Ghosted after a great first date. Best response?

[WildflowerGardens]

I had a first date with a man off hinge on Saturday afternoon - we had coffee and then walked round an illustration fair. The whole time we were laughing and talking animatedly and seemed to have a lot in common. At the end of the date he pulled me into a bear hug and said “see you again soon”.

I texted him that evening to say “Great to meet you, what a fun afternoon!” but he didn’t reply and it’s now Tuesday. I think I’ve been ghosted.

I feel like sending a final message, something like “Ghosting in your forties? I only date grown men: good luck with your ongoing search 👋 ” before blocking him but I’m not sure if I should do this.

My reasoning is that I think ghosting is crap behaviour and people who ghost should be called out on it.

Any advice very welcome.

He’s not interested. Move on. He obviously didn’t have a good time. Shitty not to tell you he isn’t interested, but just leave it.

Well clearly he digs it or he wouldn’t have texted me to suggest a date at a well-regarded establishment

Helps to read ALL.

All 108 replies???

Ooooooooooh! Ritz? Savoy? Dorchester? Ivy? Wolseley?

Do you now need advice on What to Wear on My Second date Somewhere Posh?

We can help you Ducky.

No, you choose SEE ALL next to her first post.

We should probably have some sort of competition which OP will judge (as she seems entirely sane and rational)

'Well regarded establishment'

Greggs then? 🤔

What a very odd thread. Who is ducky duck ? The short, bad toothed middle aged career failure, is he now a catch after being a mediocrity? Baffling.

I agree.

I know, you couldn’t make it up 🤔
This could actually be a man 😮 Anything is possible on MN.

Op has replied 108 times. It's over 500 posts.

I recommend it.

😂

No no.
Ducky duck could be her way of saying 'love' or 'my dear' or even 'darling' when she's said something to you.

But I'm not sure if it's a term of endearment or an accusation meaning 'being stupid.'

OMG!

😂😂😂

Well clearly he digs it or he wouldn’t have texted me to suggest a date at a well-regarded establishment

Is the clue in 'he clearly digs it'?

Is it his shed on his allotment?

Block him, forget about it and move on. Any further messaging from you will make you look sad and desperate.

In the spirit of sisterliness I say that anyone else who wants to date this man, I’ll not stop you. I shall however attend the second date, especially now people have been kind enough to advise on my attire for the occasion

Are you from the 18th century OP?

We said we'd help and we need you to give us the options for your outfit.

But it depends if the venue is a Michelin *d restaurant, Greggs, or his garden shed.

Sorry, I didn't read all of your replies. Now I see that he has texted and you have a second date, yay!

I work on the managing-editorial side of book publishing at one of the big well-known companies, and now I am fucking INTRIGUED as to who you are!

You must be good, as most authors don't earn enough royalties to write full-time and live off just those. Only the best-selling ones do.

Maybe she writes historical romantic novels.

The compliment was actually about her bonnet.

First you say it was a great first date, very promising and you’re disappointed he hadn’t replied to you saying as such to him directly.

Then, he’s ugly and bald but that’s fine. You were very generous and went with him anyway. Now you say he practically followed you through Sainsbury’s after the date had ended “to your dismay” because he quite fancied more time with you.

And you’re a writer, yes? Because you aren’t portraying yourself as a very reliable narrator here. If he picked up on your clear dismay at the extension of the date perhaps he thought you were just being polite with the text. Perhaps he picked up on your obvious mixed signals and has decided himself to dodge the bullet you don’t realise you are.