We all know that one person that always orders the most expensive thing when someone else is paying, but… extreme content 😂

[AliceR1]

What is it with men and being totally reckless with money? Guy and I, known each for about 5 years, went exclusive about six months ago. It’s his birthday next week so I said I’d take him out for a birthday meal out. He picked the place so I knew it wasn’t going to be budget but what I wasn’t planning on was him ordering a £100 bottle of wine followed by more by the glass. I wasn’t drinking as I drove there and back. He knows I’m not in the poor category but that’s essentially down to extreme budgeting, which he’s well aware of. It was a nice mea out, totally ruined by me still internally stewing over the fact that I picked up a tab the equivalent of a monthly food budget for me and two kids and totally put me off sticking around him for a moment longer. We do get on but this really narked me.

Well then you know what to do on YOUR birthday, don't you!

Why didn’t you say something at the time?

Is what he ordered way way different to what he normally would when he pays for himself?

if I was treating someone who usually orders a £100 bottle of wine then I’d blame myself for offering when I then picked up the tab.

If he usually sticks to house then I’d probably not have got through the meal without saying something.

I’d probably kick him to the curb for either if he knows you aren’t flush though.

What an incredibly cheeky bastard! Rude and classless!

Yes I’d dump him for that but not til after my birthday 😂

nobody apart from the super rich does that by accident and if they did AND they were a nice person you would be able to point it out abs they would be mortified

Hopefully your birthday isn't far away and return the favour.
£100 bottle of wine at someone else's expense is taking the piss.

That is such a dick move. He knew what he was doing. That would give me the ick, so i would have to dump him. There’s no way he didn’t realise he was taking advantage of you. Oh and don’t pass it off as a ‘man thing’ it really isn’t for decent men.

I wasn’t the one ordering, or looking at the wine list, and frankly wouldn’t have thought in my wildest dreams that’s what he was pointing at… obv had I known, I would have done!

Sounds like he got honking drunk too, yuk. Yeah that would finish it off for me op, in the bin but try and recoup your losses first

Yeah assuming he’s not a ridiculous wine snob who always orders a 3 figure bottle even when he’s paying, then this is cheeky fucker behaviour. I guess it depends how much you like him overall whether it’s worth a “that was taking the piss” conversation or whether to bin. I’d probably have the conversation but I’ll be honest I probably have too generous nature a lot of the time - you may be more sensible 😆

I'd just ghost him. Rudeness deserves rudeness.

Well that’s the thing - normally sticks within the £25-£30 range… and he knows I thrift big time… dress myself and the kids from Vinted, diy so that I don’t have to pay people… I might just need to accept that he IS an actual arse.

I would be rethinking that relationship

Sorry your good nature was taken advantage of. On the other hand, it’s a good early indicator! Time to jump ship perhaps, OP?

If he knows how and why you budget that makes it even worse! Is he as generous with you and would he question you ordering a £100 bottle of something on his dime?

I wouldn't have been able to keep my anger to myself about this one. He doesn't sound like a 'good' and thoughtful person to me.

My partner drinks around four pints if we go out for a meal. I also don't drink and drive us there and home again. We take turns in paying and now I always tell him that I'll pay for his food, but not the alcohol.

Let’s just say that for Christmas I got a nice, but ultimately a £50 essential oils diffuser… let’s just settle this and agree he is a total piss taker.

Yeah I’d break up tbh
especially if he knew you were driving and not drinking

also you say he ordered more by the glass? So he was essentially getting bladdered while you were sober ,
I would never ordered a whole bottle of wine if dining with someone who wasn’t drinking, let alone for £100

that would be enough to put me off tbh

It’s a small price to pay for getting rid of someone….

yuck, get rid!

Well, I just couldn't do that to someone I care about. That's beyond 'Oh it just didn't occur to me' territory. He purposely ordered way beyond his own purse, and chose to do it on your dime. When someone treats you like that on the good days, you know they're not the material you want for harder times ahead. I'd let this one go. I'm not saying he doesn't have other nice traits, but this was beyond selfish - it was entitled and careless. There's no way he couldn't have totted up what that cost a single mother. I dislike him on your behalf.

Yes with this context, time to bin. It really looks deliberate- almost like he was making some kind of point.

Plus the other point PPs have raised - getting shit faced while you stay sober.
Proper ick.

'Well that’s the thing - normally sticks within the £25-£30 range… and he knows I thrift big time'

Well in that case, he definitely deserves binning. That was absolutely taking the piss big time. What a horrible, sour, greedy, nasty thing to do

@AliceR1 I'm glad you concur that he is indeed a piss taking bell end 😁

Self-centered and thoughtless.