Where are all the nice 50-something, single males?

[MysticalChipmunk]

Are they hiding? I can’t find one. OLD is dire and not for me. What can I do?

Women have spent the last 30 years telling men that they don’t want nice men. I’m very interested what your idea of “physically well maintained and presented” is ?

There are also a lot of men in their 50’s and 60’s who don’t want anyone and certainly not a serious relationship.

I think many men are more interested in variety after often decades in a stale marriage. They are also pretty much financially secure by that age and don’t want to put that at risk.

it’s a hard age for dating !

Go get it and let me know what you think!

Men and women who are financially secure and don't want to put that at risk, but I think the OP is talking about several steps before marriage.

I’m 51 partner is 52, my dog introduced us.

Sounds like 101 dalmatians.

Now that sounds like the scene from 101 Dalmatians 🐾

Snap!

Generally nice? A bit of reflection might be worthwhile here. You sound very judgemental.

A “disgusting overgrown garden” would be a wildlife haven.

Beauty is subjective.

Maybe I should get a spotty dog 🐾

Ouch! Where did you go?

I think getting a dog is a really good move. Also as others have said park run.

How do you mean low bar
that’s pretty much what men expect from women in their 50s,
house - job own hair and teeth
does that mean the bar for women is set pretty fucking low ?

A few of DH’s friends are late 40s to mid 50s and either are or were single. One is a lecherous creep who is only interested in women age 40 max and far better looking than he is. The second is a commitment phobic who left his wife several times when their kids were little to ‘explore new pastures’ before heading back for home comforts and a housekeeper. He then left for good and within months got another woman pregnant and now rarely sees his existing kids. Waiting on the birth and wondering whether he will stick it out this time, probably not. The third is very angry about his divorce and now ‘on guard’ for women that are apparently all just out to fleece him.

I wouldn’t want any of them!

Susan Boyle has her own hair, teeth and house, would you date her?

Chris Eubank has his own house(s) , teeth would you date him?
would you date Wayne Rooney if he was single ? ( he’s got someone else’s hair TBH )

I'm sorry to confess I want more than that. 😱

Not my experience.

I'm mid 50s, when I was dating I was matching with men from 30 to 55. I had loads of fun dates with younger men.

I then had 3 short relationships with guys my exact age, they were nice guys but not exactly right for me. Met my current lovely partner on Tinder. He's a month younger than me. We've been together for 18 months now and I love him more every day.

I’m just shocked the resident forum misogynistic mansplainer hasn’t been on this thread lecturing women for having any standards in a potential partner other than being male and breathing.

Would you marry Wayne Rooney ? , he has more than that.

Mate, seriously?!

You would take just any woman fulfilling those criteria, regardless of whether

You're attracted to her?
You share the same values?
You're an intellectual match?
You have interests in common?
She takes responsibility for herself and her own actions and feelings, having worked on any past issues?
She looks after herself and has good personal hygiene?
You find her interesting?
She is supportive of you?

Etc etc etc

....Really?

Don't be sorry!

They are generally looking for 30 year olds as are the terrible 50 year old men. Because, men

Oh, his friends are here 🙄

@LittleJustice This is my experience, found being on the apps stressful but there wasn't a shortage of men, including quite nice looking, younger and interesting ones. I dated about six or seven over a couple of years.

@OverFiftyWearyWidow I'm also a widow, if you read my posts here, it has some advice on dating over 50. I wouldn't be put off too much by some of these posts. I recommend Burned Haystacks dating method (on FB) for sure, as a lot of red flags can be spotted prior to meeting and then you don't need to waste your time. I hope you do manage to venture out!