Ghosted after a great first date. Best response?

[WildflowerGardens]

I had a first date with a man off hinge on Saturday afternoon - we had coffee and then walked round an illustration fair. The whole time we were laughing and talking animatedly and seemed to have a lot in common. At the end of the date he pulled me into a bear hug and said “see you again soon”.

I texted him that evening to say “Great to meet you, what a fun afternoon!” but he didn’t reply and it’s now Tuesday. I think I’ve been ghosted.

I feel like sending a final message, something like “Ghosting in your forties? I only date grown men: good luck with your ongoing search 👋 ” before blocking him but I’m not sure if I should do this.

My reasoning is that I think ghosting is crap behaviour and people who ghost should be called out on it.

Any advice very welcome.

And then took time out of your busy schedule to post about it and reply to comments from royal strangers in the internet...or are you using it for material for your next book

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Oh for goodness sake OP, you're showing yourself in a very poor light

It's a very long thread- almost a novel- but here is an update for any late- comers.

1 OP did contact him again, with a 'poem' saying she was upset he'd disappeared.

2 He replied and asked for a 2nd date.

3 They are going somewhere considered 'special'.

4 She isn't sure it's worth her while now because he doesn't text as much as she likes to.

We await the outcome.

1. It's likely all bollocks apart from the very first post....

I agree sh*tty behaviour. But dont message because it shows your bothered by it which he obviously wants the chase, and is of no benefit to you as if he did respond you dont want him anyway x

Do read the updates.

Or just wait he could be ill or something

Exactly. And laughing at and egging on someone like this is actually rather cruel. It became quite apparent as the thread progressed that the OP is several focaccias short of a bread counter!

I'm not laughing at the OP, although I've laughed at her jokes.

As for the sanctimony about cruelty, well, actually I laughed at that too, especially since it was immediately followed by an accusation of insanity that's anything but kind and sweet. If you want to fight the terrible cruelty on this thread, you'd do better to start with all the posters who can't stop telling her how insane, deluded, unhinged and failing she is. Although to be fair, it became clear at a certain point that she was just fishing for all that for entertainment and she appears to be done with it now. I laughed.

op, by any chance are you an author? cos you definitely haven't mentioned it if you are
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he dodged a bullet, sorry.

Absolutely leave it dont give him any satisfaction you wanted to see him. Block number & delete at the same time...

😂For the love of god, please bring back the laughing emoticon 😂

Second thread please. We need to know how the next date/s go.

Thank you for your service.

You are feeling rejected, but why give him the satisfaction of knowing this? Don't block him, yet. If he contacts you again you can knock him back and then block him.

Here’s what I really don’t get. He sucked, he was ugly, you can have him, etc., etc. Um, what’s the title of the thread again? Or as a professional writer, do you usually spell “shitty” g r e a t?

What do you mean read from his viva? A viva’s a sort of oral exam, not something you can read from…

In fairness, it’s not the only thing the OP seems deeply confused about.

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I'm quite invested in this .... Is there going to be a second thread? I want to know how the next date goes

She meant thesis, but gets her words mixed up.

You must be a glutton for punishment. The abuse dished out by the OP is unreal!!

I’m hoping for a TV series…

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