Ghosted after a great first date. Best response?

[WildflowerGardens]

I had a first date with a man off hinge on Saturday afternoon - we had coffee and then walked round an illustration fair. The whole time we were laughing and talking animatedly and seemed to have a lot in common. At the end of the date he pulled me into a bear hug and said “see you again soon”.

I texted him that evening to say “Great to meet you, what a fun afternoon!” but he didn’t reply and it’s now Tuesday. I think I’ve been ghosted.

I feel like sending a final message, something like “Ghosting in your forties? I only date grown men: good luck with your ongoing search 👋 ” before blocking him but I’m not sure if I should do this.

My reasoning is that I think ghosting is crap behaviour and people who ghost should be called out on it.

Any advice very welcome.

If you really did send him that poem and it prompted the request for a second date, I can absolutely guarantee that this is his jam.

I guess she's a ghost writer now.

Ridiculous.

You've spent most of the day on this yet you claim to be so busy. That's odd.
No one cares if you are an author , a brain surgeon, a supermarket shelf stacker or a member of the Cabinet.

You are just another woman who didn't like how she was treated after a date.

If he read your thread here, would he want to see you again I wonder?

Could be my estranged husband! Hes out there looking for a travel companion for cosy nights in!!

All good now - a second date in the diary and a compliment(!) by text (from him)

But what happened to the date you claimed you were on earlier today?

What was the compliment?

Maybe OP ghosted him.

Oh dear.

Your threads about dating all say the same thing really- you get very cross rather easily and it's often the man's fault.

Maybe steer clear of men for a while and use your Royalties to buy a house/flat? I remember your thread bout the smoking but it's odd that you're so successful an author and not bought your own home. I know London's expensive but....

That she had more hair than him?

It was actually hair-related

Someone who knows nothing about the contemporary publishing industry. You cannot even pay a rental deposit with a book advance these days

I'm cringing for you that you sent another text angling for a second date.

There's so many posts from the OP that it's hard to really get a view apart from wonder why, after all the mean things she said about him, she seems to be going on a second date with him?
I'm feeling sorry for Baldy .....
It screams desperation tbh

You say you are only 10 minutes from where you met up with him, he had to travel 1.5 hours.

You also I texted him that evening to say “Great to meet you, what a fun afternoon!”

yet you now what us to believe, despite admitting you had a great time and you even went as far as texting him again, that he is balding, unattractive etc and you run him down.

Make up your mind. You just sound spiteful he didn't jump when you say. You don't know if he's had a family emergency/medical emergency, work drama, etc. You sound too full on and and entitled.

Errr well hope the second date goes well and that he never finds your thread where you called him an ugly loser and said you’d dodged a bullet 🤷‍♀️

And that's why you said you had such an amazing time! A "great first date"! 🙄

You can't even keep your story straight.

This is mind numbingly repetitive, tedious and trivial. Let’s all watch some paint dry to liven things up.

Stop trying to put him down based on his looks. Ghosting you was shitty and he doesn’t sound a nice person but you had a good date (in your opinion) and now you’re criticising him for his looks. You don’t sound nice either.

His loss. Ignore and move on.

He sent a compliment and asked me out somewhere really special, so there

Well he’s asked me out again so there. Now YOU can’t date him

Depends on how good your writing is. Jessie Burton got a six figure advance on The Miniaturist and that wasn’t that long ago. It’s how she bought her London flat.

Two things can be true at the same time, ducky duck

There’s no guaranteed correlation between how “good” an author is and their earnings, ducky duck