Should I mention my height before meeting someone from a dating app? [Male/30s]

[Whitsta90]

I have been talking online to a few months to a woman on a dating app, its a non conventional/niche dating app where you don't need to specify your height. We seem to be getting on very well, and have a few things in common, however she bought up in conversation that she is very small in height, 5'1, "im tiny" in her words. This is no problem for me, I quite like it in fact, however, I'm 5'7, she hasn't asked my height so far [Conversation wasn't about height]. This is something that I wouldn't have thought much of a few years ago, however I recently came across a few threads on here relating to height preferences which seems quite a popular topic here, and it seems from seeing comments that a huge number of very short height women are not attracted to shorter height men, even if they are still several inches taller than them [as in my case], and very openly state this and how they love there partners/husbands huge height differences.

I'm not stupid and know that there are women who don't have issues with height, but looking here it seems these are far more often average to taller height women, and in the majority of cases women who are the height of who I have been chatting with are very adamant about only dating men who are 6''+. I just wondered whether its a good idea to tell her my height, as I don't want to reach the point of meeting for a date and her being disappointed when she sees my height, as I have heard of happening numerous times, which would be a big shame as we have been getting on very well online so far. Also, are there any women in this height range who have no issues with dating men of shorter height, or have partners/husbands who aren't tall? This might make me feel a bit more confident about the situation if so

Because I don’t think your height will or should matter. Not sure if I’ve said something to offend you, that wasn’t the purpose of my response.

And @Whitsta90 your height is an “average” male height. Plus if you’ve hit it off long distance you’ve got to know each other. There is more to love that the physicality of the other person.

Don’t think she was joking OP .
I like you see zero reason why she would say that to you 🙄

I would prefer to know. Wouldnt date a shorter guy. Prefer them to be taller than me

I Wouldn’t bother mentioning if she hasn’t, it’s really not below average so not a huge deal surely? If you were 5ft maybe but you are overthinking!

I’m 5:1 and my other half is 5:7.
I have dated taller (my kids dad is 5:11? But I’m more attracted to my other half’s build, so not all short woman like tall men.

my kids are different heights (5:11 and 5:7) and i tell the shorter one, any woman who won’t date you for your height is the chaff sorting itself from the wheat.

he is clever and kind and loving and loyal, and anybody who values a feature, he can’t control, over them traits doesn’t deserve him - he agrees.

if you’re anxious then raise it, but only to save you investing your time if it’s a dealbreaker.

Most women would be fine with 6 inches.

I'm 5ft1 and guys who are 5ft8 +/- a bit are perfect. Very tall men make me feel like a toddler out with dad.

Yes, sorry, like I said I took it as literal and then there was a lightbulb moment and I realised what you meant, no offence taken

I'm guessing this means if you were her, my height would be an issue, so I should mention it.
I have had different answers, some saying I should, some saying shouldn't, but I think in my next conversation [haven't spoken to her today, but likely will tommorow], I will drop it in, but not too blatantly

I haven’t had a light bulb moment , I’m confused !

Totally agree, spending months chatting to someone at the other end of the country is pointless.

I did OLD after a couple of weeks of chats it was meet have coffee.
I had a couple that I just didn't hit it off with. They were nice enough but not for me...

I get its more difficult when you need to consider travel and an emergency exit plan - chatting for months they are still a stranger.

They're are a couple of bank holiday weekends in May those would be a good opportunity to meet.

I mean it suddenly occurred to me what you meant

You are taller than she is and for most women that’s all that matters.

No that’s not me , that was “ DoesThisLookGoodOnMe “. All I picked up from her post was her being rude being honest 🤷🏻‍♀️.
That’s why I got confused when you said you had a light bulb moment & you see now what she means , as though she said something joking .

I wasn’t being rude! I am short - I would not have a problem going out with a man that was 5ft 7. I was sharing perspective that it isn’t classed as overly tall for a man. You didn’t pick up on anything! I wouldn’t reply to someone that wanted advice with rudeness which is why I clarified I didn’t mean to cause any offence! @Whitsta90 acknowledged this, so please move on.

Apologies pp .
I clearly didn’t see all the posts .

I’m 5’2 and DH is 5’8. I have dated tall men (6’4 etc) and it felt like holding hands with your dad, the height discrepancy was too much. Also makes some sexual positions difficult.

About 6-8 inch height difference is perfect - I can rest my head on his chest not his stomach, holding hands feel normal, I can put my arms around his neck and we can kiss without him crouching down, and when we stand on an escalator together we are the same height.

Absurd. Dating someone much taller than you doesn't make them your dad or make sex difficult - in any way

Have you ever dated somebody 18 inches taller than you? I have, and it does indeed make a difference.

Agree with this! I think really this post is trivial. The op hasn’t met this woman yet, she lives far away and they’ve been chatting for months. I would advise they meet up asap to see if they are compatible in more ways than height! The height issue should be minimum.

I dated someone who was six foot three when I was five foot one - was your ex six foot 7? Because that's 18 inches taller than you

It's purely coincidence that my husband is 6ft. I am 5' 2 and it would only be an issue if a guy was shortervtha md so your height would be no problem for me at all. Unless she specifically asks your height I see no reason to mention it. Don't make a big deal of it and neither should she.

One ex was 6’6. I am 5ft and 0.5 inches. So 17.5 inch height difference.

Other posters have also said they felt “like a toddler out with their dad”. Fine if you didn’t, but it isn’t just me.

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