Long winded text I've written to send to a man I like, thoughts?!

[BeBe05]

Hi T , because I've felt like this since last December. Would you like to come over for a drink some time? (When the kids are in bed) I know you probably won't , but just in case you do want to get to know me better, I thought I'd ask. As I know this is awkward. If you don't reply I'll take it as a no. And when I next see you , please be the same as before , although I may laugh. Because that's what I do when I'm embarrassed. Also, please don't tell anyone either way.
Also, I'm guessing no. Feels like when I was 8 years old and I told a boy called Lawrence in my class I Iiked him, I was so innocent. He called me a pig and broke my little heart. I still am innocent. I feel this maybe this again but hopefully without you calling me a pig. A thing I've made up in my head, because you are a polite man who doesn't gruff at me and surprises me when you talk from your heart. I've.not been use to that apart from with my brother's . P never would. Also, he would call me expletives most days, so any man not doing that would unfortunately gain my interest. God what an essay.
Don't reply please as I know it's completely crazy .
Also, just so you know every time you waved hello at me in the morning on the school run in your van. You made a woman who had so low self esteem feel just a little bit better about herself. Like she mattered enough to be noticed. Thanks for that.
And, also please don't be weird with me after this , as I really was hoping to ask you if you could help with the training at school (if your doing that) as my younger two go to bed at 7:30 .
Anyway , have a nice evening , and also thanks for how much you give to L at football, your a good guy.

As others have said, don't. Way too much. If it was a bloke sending this to a woman there'd be red flags all over the shop. Please read the above comments from others, there's some good stuff there.

Ewwwwww

omg. Do not send that to anyone as it is a mess in every way possible. It’s embarrassing as you sound like a weirdo with lots of issues. It’s just dreadful in every way.

call and say hi, I was wondering if you’d like a drink sometime. Simple.

Yikes!

Good job you asked here first op. I know it must have taken courage, but take it as a positive that you found out you shouldn’t send it. Hopefully a simple ‘do you fancy a drink?’ does the trick.

Honestly if I got that text I would actively avoid the person who sent it for the rest of my life!

Hi t, wondering if you would be free for a drink, wanted to run something to do with training by you. No worries if not.

No do not send the text. I assume you know if T is married or not?

Please no.
Ring him - Hey T isn't BeBe05, I wondered if you fancied coming over for a drink. I'm free Wednesday and Friday, either good for you?

No, no, no, no!

Bloody hell, NO! Do not send that. It's far, far, far too long winded and full of waffle.

Just a simple and concise message such as "Hi, I was wondering if you would like to meet up for a drink sometime (next week)?"

Are you even sure that he is not married or in a relationship?

Op just ask him for a drink, the first sentence.

Do not send the trauma dumping, self pitying stuff, it will make him feel extremely awkward.

Do not say "you probably won't" as it sounds like you're calling him an arsehole before he's even had chance to respond. Don't tell him to keep it a secret either as it sounds like your embarrassed about liking him.

Just a simple, "Hi T, would you like to come round for a drink sometime?"

I agree with others that maybe you need to speak to a professional about some of your self esteem issues and thereforw have someone appropriate to say and work through some of these past traumas with, not a potential date. Xx

This

This isn't real. Stop wasting everyone's time. Why on earth would a complete stranger want to hear your unfiltered stream of consciousness?

Jesus Christ absolutely do not send that text. Even if he does like you he'll be completely put off by reading that.

Christ alive! Don’t send that! You sound needy as hell!

Ask him out op not to your house. He doesn’t need your story.

Crikey!

Don’t send it. You rarely get a full house on here, and yet you’ve managed it.

If he’s your child’s football coach, then please don’t text him at all. Just be friendly and approachable and see what develops.

The above works.

Also. Book a baby sitter. please.

Don't invite someone you hardly know to your house for a drink on a first date. It either gives the wrong impression or its too much pressure. Meet somewhere neutral and public.

Also.. your text sounds like you want someone to confess all your woes to.. you should do that to a personal friend or a therapist... not on a date.

. If you go in on an informal, simple no pressure basis , a sort of shrug your shoulders kind of way, then there's no damage done if one or other of you decides its a first and final. Its just a drink in a bar, (or gastropub where you can move on to dinner) and that means you can meet again without embarrassment.

Please don't send that.

💯 this

Kindly OP, do you have mental health issues? Please address that before unloading on some poor man you knew years a go.

Op just as a tip - never, ever tell a man you have low self esteem - unless you are already in a deeply trusting relationship with them

You are literally asking them to be abusive.

You need therapy.

If you must text how about something like "do you fancy going out for a drink or something at some point? Just thought I would ask as I would like to get to know you better. No worries if you don't fancy it though". Breezy and leaving it open for a yes or a no without seeming desperate. Better still ask in person. Good luck 🤞

Nobody is quite that clueless.
OP has dropped that pile of nonsense and disappeared. Don’t waste your time replying

Delete that immediately. If this is a genuine post then the least said the better, just ask him round for a drink in a casual way you're trying to control the situation by closing every possible loophole of potential embarrassment but you can't. Sometimes we shoot our shot and are told no, but it doesn't have to be like this.

It reads like a stream of consciousness, he doesn't need to know about that kid and you'd do well to let that go too, just ask "hey, fancy coming round for a drink one evening?". You can 5ell him you've liked him since December when and if you know he likes you too.

Do not, under any circumstances, ever send that text.