Ghosted after a great first date. Best response?

[WildflowerGardens]

I had a first date with a man off hinge on Saturday afternoon - we had coffee and then walked round an illustration fair. The whole time we were laughing and talking animatedly and seemed to have a lot in common. At the end of the date he pulled me into a bear hug and said “see you again soon”.

I texted him that evening to say “Great to meet you, what a fun afternoon!” but he didn’t reply and it’s now Tuesday. I think I’ve been ghosted.

I feel like sending a final message, something like “Ghosting in your forties? I only date grown men: good luck with your ongoing search 👋 ” before blocking him but I’m not sure if I should do this.

My reasoning is that I think ghosting is crap behaviour and people who ghost should be called out on it.

Any advice very welcome.

I'd be careful about making off-the-cuff assumptions about what anyone here knows or doesn't.

To be honest, you were the one who snapped at a poster about all your Royalties.

What is your genre, out of interest?

Only because YOU want to date “Baldy”, eh ducky duck

Why balding Middle Aged men ghost

Stop it hahahah

Weirdo.

Don't forget: Poetry to Make Him Fall in Love

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I've never heard anyone say 'Ducky duck'.

Do your characters say that in the books you write?

Forget him, it’s ignorant to not return a text or message after a meet-up .

😂😂😂😂😂😂

Keep up. They have a 2nd date and he's taking her 'somewhere special'.

😂😂😂 sorry

I’m not telling you who I am, ducky duck, I know you’re only asking so that I’ll reveal Mr Man-Formerly-Known-As-Ghost’s identity and you need that in order to approach him with romantic intent

Ouffff.

This ducky duck is very odd.

I know loads of authors. I belong to the S of As.

I am intrigued but think it's too soon for us all to buy hats. Do you agree?

Pics or it didn't happen.

@WildflowerGardens I'm glad you have a second date but can I just offer a word of caution.

When you felt as if this man had ghosted you, you were very insulting towards him, covering his appearance, personality and career.

Now that he has eventually offered you a second date all that has been brushed under the carpet and you seem delighted, which is a great feeling. I understand.

But it does sound for you as if it could be any old port in a storm-anyone will do even someone about whom you have been very blistering.

I wouldn't go out on a second date with him. Value yourself a little more and only have second dates with those men whom you really like. Going out with a man you have a low opinion of, simply because he asked you. will only lead to you devaluing and eventually having a low opinion of yourself.

You're not a beggar and you can be a chooser.

Yes, we need a screen shot of his message then we can all go to the special venue and peep out from behind the shrubbery or the potted palms.

You sound fucking mental.

There could be a million and one reasons why he thought better of trying to see you again, and you'll likely never know why. It's so easy for your imagination to run away with you and think that he found you lacking in some way, but it's almost certainly something banal that you let slip and he realised it wouldn't work. An example would be, say, if a man let slip on a date that he adored Rottweilers and wanted to have two one day when he had more room. It wouldn't matter how great a date it was, for me that's a mismatch.

I'd be more concerned if he turns up again in a few more days, because push-pull is not cute and speaks of possible issues around intimacy.

Plenty more fish in the sea, OP!

Miaaaaooow

I'd be more concerned if he turns up again in a few more days, because push-pull is not cute and speaks of possible issues around intimacy.

He has!

It's the ones who say quacky quack.

And never mind hats, im hoping to be maid of honour as the poem that reconciled them was my idea.

This!!!

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Damn, I wanted that role. Pistols at dawn?
Or maybe a nice cup of tea to celebrate your success.