Should I mention my height before meeting someone from a dating app? [Male/30s]

[Whitsta90]

I have been talking online to a few months to a woman on a dating app, its a non conventional/niche dating app where you don't need to specify your height. We seem to be getting on very well, and have a few things in common, however she bought up in conversation that she is very small in height, 5'1, "im tiny" in her words. This is no problem for me, I quite like it in fact, however, I'm 5'7, she hasn't asked my height so far [Conversation wasn't about height]. This is something that I wouldn't have thought much of a few years ago, however I recently came across a few threads on here relating to height preferences which seems quite a popular topic here, and it seems from seeing comments that a huge number of very short height women are not attracted to shorter height men, even if they are still several inches taller than them [as in my case], and very openly state this and how they love there partners/husbands huge height differences.

I'm not stupid and know that there are women who don't have issues with height, but looking here it seems these are far more often average to taller height women, and in the majority of cases women who are the height of who I have been chatting with are very adamant about only dating men who are 6''+. I just wondered whether its a good idea to tell her my height, as I don't want to reach the point of meeting for a date and her being disappointed when she sees my height, as I have heard of happening numerous times, which would be a big shame as we have been getting on very well online so far. Also, are there any women in this height range who have no issues with dating men of shorter height, or have partners/husbands who aren't tall? This might make me feel a bit more confident about the situation if so

A 5’10 threshold seems quite strict. I’m a woman of 5’11/6 (182cm) and the majority of men are not taller than me.

All these so-called 6ft men are rounding up and shorter women without a frame of reference are none the wiser.

Im 5’3” - my first husband was 5’6” and my second husband was 6’2”. My current partner is 5’7 ”.

I don’t and didn’t care about height - it’s all about the person. 🤷‍♀️

You’re both perfectly normal heights, stop overthinking.

I'm 5.9 my hubby 5.7 never bothered me

I'm 5 ft 1 too and I would only want someone around your height, no taller.

I'm 5'10" and not bothered, I have been out with shorter men, average mens height is about the same as me or a bit shorter so if I was too fussed I wouldn't have had much choice. DH is same height as me

You definitely need to make some effort to actually meet.
If it was me I'd look for somewhere mid way and arrange an overnight. Somewhere with stuff to do.
You'll know very quickly if its a relationship you both wish to pursue.

I'm 5'6. I prefer men around my height, a couple of inches either way. I've never wanted to feel like the 'fragile little girlie' around a man, I like to be able to look him in the eye.

Im 5'1 and have dated between 5'4 and 6'3. It really doesnt matter to me and Its personality im most attracted to. Maybe she will be like that? Would perhaps be worth bringing up in conversation just to get it out in the open i.e. "maybe our first date should be mini golf since youre 5'1 and im 5'7, hahaha" - keep it humorous whilst dropping it in. Good luck!

When I fell in love with someone who was six foot three it had nothing to do with being a "fragile little girlie". I personally wouldn't care if someone was my height (five one) or more than a foot taller

Fine, that's you. I, on the other hand, don't want to be made to feel like a 'fragile little girlie' by being towered over by a man.

I am allowed my view, as you are allowed yours.

Why does dating someone tall make me fragile?

I am 5ft 1 married to a man of 5ft 7. I have to say I much prefer my husband to the taller men I dated before him.

It's part of the incel narrative.
Od suggest checking your son Internet history

Are you tall by any chance? I can fully understand taller women not wanting to date someone shorter, I'm just always a bit suprised when very short height women are very rigid about only wanting much taller than average men hence my concern regarding the woman I'm currently talking with, that's not to say there is anything wrong with having that preference! Some people say height is relative and if your average height your still tall to very short women, but that clearly isn't the case with a lot of shorter women

I’ve never asked for a man’s height before meeting and honestly couldn’t give a shit. I’ve dated men varying from 5 ft 6 to 6 ft 3. I’m 5 ft 7 for context. Wouldn’t think to ask, it isn’t remotely important to me! Since she’s super short, I doubt she cares that you’re relatively short for a man.

In terms of height, or lack thereof, you sound perfectly matched. I would mention it.

5ft 7 isn’t really tall @Whitsta90
I am under 5ft and my partner is 6ft 1.
i love it as he’s a big, strong man and he is useful at getting things I cannot reach out if the cupboards.

It generally seems accepted that women filter out any men under 6ft on dating apps, even though they wouldn't in real life. I think OLD is now used to find that "unicorn" which doesn't exist.

Right... And the reason for you telling me that?

The only women who would probably feel awkward about this are those taller than you and you know she’s half a foot shorter

I also think if she felt really strongly about a man’s height she’d have asked

however you are being ridiculous talking to someone for months and not meeting up there are lots of reasons why things won’t work once you meet besides height so you’re potentially wasting your life in the mean time

Oh, just realised, unless this is a joke and my neurodivergence has kicked in and made me take something literally hehe

Its not very easy to meet up at the moment, as we both live at opposite ends of the country

Sorry, above quote was meant in response @Unexpectedlysinglemum