Long winded text I've written to send to a man I like, thoughts?!

[BeBe05]

Hi T , because I've felt like this since last December. Would you like to come over for a drink some time? (When the kids are in bed) I know you probably won't , but just in case you do want to get to know me better, I thought I'd ask. As I know this is awkward. If you don't reply I'll take it as a no. And when I next see you , please be the same as before , although I may laugh. Because that's what I do when I'm embarrassed. Also, please don't tell anyone either way.
Also, I'm guessing no. Feels like when I was 8 years old and I told a boy called Lawrence in my class I Iiked him, I was so innocent. He called me a pig and broke my little heart. I still am innocent. I feel this maybe this again but hopefully without you calling me a pig. A thing I've made up in my head, because you are a polite man who doesn't gruff at me and surprises me when you talk from your heart. I've.not been use to that apart from with my brother's . P never would. Also, he would call me expletives most days, so any man not doing that would unfortunately gain my interest. God what an essay.
Don't reply please as I know it's completely crazy .
Also, just so you know every time you waved hello at me in the morning on the school run in your van. You made a woman who had so low self esteem feel just a little bit better about herself. Like she mattered enough to be noticed. Thanks for that.
And, also please don't be weird with me after this , as I really was hoping to ask you if you could help with the training at school (if your doing that) as my younger two go to bed at 7:30 .
Anyway , have a nice evening , and also thanks for how much you give to L at football, your a good guy.

No.

Honestly I think you should ring him.

Don't send it!!!!

Edit to would you like to come round for a drink some time when the kids are in bed?
Sounds like you've had lots of tough times and he sounds like a good guy but that would put a hell of a lot of pressure on anything happening going forward.

Really? Surely you don't think that's a good idea???? Just text, do you fancy a drink one night?

I really hope you haven’t sent that 🙈

No no no, way too much. That’s quite a burden to place on someone else to carry.

Oh no please don’t display all you vulnerabilities like this, you are making it easy for him to be less than you deserve. Try just “hi t would you like to come over for a drink one eve when the kids are in bed?”. Just that.

God no, don't send that word salad!

Just ask him over for a drink and see what happens. If he's interested, he'll seize the opportunity. If he's not, he'll make an excuse. Either way you'll know.

Please, please do not send that for Christ’s sake.

There’s too much wrong with it to even start giving constructive criticism.

Good grief. Hopefully you'd be running for the hills if someone sent you that?

Just suggest a drink or something and if it goes well talk to him.

Jeez no. Are you on glue ?

I mean.. dont send that.

Whats wrong with "hi T, hope you've had a nice weekend. I wondered if you fancied meeting for a drink sometime?"

Bloody hell, that's far too much to send. Simply ask him if he'd like to go for a drink some time. You could say all the other stuff (if you really need to) at a much later date.

Dear GOD, no. Absolutely not. Not in a month of Sundays. No.

Don’t send that. Are you sure they are single? If so one of the messages above are much better.

Don't send it.
For a start, telling someone about your low self-esteem is only going to be attractive to someone who likes their women vulnerable. It is asking to be taken advantage of.
It's nearly Christmas, you can ask him in person after you've been chatting if he'd like to go for a walk/drink/coffee. But don't ask a stranger round to your house for drinks or anything else.

Please don't!It will haunt you tomorrow!

Please don’t send this.

in the kindest way possible you are your own PR campaign, headed: Please abuse me because I’ll accept every tiny crumb you throw me and every single piece of bullshit you sell to me’

If someone sent me that guff I’d be worried for my safety. Get a fucking grip OP, this is not normal.

Good lord no - do not send that!!! 😲

Receiving that would put him off even if he was previously keen, it’s too intense, too self-deprecating, and too long. And if he says no he will be weird after, whereas if you send a couple of breezy sentences it’s easy for him to say either yes or no then it’s easy for you both to move on without awkwardness.

Plus, to add a bit more, please don’t tell potential dates that you have no self esteem, low confidence and are used to being a doormat and treated badly. Only someone seeking to abuse that position would respond with any enthusiasm. I think you need to work on yourself and get support/therapy before starting a relationship.

"Hi T. Would you like to come over/go out for a drink sometime?"

Sorted.
He will reply with "yes great" or "no thanks"

I hope you havent already sent whats in your op!

You sounds totally nuts in that message, I imagine he would run a mile.

What about “hi T, let me know if you fancy a drink sometimes, Bebe x

Please, @BeBe05 , do yourself a huge favour and read WOMEN WHO LOVE TOO MUCH.