Is a man being bisexual a turn off?

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As a man I think im bisexual but when it comes to dating and being in relationships I only see myself with women, I also want a family someday also. Apparently lots of women are turned off by bisexual men where as a lot of men dont mind bisexual women, I also dont like the idea of hiding it from my future partner because I think your partner should know everything.

Would my sexuality be a problem?

Hard agree. ^

I have never EVER been sexually attracted to a woman. You can think a woman is pretty/attractive/sexy without wanting to shag her..... I have always thought that Debbie Harry is stunning, sexy, and beautiful. Same with Kim Wilde....

Doesn't mean I want to kiss them, snog them, or have sex with them!

I agree that 'everyone is a little bit bi' is a crock of shite, often perpetuated by people who are.

I can’t explain it but I am attracted to straight men and gay women. I have had relationships with both over the years but I don’t really fancy dating bisexual people of either sex myself.

It would be a turn off for me (it's theoretical I'm married). I think I would spend the time wondering if I was enough or if purely because you want a family and conformity.

But that's just a personal preference I want a heterosexual only man.

There are many women it wouldn't be an issue for.

So only sexually? You see, that would be my "problem". In theory it would be doubling the chances of infidelity to say nothing of STI's. Also, as another poster said, I'd never be sure if I was totally fulfilling you.

I literally said I don't have a problem with it

And I got my post deleted for saying Mumsnet hate bisexuals even though this thread is literally proving me right lmao

Oh fuck off. I am a heterosexual woman and I only want to be with heterosexual men. I don’t want to have sex with someone who has had sex with men and it is not exactly a wild suggestion that men can engage in sexually risky behaviour which can cause diseases, and some of these behaviours are well known in the community of men who have sex with men. Why do you think men who have sex with men were prevented from giving blood for a number of years?

I have no issue with men or women having sex with whoever they want. But for the purposes of my own sexual activity, I would not want to have sex with a man who had sex with other males.

It’s my body and my choice who I want nesr it for the purposes of sexual activity, for whatever reason I choose.

So get right to fuck with your “homophobia” bullshit.

The old trope of everyone is bisexual is actually damaging. When I was a teenager I had a group of friends who were convinced everyone was bisexual and tried to coerce me into situations I was uncomfortable with. I am heterosexual with no interest in same sex encounters.
I also wouldn’t want a relationship with a man who was bisexual as my friend was recently left by her husband who decided to rediscover his sexuality when they had two under two. Not a risk I’d be willing to take.

No, I don’t have an issue with it.

I'm bi, and prefer to date other bisexual people because I don't have to deal with the prejudice that you can get with some monosexual people.

But tbh, I have never encountered the level of biphobia in real life that i regularly see on Mumsnet.

A turn off for me

"when it comes to dating and being in relationships I only see myself with women, I also want a family someday also."

That's the bit that would be the main turnoff for me, oddly. If you were attracted to people, and had previously had or would consider a relationship with a man then mmm maybe. But I wouldn't want to be with anyone who only likes one whole group for loveless sex alone. To me that would make me think you were just looking for a beard/broodmare and would be off in gay clubs two towns away as soon as you were bored and my back was turned looking after a baby.

'Biphobic' can get in the bin 🫠

No, I wouldn't date you, would just assume you are gay and give you a swerve (romantically).

What’s monosexual?

As a bi woman married to a bi man (he realised after we got together) I personally prefer being with a bi person. They can understand the specific experience of being labelled depending on who you date, the different 'genres' of attraction to different people, less weird about dating history. We have interesting conversations about attractiveness, bi representation in media, all that stuff.

Sadly biphobia particularly against men is quite common in a hetero dating context. Same old "oh he is gay then" when actually DH is more biased towards women and very few bi people are 50/50 split in their attraction. I wish you luck OP, it's definitely possible but I would consider searching for bi women who are more likely to Get It.

I am utterly repulsed at the thought of being in a relationship with a bisexual man.

How is this anything other than bigotry? These threads always go the same way. Biphobia is absolutely rampant on here and the fact people are so willing to come and loudly shout about their prejudice is not the win they think it is.

What exactly is discriminatory about what Zov said?

If you want to shag men but only be in relationships with women, I think I'd worry that you are really gay but wanting to do the wife and kids thing because you feel like you should.

@bignewprinz I dont think its biphobic to not want to date a bi man because at the end of the day its a preference.

Yeah this.

I don’t understand why you would be physically attracted to both sexes but you only want relationships or a family with women. That does have a whiff of “actually gay but in denial” about it.

I do not believe all bi people are gay, at all, but for me a truly bi person would be open to having a relationship with a man or a woman.

Did you actually read the post I responded to? It was packed full of biphobic tropes like you must really be gay and you just want to use a woman to have a family. What is NOT discriminatory about that? Zov doesn’t get to police the thread and tell people to shut up when they call out bigotry.

I would feel like this too.
I think id be concerned that they were gay but not wanting to come fully out

I’m repulsed at the thought of having sex with another woman, it’s a complete and utter turn off. That doesn’t make me a bigot, it makes me heterosexual! People are allowed to be turned off and disgusted by things other people like or are fine with. Lots of straight people engage in anal sex, the thought makes me physically bork, I’d probably vomit if I actually did it. Does that mean I’m bigoted towards straight people too?