To ignore worrying DH ChatGBT conversations

[PlantKiller1]

H and I dont really love each other. Like roommates. We are drifting further amd further apart. We have tried therapy. Didn't work. My kids are v young and ive actually been saving £ in the hope of leaving by the end of the year

He has been more distant than usual. Saying intense things about time and physics when im trying to do regular stuff like cook dinner

I was just on his computer and went to look something up on chatgbt and realised I cpuld see all his chats. And I looked at some of them im afraid

Plenty saying how frigid, cold and career driven i am and how he wants to leave the home for 3 months. Which doesn't surprise me. But other more worrying stuff. One of them being "why do celebrities alwsys do satanic hand gestures" and then questions like "is time linear" "did aliens build the pyramids" and some race theories i cant repeat.

He will say he's just "interested". But he's been withdrawn and distracted recently. Severe mental illness in his family. A close relative lives in supported living because of severity

I dont know what to do. I dont love him. Hes not v nice to me. We havw little in common. But im not sure he's well. But also how can I leave now? My kids might not be safe. I think the stress of divorce might really push him over the edge

Can I just try to forget it? Do I need to do something? He once said some really weird intense stuff a year ago about universes and I ended up calling the GP who told me "disordered thinking" was super common and nothing they could do

Any advice would be much appreciated

I chat gpt loads of mad thoughts that I know are total bollocks. Helps me to get the crazy out of my head.

I think you should contact women’s aid for advice about how to plan to leave.

I’m not sure what the issue is here - why don’t you think your kids are safe?

You clearly want to leave each other so why don’t you?

What wrong with him asking ChatGPT random thought-provoking questions?

I don't think you need to do anything. He doesn't sound like he is talking to chatgpt about hurting himself or anyone else. Keep preparing for your separation it sounds like it's for the best for you.

"Why do celebrities always do satanic hand gestures?"

A thought provoking question?

Are you worried about psychosis?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chatbot_psychosis

I ask chat gpt a load of random crap. Last night I couldn’t sleep sleep and had a whole convo about sniffer dogs and what happens after they retire. If you saw my history you’d think I’m coockoo when in reality I’m just mildly interested in random shit I’d never research off my own accord because it’s too much effort. Your relationship is over already, I wouldn’t be going down the rabbit hole of seeing what he’s looking up etc - just leave him be and make your exit.

If you want to leave you should regardless of whether or not hes asking chatgpt sensible questions.

This came up a bit on the Louis Theroux documentary on the manosphere. Is there any chance that he’s listening to / watching manosphere influencers?

I think there is a big difference asking what happens to sniffer dogs when they retire and asking why celebrities make secret satanic hand gestures and about the "creator". Yes im worried about psychosis. I cant repeat some of it as will get the message deleted. Immediate family member has schizophrenia. And he's very distant. This is not the same as looking random stuff up.

You could try talking to your GP about your concerns, also try MIND for advice/support.

Yes was going to say the same thing

Can you contact the GP for advice? It makes no sense to say you are worried your kids aren’t safe, but then you don’t want to leave him. And living with someone who doesn’t love or like him won’t help his mental health. I’d speak to someone about this, whether a professional or a family member of his. But your marriage is over so I’d also start progressing with the inevitable.

Of course it does. Im home all the time with them. If I leave and hes get 50% and starts unravelling mentally- I cant protect them.

I honestly think you’re over reacting. I’ve been down the rabbit holes on those subjects and I’m not mentally ill.

Considering that “pizza gate” and the Epstein files were considered the stuff of conspiracy theories but that long ago, celebrities doing “satanic hand gestures” doesn’t even sound particularly wild to me! It’s a long running popular conspiracy theory, it doesn’t mean he has psychosis.

I’m guessing the race stuff has to do with IQ in different countries? Or sharia law coming to Britain?

Photograph evidence of the chats, for a start. If you find yourself in a position of needing to negotiate parental contact on the basis of his mental health then they'll be helpful.

Can you approach him gently about his mental health, just saying that you've noticed he's withdrawn and is he OK, should he speak to the gp?

There was another thread on here very recently in which the OP’s husband had developed psychosis and that ended up with him being sectioned. She was well supported by a lot (not all) posters. Given the family history of schizophrenia I’d also be worried about your husband. I certainly wouldn’t rule it out the way some posters have already done.

Hopefully some other posters will be along soon with some advice - sorry I can’t give more but I do think you’re right to wonder about this.

He won’t successfully go to court and get 50% if he’s that unwell

My first husband completely unravelled and it started with comspiracy theories and thinking the government had planted me as a spy. It was a very worrying time as I had DV as well. It took a very long time to get sole custody of DS through the courts and until I did I did not dare leave DS alone with him.

Epstein is not the same as Pizza gate. There is no evidence that Pizza gate was a real thing.

Could phone 111 option 2 to speak to mental health profesional 24/7.

I agree op, listen to your instincts and take the evidence that his mental health may be declining seriously, is there anywhere you can realistically go with the children in. The near future? Everything considered it may well be better for you all to bring your plans of leaving forward 💐

The problem you have is that he has to want help and be willing to go to the GP to talk about relationship difficulties/withdrawal. Support services won’t intervene unless someone is a danger to themselves or others.

From what you’ve said this isn’t enough to meet the threshold for mental health services to get involved.

Focus on yourself- therapy, exist plan.

If things escalate and he starts talking about suicidal thoughts, hallucinations, thinking others can control his thoughts or not sleeping then contact GP or call 111 for advice.