ZOMBIE

TFImBackIn · 24/09/2026 14:01

Him running to the bathroom made me think of coke.

CleverlyBeery · 24/09/2026 14:04

CleanShirt · 24/09/2026 13:45

ZOMBIE

Oi Cleanshirt... how'd you get that shirt so clean?

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