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Should I mention my height before meeting someone from a dating app? [Male/30s]

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Whitsta90 · 02/04/2026 22:42

I have been talking online to a few months to a woman on a dating app, its a non conventional/niche dating app where you don't need to specify your height. We seem to be getting on very well, and have a few things in common, however she bought up in conversation that she is very small in height, 5'1, "im tiny" in her words. This is no problem for me, I quite like it in fact, however, I'm 5'7, she hasn't asked my height so far [Conversation wasn't about height]. This is something that I wouldn't have thought much of a few years ago, however I recently came across a few threads on here relating to height preferences which seems quite a popular topic here, and it seems from seeing comments that a huge number of very short height women are not attracted to shorter height men, even if they are still several inches taller than them [as in my case], and very openly state this and how they love there partners/husbands huge height differences.

I'm not stupid and know that there are women who don't have issues with height, but looking here it seems these are far more often average to taller height women, and in the majority of cases women who are the height of who I have been chatting with are very adamant about only dating men who are 6''+. I just wondered whether its a good idea to tell her my height, as I don't want to reach the point of meeting for a date and her being disappointed when she sees my height, as I have heard of happening numerous times, which would be a big shame as we have been getting on very well online so far. Also, are there any women in this height range who have no issues with dating men of shorter height, or have partners/husbands who aren't tall? This might make me feel a bit more confident about the situation if so

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Blueshoey484 · 04/04/2026 20:34

Tigerbalmshark · 04/04/2026 20:21

One ex was 6’6. I am 5ft and 0.5 inches. So 17.5 inch height difference.

Other posters have also said they felt “like a toddler out with their dad”. Fine if you didn’t, but it isn’t just me.

So why did you date them then if they felt like your dad and the sex was difficult?

For context. I don't have a dad. He walked out on me when I was three so I don't associate anyone I am dating or sleeping with with my dad. Hth

I don't care what other posters on here think either

Needspaceforlego · 04/04/2026 20:43

Op have you put any more thought into actually meeting the lady?

Whitsta90 · 04/04/2026 21:27

Missj25 · 04/04/2026 15:35

No that’s not me , that was “ DoesThisLookGoodOnMe “. All I picked up from her post was her being rude being honest 🤷🏻‍♀️.
That’s why I got confused when you said you had a light bulb moment & you see now what she means , as though she said something joking .

Apologies @Missj25 and @DoesthislookgoodOnMe , quoted back to the wrong poster. I thought that you were being rude initially and then realised I had misinterpreted what you meant

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Whitsta90 · 04/04/2026 21:34

Just as an update, I had a chat with her today and discreetly dropped into the conversation how tall I was, she didn't even acknowledge it and just continued with the conversation, so I am thinking thats a positive sign. Was talking about our family members and I mentioned how strange it is that me or neither of my parents are tall, and yet my sister is tall for a woman, I stated my height and she didn't follow it up with anything

Regarding meeting, after so many posts saying the same thing, I brought it up, and we will try and arrange something at some point soon, although it involves one of us travelling around 600 miles depending whether she comes down to me or I travel up to see her...

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Spindly · 04/04/2026 22:30

Blueshoey484 · 04/04/2026 20:34

So why did you date them then if they felt like your dad and the sex was difficult?

For context. I don't have a dad. He walked out on me when I was three so I don't associate anyone I am dating or sleeping with with my dad. Hth

I don't care what other posters on here think either

You’re taking that comment way too personally

Im a woman with a shorter man (4.5 inches under) and I don’t feel like his mum either but meh, some people don’t like big height gaps

MeridaBrave · 04/04/2026 22:35

She hasn’t asked, so no need to mention! But why not meet up in person? I’m 5 4 and my husband is only around an inch taller. Don’t give it another thought.

Pryceosh1987 · 04/04/2026 23:30

You should mention your height before going out with someone new.

Needspaceforlego · 05/04/2026 11:53

Whitsta90 · 04/04/2026 21:34

Just as an update, I had a chat with her today and discreetly dropped into the conversation how tall I was, she didn't even acknowledge it and just continued with the conversation, so I am thinking thats a positive sign. Was talking about our family members and I mentioned how strange it is that me or neither of my parents are tall, and yet my sister is tall for a woman, I stated my height and she didn't follow it up with anything

Regarding meeting, after so many posts saying the same thing, I brought it up, and we will try and arrange something at some point soon, although it involves one of us travelling around 600 miles depending whether she comes down to me or I travel up to see her...

Meet in the middle. Find somewhere with something to do.
For a first meet I'd maybe consider individual rooms - avoid pressure and place to escape if you decide its not for you.

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