The Dating Thread 57 - The Darling Buds

[Nosdacariad]

The Rules:
-The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating
-Develop a thick skin
-Do not invest emotionally too soon
-It’s all BS until it actually happens
-Trust your gut instinct
-People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
-Know your worth
-If it's not fun, stop
-Loo update is mandatory
-No dating the thread
-Treat others as you'd like to be treated
-Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
-The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

• If you're wondering if you're being too picky/should give another chance after the second chance/should try harder - the answer is invariably NO! You're not and you shouldn't. If this, now, is as good as it's going to get, the A game, then do you want what comes next?!

-OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item*

My advice is probably the worst you could possibly follow - in fact you should probably do the opposite of what I suggest - but I think you should be careful here, in terms of allowing yourself to develop any nascent feelings/expectations, if he keeps failing to commit to a date. In my experience, a surprising number of guys on the apps are happy to just keep chatting and infinitum, and don't actually want to meet at all. And you deserve better than having your time wasted like that!

Agree. I have prompted. Will give it a few days to a week and then I only have a small window so will have to pin down or bin.

@duckingclueless I agree with @Ilovelurchers . Have just been in the same situation with Mr Hot and Beige - who sent interminable messages (pure platitudes, nothing of any interest whatsoever) and didn't seem to have much going on in his life apart from a vague project but was absolutely too busy to meet. In the end I just gave up. I think your strategy is good - try to pin Mr Holiday Homes down with your own deadline - then if he's evasive just stop that nonsense. Why are they on the apps if they don't have any intention to meet?!

Hi everyone, a newby both here and to OLD. Early 50s, started chatting on Bumble. Two chats going. Mr Spanish, and Mr French. Mr French considerably older but a lot of things we align on and tbh, I am more interested in him than Mr Spanish. However, he’s so slow with responding, we’re chatting on WhatsApp and he didn’t even open my last message from yesterday eve. I know he’s on holiday with friends but seriously, how long does it take to click to open? Don’t want to get into the tick for tack and not respond for a day after he responded. Tempted to just say that he doesn’t seem that interested so thanks and good luck?
mr Spanish a bit better but also slow.

Welcome @DreamyPlumUser we are here now, come on over https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/5548886-the-dating-thread-60-summer-fling?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=share

Thank you! Will pack my things and be over in a tick!