Where are all the nice 50-something, single males?

[MysticalChipmunk]

Are they hiding? I can’t find one. OLD is dire and not for me. What can I do?

Absolutely.

My kids are 27 and 29 and my dating range is ten years either way from my age [52] - I couldn’t think of anything worse than dating someone half my age 😱

Likely will come in for some flak but such generalisations simply serve to increase the divide … and often come from folks assuming their own experience fits all. It doesn’t.

This 💯.
Any man worth dating is not chasing around after 25/30 year olds when his 50 years of age .

Erm … so by that generalisation you’ve concluded that I’m not decent enough to be in a relationship?

Over 50s, decent AND single males?
😂😁😂
Inspired by another thread, they are probably on the same planet where "Ramsay Bolton" is
a sweet, considerate and nice guy.

A lot of the men my age (56) are dating women in their 30s. A man I went to school with is dating an ex pupil of mine (57/32) it's weird.

They’re already married.

@PartQualifiedAccaand I’ve dated 2 that fucked it up for a third time too. Lots of men bad mouthing exes, still living with mummy, don’t drive or work etc. I can’t date someone with less than me

I think you need to go to where you would expect them to be and also in places where you want to be. Go to Golf Ranges, Health spa membership places, Posh Cafes etc if you want someone sporty . Chess Places or Libraries for someone intellectual, etc.

Yes, weird indeed. I wonder what the younger women see in them 💴 💵 💵

I’m hoping not all of them are!

Unfortunately most men in their 50s are looking for women between 26 and 37.

The 'nice' ones are married. Women generally keep hold of the good ones.

Good luck @MysticalChipmunk !

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Try dating the short ones. They get a lot of heightism from women who won’t consider giving them a chance, so they might be single for height reasons only.

Luckily I met mine in my 40’s but if I was single now in my late 50’s, I’d just settle for a life without a partner as I know from friends how hard it is. I don’t agree though that 50+ men are always looking for women under 30. My dh would never want to date someone his dd’s age were he single.

I would plan to stay single, OP. Unless you get very lucky and manage to find a decent, single man in his 50s

This ^.

and they are often at church, working for charities, in hobby/interest groups, dog walking groups, choirs, (church or secular), music groups (various instruments) and night school classes.

50+ friends of mine met their partners/husbands at Morris Dancing, in the Council Offices (going in to sort out her Community Charge Bill), in Tescos, church choir, brass band, youth groups, U3A (University of the Third Age), beach cleaning patrol and political party helpers group.

The really fantastic ones will not be single I'd imagine.

There must be some decent ones but I think because they are so slim on the ground (attractive men with good career and personality, into monogamy, no messy background or red flags).

This leads them to arrogantly possibly be more keen to date younger women. Maybe not decades but at least a few years.

I know a woman who is also looking, has been for awhile, and she always says that all the good men in their 50s are either married or dating 30 year old women so very similar to what PP’s have said.

From listening to friends experiences of dating though this seems to be a theme for men from about 35+, the good ones are already married or have been married/in relationships and are now looking at women younger rather than the same age.

My present husband was in the TAs and spent all his spare time yomping with his regiment over the Derbyshire Dales. Hence he wasn't available until he was too old to do it any more !
After he came out he joined the church choir which was where I met him.

You missed out "Massively avoidant and incapable of sustaining a relationship for longer than about a fortnight before ghosting you," and "Only interested in weird sexual fetishes". (Although you have have covered those with your third point.)

There aren’t any!

I stopped OLD years ago - happily single with cat 🤣!

Are single men making the same complaints about a shortage of decent women in their 50s?
And if not why is there a disparity?

What is a "Chess Place"?

Because they're dating younger women.

I'm nearly 50, men my age are either married, bitter or look like me dad. I only date under 40s now and I am only wanting casual fun so it works well for me. Many young blokes love an old bird.

If I has to guess it’s because single men in their 50s are not looking for women in their 50s- they are looking for women in their 30s/40s.