Where are all the nice 50-something, single males?

[MysticalChipmunk]

Are they hiding? I can’t find one. OLD is dire and not for me. What can I do?

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Most of them haven’t even got any money. I keep trying to make sure that my daughters are very well-versed on this, that a man who is 50 earning 100 grand a year has well and truly’s peaked. The only way is down.
And I’m not just talking about his earning potential
Not to mention their faulty sperm that deteriorates at the same rate as our eggs only nature at least does us the good gesture of stopping them.

A 30-year-old earning 70 grand a year is nowhere near his peak and has potential to hit 150 maybe even 200
And then there’s the 50-year-olds earning less than 50 K which might seem like a lot of money when you’re 25 but it won’t even buy you a three bedroomed semi detached around here

That’s my ex-husband all over the only reason why he’s been able to buy a house with wife number three is that he’s rinsed his mother. The poor woman is basically living in a shed at the back of their house.
Apparently, when he announced his engagement he hide the first wife, my daughter chuckled and told her she was number three. She’s not special 😂

Married or gay, otherwise in very short supply if you want one that isn’t overweight, sexist, socially awkward, racist, selfish in bed and / or insolvent

Thanks; didn't know about this.

Men in their 50s are not necessarily always looking for a woman under 30/in her 20s, but they sure as hell ain't looking for a woman in her 50s! As has been said, the only men looking for a woman in her 50s will be 65-70.

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My brother is 53 he can have his pick from his age group as well as from early 30s - as is tall, affluent , fit and good looking.
He is able to attract hot/attractive women from minimum wages jobs up to peers in his industry.
His stipulations are he will not date anyone overweight or with kids. He is open in his dating profile he has had a vasectomy after having own kids and still manages to attract loads of attractive young women.
Baffles me.

I work in a male dominated profession and know loads of single solvent pleasant 50 year old men.

You know the shy lad at university who was really nice but was always overlooked for his total bastard mate? This is them if they don’t happen to trip over a girl who spots their potential.

They are generally nice blokes who have never or rarely had a serious girlfriend and are never going to go on dating apps. They have accepted that they will never meet anyone and have built up a full life with hobbies and interests (that are usually also male dominated or they would have been quickly snapped up).

Their snags are:-

1. It would never occur to them to ask you out - you will have to do all the running
2. They would struggle to know what to do with you if you did manage to get them to go on a date with you
3. They are more likely to offer you a “cup of tea and a scone” than “throw you on a bed and shag you senseless”.

I do think that many of them would make a good husband though.

is a the answer for women in their 50s
to date younger men? That seems quite appealing to me.

So true, it’s demoralising 😩

I did try that in my forties to be fair but then you inevitably do get traded in for the younger model if they haven’t got kids already
So you’ve got to be prepared for that
But once menopause kicks in and I realise this won’t be the case for everybody
You don’t want to shag anyone

Sorry, I’m on a right roll now but
If you even chat with anybody between 35 and 40, they seem to be under some strange illusion that older women are going to do some demonic tricks in bed with them and teach them things they’ve never done before.
Which given the amount of porn that they’ve usually subjected themselves to would be quite a feat.
One of my friends dated and then slept with a 38-year-old and he literally just wanted to beat the shit out of her under the disguise of having sex
She’s got three children. She can’t afford to be choked to death.

Bloody hell! I am keeping hold of my good one! Might just lock him in the house to be on the safe side!

Seriously, that is appalling and if she didn't agree to it, he assaulted her.

Would you consider moving to Yorkshire? 🤣

And have you also told your daughters that men have attributes beyond their ability to earn money and that those attributes may make them better partners?

Have you taught them to be aspirational in their careers so that they are reliant on their own talents?

Obviously
I don’t want them to be fooled by a dirty old man flashing a relatively small amount of cash around that was the point.

I would recommend that - it's a good idea !

There are some 50+ men about, who want a steady mature woman with a bit of life experience and who "have their heads screwed on the right way".🙂

Nonsense !

Some of my 50+ friends are with "younger" men. However, this means up to 5 years younger, not "toy boys"

Also in Northants... 49yr old (50 next week!) Female... I've given up on the apps as all the men I've met up with have used photos that are years out of date!

Here’s an idea…

If there are any 50-something, single, nice men out there then please join this thread and say hello 😊😌

Get a part time bar job at your local golf club.

I have a full time career in the NHS - that’s more than enough.

Yeah that’s a bit depressing - I’ve never understood why folks do that or put massively filtered photos up of themselves

I mean, you’re going to be found out the minute you meet up. Strange behaviour!

So what’s your plan now that you’ve given up on OLD? Other tactics or just thrown in the towel?

I could try my hand at golf ⛳️ though 😝

In respect of OLD I quote Joan Rivers "The odds are good, but the goods are odd".