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To ignore worrying DH ChatGBT conversations

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PlantKiller1 · 20/03/2026 19:18

H and I dont really love each other. Like roommates. We are drifting further amd further apart. We have tried therapy. Didn't work. My kids are v young and ive actually been saving £ in the hope of leaving by the end of the year

He has been more distant than usual. Saying intense things about time and physics when im trying to do regular stuff like cook dinner

I was just on his computer and went to look something up on chatgbt and realised I cpuld see all his chats. And I looked at some of them im afraid

Plenty saying how frigid, cold and career driven i am and how he wants to leave the home for 3 months. Which doesn't surprise me. But other more worrying stuff. One of them being "why do celebrities alwsys do satanic hand gestures" and then questions like "is time linear" "did aliens build the pyramids" and some race theories i cant repeat.

He will say he's just "interested". But he's been withdrawn and distracted recently. Severe mental illness in his family. A close relative lives in supported living because of severity

I dont know what to do. I dont love him. Hes not v nice to me. We havw little in common. But im not sure he's well. But also how can I leave now? My kids might not be safe. I think the stress of divorce might really push him over the edge

Can I just try to forget it? Do I need to do something? He once said some really weird intense stuff a year ago about universes and I ended up calling the GP who told me "disordered thinking" was super common and nothing they could do

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LittleMyLabyrinth · 20/03/2026 21:49

I would be very worried. Some people who go down the conspiracy theory rabbit hole become dangerously unwell. Document everything. Given he's unhappy with you anyway, hopefully when the time comes you can put a positive spin on it for him/make him think it's his idea. Would he want 50/50 anyway?

OnlyFannys · 20/03/2026 21:54

I have asked chat gpt about time being linear and we went down a rabbit hole around the theory of relativity. Ive also talked to it about aliens and unexplainable history 🙈 if anyone looked through the crap i ask it i would be horrified, its just my mad musings.

PinkPanda99 · 20/03/2026 21:58

I have bipolar and have had psychosis myself. You know your DH far better than anyone on here, and with everything you’ve said I would definitely be worried. I’m sure if my DH posted specifics of things I’d been saying early on people would have said it was nothing but he knew even before there were any ‘concrete’ symptoms.

How long has this been happening for? These things can unravel quickly, so now is the time to start putting things in place.

Definitely speak to the GP again, specifically about the talking about harming himself and shouting at himself, you’ve mentioned much more than just disordered thinking. I also get the impression that you don’t feel safe which makes total sense. It could be worth giving Women’s Aid a call for advice on how you can prepare to leave whilst he’s in such an unstable mental state. As others have said, keep evidence of absolutely everything you can regarding his mental state in case you need it as evidence. Of course he isn’t your responsibility and you can’t stay just due to his mental state, but leaving will take some careful planning.

Keep talking to us, and I really hope you’re able to get the help you need.

Carla786 · 20/03/2026 21:59

OnlyFannys · 20/03/2026 21:54

I have asked chat gpt about time being linear and we went down a rabbit hole around the theory of relativity. Ive also talked to it about aliens and unexplainable history 🙈 if anyone looked through the crap i ask it i would be horrified, its just my mad musings.

Yes, I ask it all kinds of random stuff. It's actually been a great help chatting about the story collection I'm trying to write. But you need to be aware it hallucinates info if it's not sure, so ensure you ask it to link sources as that gives some indication it's not spouting total rubbish.

Jamesblonde2 · 20/03/2026 22:03

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with those questions. Even Bradley Walsh does a tv programme about the pyramids/aliens.

10namechangeslater · 20/03/2026 22:11

He’s not very nice to you so you need to leave and take the kids with you. Keep them safe OP.

GreenSteal · 20/03/2026 22:12

It’s very concerning that he’s lying in bed shouting to himself and all the ChatGPT searches suggest a pattern of unusual beliefs. I would be really worried for the children’s safety.

10namechangeslater · 20/03/2026 22:13

Sooner the better I’d say.

ThatPearlkitty · 20/03/2026 22:18

PlantKiller1 · 20/03/2026 19:35

Any advice would be much appreciated

whats omg about is time linear, according to physics its not a straight arrow,

ThatPearlkitty · 20/03/2026 22:20

Jamesblonde2 · 20/03/2026 22:03

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with those questions. Even Bradley Walsh does a tv programme about the pyramids/aliens.

and the radio host coast to coast am with art bell, although these are on youtube then theres graham hancock books

PlantKiller1 · 20/03/2026 22:24

There is thinking outside the box and then there is paranoia.

As I say, he didnt ask "give me more info about the theory celebs are satanists"..he said "why do celebrities always make satanic hand gestures".

He talks to himself a fair bit. He has tics.

I would say his MH is poor generally but he keeps it together. Holds down a job etc. I get the brunt of the bad moods. Just the ChatGPT stuff was pretty intense. As you say it's v manosphere related. And calling me "frigid and career driven". Sometimes when I come home from work early and clean/cook he makes strange jokes about me "finally doing what nature intends" and then just says its a joke. He's definitely not a fast car/money bloke. Hes older. Highly insecure. A bit bitter.

I don't love him. But I worry about him deeply. Amd I just am not convinced its safe to leave him. Unsafe men get custody all the time. It just feels like he's gripping on to stability but if it wasnt for me amd the kids...I think he'd be on that computer every hoir

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Beachtastic · 20/03/2026 22:26

PlantKiller1 · 20/03/2026 22:24

There is thinking outside the box and then there is paranoia.

As I say, he didnt ask "give me more info about the theory celebs are satanists"..he said "why do celebrities always make satanic hand gestures".

He talks to himself a fair bit. He has tics.

I would say his MH is poor generally but he keeps it together. Holds down a job etc. I get the brunt of the bad moods. Just the ChatGPT stuff was pretty intense. As you say it's v manosphere related. And calling me "frigid and career driven". Sometimes when I come home from work early and clean/cook he makes strange jokes about me "finally doing what nature intends" and then just says its a joke. He's definitely not a fast car/money bloke. Hes older. Highly insecure. A bit bitter.

I don't love him. But I worry about him deeply. Amd I just am not convinced its safe to leave him. Unsafe men get custody all the time. It just feels like he's gripping on to stability but if it wasnt for me amd the kids...I think he'd be on that computer every hoir

he's bonkers OP, sorry

You're in that "frog boiled slowly" situation.

What can you do to get you and the kids to safety?

Don't wait and find out what happens next. It might be fine, but it might not. Better safe than sorry.

Beachtastic · 20/03/2026 22:27

ThatPearlkitty · 20/03/2026 22:18

whats omg about is time linear, according to physics its not a straight arrow,

No. But no one is preoccupied with this unless you're on an acid trip or going through a MH crisis.

Beachtastic · 20/03/2026 22:28

Jamesblonde2 · 20/03/2026 22:03

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with those questions. Even Bradley Walsh does a tv programme about the pyramids/aliens.

Yes. But this is a very specific collection of concerns that I recognise all too well from experience. sorry

SeriaMau · 20/03/2026 22:32

PlantKiller1 · 20/03/2026 19:42

"Why do celebrities always do satanic hand gestures?"

A thought provoking question?

ChatGPT says: They generally don’t — this is mostly a perception pattern created by internet culture and conspiracy narratives.

Here’s what’s actually going on:

1️⃣ Many “satanic” gestures aren’t satanic at all

The most commonly cited ones have ordinary meanings:

  • “Devil horns” (🤘) → popularised in rock/metal culture (Ronnie James Dio), originally an Italian folk gesture to ward off bad luck.
  • OK sign → normal hand signal meaning “OK” or “perfect.”
  • Triangle / pyramid hand pose → just a composed or stylised pose (sometimes linked to photography direction or stage presence).

2️⃣ Humans are pattern-seeking

We are wired to find meaning and hidden intent, especially in famous or powerful people.
Once someone believes a symbol is sinister, they start noticing it everywhere (confirmation bias).

3️⃣ Pop culture thrives on provocative imagery

Music, fashion, and celebrity branding often use edgy, taboo, or symbolic visuals to create mystique or publicity.
That can include occult or pseudo-occult imagery — but usually for aesthetics, not belief.

4️⃣ Social media amplifies narratives

Short clips and photos get circulated without context, then interpreted through conspiracy frameworks.
This creates the impression of coordination when it’s mostly coincidence or styling.

5️⃣ Real occult symbolism exists — but is niche

Some artists do deliberately reference occult themes (e.g. in metal, avant-garde fashion, performance art),
but this is very different from a global organised “satanic signalling” idea.

✅ Bottom line:
Most celebrity hand gestures are cultural, stylistic, or coincidental — not evidence of hidden allegiance.

If you’d like, I can show you the history of the “devil horns” gesture and how it became misunderstood — that’s quite interesting culturally.

Quite interesting.

ThatPearlkitty · 20/03/2026 22:32

Beachtastic · 20/03/2026 22:27

No. But no one is preoccupied with this unless you're on an acid trip or going through a MH crisis.

or researching if time travel is possible ?

MontyDong · 20/03/2026 22:33

It really sounds like you need to leave asap.

The questions are really not the the main thing here (I’m always trying to get ChatGPT to explain relativity to me). All of the rest of what you’ve described is more concerning. It’s that context that makes the questions concerning.

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ThatPearlkitty · 20/03/2026 22:34

plus why did scientists spend so much time studying science etc ? or why do people watch documentarys etc @Beachtastic

ThatPearlkitty · 20/03/2026 22:34

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snap just thinking similar

ThatPearlkitty · 20/03/2026 22:36

everyone hold we cannot use chatgpt for anything other than whats for dinner or who let the dogs out

Beachtastic · 20/03/2026 22:37

ThatPearlkitty · 20/03/2026 22:32

or researching if time travel is possible ?

Plus the paranoia about his relationship, his distance, and his family history of schizophrenia? And asking about pyramids and demonic gestures from celebrities?

Honestly, I'd have agreed with you a few years ago, before exDP tried to kill his friend. But there is a script, and this is the script, word for word.

PlantKiller1 · 20/03/2026 22:37

@Beachtastic are you the PP who had an ex who had who had psychosis? And it seems familiar? Did you leave him? Hope yoire ok now

H talks about spending his lunchtime on YouTube listening to scientists talking about the multi universe etc. He's just started a new job and he admitted he basically talks to no one and just reads stuff. It doesnt feel like "im just interested in science" stuff.

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MontyDong · 20/03/2026 22:41

Hilarious posters might like to read beyond the first lines of the first post.

OP the stuff about his feelings against you getting out of control is really worrying. Please do think about getting yourself and the children away.

ThatPearlkitty · 20/03/2026 22:41

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