To ignore worrying DH ChatGBT conversations

[PlantKiller1]

H and I dont really love each other. Like roommates. We are drifting further amd further apart. We have tried therapy. Didn't work. My kids are v young and ive actually been saving £ in the hope of leaving by the end of the year

He has been more distant than usual. Saying intense things about time and physics when im trying to do regular stuff like cook dinner

I was just on his computer and went to look something up on chatgbt and realised I cpuld see all his chats. And I looked at some of them im afraid

Plenty saying how frigid, cold and career driven i am and how he wants to leave the home for 3 months. Which doesn't surprise me. But other more worrying stuff. One of them being "why do celebrities alwsys do satanic hand gestures" and then questions like "is time linear" "did aliens build the pyramids" and some race theories i cant repeat.

He will say he's just "interested". But he's been withdrawn and distracted recently. Severe mental illness in his family. A close relative lives in supported living because of severity

I dont know what to do. I dont love him. Hes not v nice to me. We havw little in common. But im not sure he's well. But also how can I leave now? My kids might not be safe. I think the stress of divorce might really push him over the edge

Can I just try to forget it? Do I need to do something? He once said some really weird intense stuff a year ago about universes and I ended up calling the GP who told me "disordered thinking" was super common and nothing they could do

I dont think anything he has said sounds like a mental illness he seems like a really deep thinker.

People saying ‘Oh, I asked ChatGPT all sorts of daft stuff’ are missing the point that the OP’s husband is asking, exclusively, questions that suggest he is obsessively into some very specific conspiracy theories that are associated with certain mental illnesses and with dangerous behaviours. People are naive if they think this is random nonsense rather than a pattern.

There’s quite a few theories about celebrities being satanists, covering one eye is supposedly satanic, using satanic symbolism at stage concerts of SamSmith, Lady Gaga etc - not saying I agree with it or anything like that but there are definitely social media clips doing the rounds at the moment.

His mental health is his concern not your problem to fix and certainly , children can go no contact or see him in contact centre if you think they are unsafe with him

save up and leave

He doesn’t. He sounds unwell. This is exactly how my friend’s husband’s violent psychotic breakdown began and his doctors told my friend it was a classic warning sign.

Honestly OP, this kind of content has been on social media for years. If you look deep enough, Disneyland has secret tunnels where children are taken and never return. And Madonna plus many other celebrities drink the blood of sacrificed children who have tortured to ensure they have adrenaline running through their veins because apparently it keeps you looking youthful. Said celebs also also worship Satan and show it through certain hand gestures.

He's not goggling teen girls or how to kill yourself ( or you ) Its a bit conspiracy and teenage but you him

can you share your concerns with his family or him? Dont have to say you have snoooed. As hes has said these convo's with you while cooking tea

What are you getting out of living with him? You don't like each other and he's telling chat GPT that you're cold and frigid, plus delving down conspiracy theory rabbit holes that have potential to get deeper.

Just leave.

I know such theories exist. My concern is him believing them. Hes not saying "tell me more about the theory X or Y". He's asking about them in the way they're true. E..g "why does the creator do X" "why do Jewish people do X" "why are so many celebrities satanists"

Im not shocked at the stuff ppl put on the Internet. I'm shocked my husband seemingly believes them

He also said his resentment for me is out of control and when chatgbt asked about hurting himself he said "things are heading that way". That one was some time ago though

I have asked chatgbt plenty of stupid or out tgere stuff. But this is another level. And then coupled with beinh distant and history of MH. It's worrying.

I mean a lot of you think im overreacting. Maybe i am and I just need to leave. But divorce is really hard and his mind isnt in a great state. It's hard not to worry about that. He doesn't cope with stress well (think lying in bed during day, shouting to himself)

P.S OP it's ChatGPT not ChatGBT. Sorry but it's driving me crazy!

But staying and ignoring it would be a bad plan

That made me LOL. I too, look at some very odd/random stuff (shit) on chat gpt and you can end up down some real rabbit holes, and then some!

Well shouting to himself is very strange and sounds like he needs to see his GP. But again, if neither of you like each other then he's not your responsibility. Leave him to it. He sounds scary to me.

I think I've been saying it incorrectly all this time! I use it every day for work and i swear it was a B. Ha ha!

He's not my responsibility but there is no "leave him to it" when you have 2 kids under 5 with someone.

You say he wants to leave. That would be better for you and you and the children to stay in the family home whilst everything is sorted: divorce, finances, children.

You will want a clean break so the house will likely have to go unless you can afford to buy him out.

Are you frightened of him? Is there domestic abuse? If not time for an honest conversation, he may appreciate the get out as he is probably too cowardly to leave.

Take control, make out it's your idea. Life is too short. Also you are not his mother or his support animal. You still have a tough year ahead of you so stop worrying about his random friendship with chat gtp, and that is what some of it is, and focus on you and your children.

It will be scary but if there is no abuse this can be done all very amicably and you can get on with your life and stop being a mother to a grown man.
Good luck.

I would be worried as many people are finding their loved ones fall down conspiracy theory rabbit hole. This age of over information is bad.

The satanic gestures thing crops up regularly out there on sm. I saw one literally the other day about Beyoncé and her two girls doing this.

I really think you should have said about lying in bed and shouting at himself earlier! People might not have written off the chatgpt stuff so readily then. It sounds like he is spouting random, intense stuff about time and physics as well which people might have missed.

He does sound unwell OP, but you can't fix him, the best thing is for him to leave for his 3 month break and you to see what happens after that. The children are living in this atmosphere full time right now which can't possibly be better.

He does sound schizophrenic, sorry.

I have experience of an ex-DP who went into schizophrenic psychosis and this was very much the pattern.

If there is a history in the family, you are right to be concerned.

I think people who don't use AI think we all ask bollox questions and that AI is just some bullshit thing where people go mad. That's just not true.

He is revealing things about his concerns that he would not open up to with people in his everyday life. And those concerns are very revealing.

I'm really sorry OP, I wish you well with dealing with this. It is spectacularly hard to find help with it. I hope you have better luck than I did.

How long have you known you don't love each other? You can't stay in this relationship just because you don't want him to have 50/50 custody, it's toxic for your children.

Just to add, your superpower is that you don't love him.

He is not your job to fix. Just get yourself and your children safely out of there and leave him to it.

OP, document everything now, especially comments suggesting he’s considering self-harm or worse.

You need some solid evidence that he is unstable and that any contact he has with DC in the event of a split must be supervised.

I think one of things that us MNers need to remember is, the OP knows her husband, we don't. If your gut OP is saying to you that you believe your husband could be heading towards a psychotic breakdown, then you have to listen to your gut.

I'll be honest, I don't know anything about psychosis, but your husband's ramblings to Chatgpt don't sound particularly normal. Given the fact he becomes stressed he lays in bed ranting at himself and the immediate family member who has severe MH issues, I'd be concerned too.

I would suggest contacting the charity Mind, they are a specialist charity and have extensive knowledge. I would also speak to your GP too.

Take screenshots of the messages, if you're able. In the meantime you need to carry on saving money, and continuing your plan to split by the end of the year. Clearly if your husband's behaviour escalates, you may need to do so before. If your husband's MH ends up that bad, him having the children 50% of the time won't be viable. You are both unhappy, and children aren't stupid, they will eventually pick up on that, if they haven't already. You aren't responsible for your husband's MH, and neither can you solve it.