Is a man being bisexual a turn off?

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As a man I think im bisexual but when it comes to dating and being in relationships I only see myself with women, I also want a family someday also. Apparently lots of women are turned off by bisexual men where as a lot of men dont mind bisexual women, I also dont like the idea of hiding it from my future partner because I think your partner should know everything.

Would my sexuality be a problem?

Depends on the woman. Funnily enough we're not all exactly the same.

It's a tricky one because it's so tied up with perceptions of masculinity. I would struggle to be honest; and I think it's largely social conditioning. I'm 41.

For me, yes.

@JudgeBread interesting, why do you have a problem with it when your also bi? Im just curious im not telling you its wrong or anything because we all have preferences.

I would also struggle being honest but I would have to think about why- if it is a committed relationship it probably shouldn’t matter as long as everyone is honest.

I’m not sure how asking on here is going to be relevant, we aren’t the women you’re going to be dating. We’re not a hive mind.

She’s literally saying she doesn’t have an issue with it?

@Runningismyhappyplace50 there is also different kinds of attraction, You can be sexually attracted to one gender but romantically attracted to the other.

Im sexually into both but I have only ever been interested in dating women, Im not attracted to men in a romantic kind of way

@ForTipsyFinch lol im an idiot 🤣

I can only speak for myself and not women in general but I personally wouldn’t be keen on dating a bisexual man. I would always be thinking he wanted something that I could never give him and I don’t think I could get over that.

I think this would also be my issue.
Although how it’s different to being attracted to different kinds of women is difficult to articulate.

I've dated a bisexual man. I never had an issue with it. I think he was probably hetero romantic though. He broke it off, otherwise I'd have continued to date him.

Well, it depends on the type of relationship you have. I think I'm a little bisexual too. My partner is very straight and likes men so I've never felt there's been an opportunity to bring it up. But overall, it's never been a factor. I don't have the desire to embark on sex with men so have never raised it.

I would choose your moment if you bring it up and be sure of the outcome too. We're all different in life but not every relationship is the perfect forum for complete and unfettered honesty. Mine certainly isn't.

I'm bisexual and being with a big guy(s) has been absolutely fine in the past.
I think some people think bisexual people can't be monogamous, judging by some of the comments. 🙃

@Lillibridge why do you think your a "little bisexual"? But then they say everyone is bi to a certain degree

I find it bizarre that people would struggle with this. I wouldn’t have a problem at all. But given the responses on here you probably should be honest from the get go.

Genders or sexes? There’s a difference.

@pinkteddy thats good to hear, I do remember going on a few dates with a girl and after I told her that I was bi (she was bi too) she said it was a problem

One of my closest male friends is the same as you. He’s now married with a child and very happy. I don’t know if he ever told his wife but I did think whether it’s something I would be cool with and it’s no.

The reason women don’t like it is that men are inherently more sexually driven which means the likelihood of late night Grindr hook-ups is higher and with that the risk of sexually transmitted diseases goes up. Some women couldn’t mind at all and might be bisexual themselves and consider a free and open sex life to be liberating and modern. In your position I’d be trying to find one of those girlfriends instead of springing it on a wife down the line and turning her life upside down.

Yes its a turn off.

I wouldn’t want to be with a man who I knew had had sex with other men, no.

A turn off and I would be concerned about health risks.

Personally, I wouldn’t get with someone who is bisexual.

Yes, I think the same thing.