Where are all the nice 50-something, single males?

[MysticalChipmunk]

Are they hiding? I can’t find one. OLD is dire and not for me. What can I do?

A decent one is a rare find and in high demand, OLD seems to be a go to for the undesirable among them too.

Not sure what to suggest other than the usual get yourself out there, hobby groups, walking groups, a ladies group that you can go on nights out with and possibly bump into someone.

I won't be doing OLD ever again, I'll wait to meet someone in the wild or stay single

Eta, pressed post too quick

They get married (or married again) fast.

Trying to get into the knickers of 25-year-olds if our local pub is anything to go by

With their boyfriends

Funny but true!

Anyone normal is snapped up if they even make it too OLD. All the dregs go round and round OLD taking advantage of newbys.

So grim

I feel your pain. Know plenty of funny, smart independent and attractive females in their fifties but not any single men who meet that criteria.

Found OLD such a let down and just accepted I’ll likely be single long term.

Wish I were attracted to women!

Oh dear. I guess I’m stuck by myself forever…

There are lots of nice 48/49 years olds with kids who don’t want more on hinge (I match them discover this then don’t meet up with them as I do, but they seem normal and fun!)

Is the correct answer.

Any nice, affluent, fit 50+ man who believes he has a genuine chance with women under 30 will be pursuing them. Not their mums.

Try smaller music festivals this summer

@frozendaisy I was about to say this, met my 50 something partner at a music festival.

If you mean the nice and physically well maintained/presented one's, they're all dating women in their 30s.

Ain't that the truth. Men have always considered themselves worthy of a younger model and now it's come to fruition. The world is their oyster.

I wouldn't bother. They're few and far between, and largely trying to shag women half their age.

The nice ones are keepers. Staying married.

I met my DP via mutual friends at the age of 48. We’d separated from our spouses at around the same time, had lots in common, and just hit it off.

I know a handful of nice single 50yo men. They’re not trying to bed 25yo women. They genuinely want something meaningful. They say that OLD isn’t for them.

One in particular is amazing but he was with his ex since the age of fifteen and is worried about “dating” because he’s never really done it, so he’s shied away from trying to meet someone. Another one is going on a date with a divorced woman he knew from school later this week - they have been chatting about old times on Facebook messenger over the last week or so.

A few couples my age (53) met on blind dates in recent years.

I’ve just remembered that my 59 year old ex colleague (widowed by Covid) met someone around his age at a Christmas party a few months ago.

I think that it’s best to get out and about and also to let friends know you’re amenable to being set up on a blind date.

Oh dear. Well, I still look 25…does that count?

If a man has got to 50 without marrying, it's because he doesn't want to marry or women don't want to marry him. Hence, any man in his fifties will be one of:

• Married or partnered.
• Gay.
• Not actually nice at all, with "dating women young enough to be his daughter" being an example of "not nice".
• Intentionally celibate.
• Grieving his late wife.
• Single for all of thirty seconds before being snapped up by someone he meets through a mutual friend.

In terms of numbers, not-nice men dwarf the other categories of single men.

I briefly dated a man 21 years older than me when I was in my early 30s. I’m now 36, but he was the most messed up man I have ever met 😂 But he hid that extremely well. Although we didn’t meet online, dating apps are full of his type.

@MysticalChipmunk love the attitude!
@HouseHouseHouse7 mentioned to my friends I'd be amenable for a blind date but they said their single friends were single for a reason. If you're near me....

I’d like to know this too I’m 53 and single, met about 7 men on dating apps and all no good. Red flags, lie about what they want or fail to tell you they are living with an ex etc

I know it’s possible to meet someone at my age (just turned 54) but it’s finding the right opportunity! I know someone older than me who met a nice man via a friend - now married and living a lovely life in the countryside. I think he worked in London and she was just south of Birmingham (I’m nowhere near Birmingham btw). She told me she pinches herself as she knows how lucky she is.

I think the apps are awful. Same men on them too!