Lied about his height

rubberduck68 · 2025-10-27T10:29:12+00:00

I went on a date last night (met online). In his profile he said he was 6ft (I have nothing set for height restrictions) but when he turned up I knew he was not 6ft. My ex-husband, family members and male friends are 6ft. I know what 6ft looks like. I’d put him at 5ft 10” on a good day. I asked him about it and he said, “I’m 5ft 11” seemed silly to worry about an inch.” I don’t care how tall he is, but I am worried that this is an indication that he will lie about other things too? I don't date the men who put in their profile “Not really 55, 65” as though my chosen age filters are not important. Is this the same? Anyone dated someone who lied about this online, and they turned out to be an honest, okay guy?

DressOrSkirt · 27/10/2025 10:31

The lying would be a red flag for me. How was the rest of the date?

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rubberduck68 · 27/10/2025 10:44

DressOrSkirt · 27/10/2025 10:31

The lying would be a red flag for me. How was the rest of the date?

The rest of the date was okay. I was not really into it from the outset when I saw that he had lied, hard to tell how I might have felt if he'd turned up having not lied. Not sure if I am overreacting or not.

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HenDoNot · 27/10/2025 10:49

When it starts out on a lie, they know it’s a lie, and they know you will know it’s a lie, I would view it as ‘boundary testing’ behaviour… The start of “let’s see what I can get away with”.

YaWeeFurryBastard · 27/10/2025 10:50

Complete non-issue. How many women would round down their weight if they had to declare it? I know I would.

GoldDuster · 27/10/2025 10:51

I've got an alternative perspective, as a female friend of some "short" men. There is an obesession with dating six foot plus, and while it's pointless to lie unless you're going to wear platform shoes on the date, it does get you on a date in the first place.

What you make of this is up to you, for me it wouldn't be an indicator of someone with bad character, would he be worth a second date otherwise, this aside? Personally if I was a man under six foot I wouldn't be interested in wangling a date with a woman who was as shallow as to prescribe six foot plus men only.

Danioyellow · 27/10/2025 10:53

YaWeeFurryBastard · 27/10/2025 10:50

Complete non-issue. How many women would round down their weight if they had to declare it? I know I would.

I wouldn’t, because I'm not a liar. Wouldn’t you feel worse pretending you were skinner than you were, and then having to turn up looking fatter than expected? I’d rather it the other way round. How embarrassing

columnatedruinsdomino · 27/10/2025 10:53

Height obviously means a lot to you as I wouldn't have a clue what a 6' person looked like let alone discern they were 'lying' about being an inch or so shorter!

THisbackwithavengeance · 27/10/2025 10:55

I would 100% lie if asked about my weight on an online dating site. So I imagine men do the same re height.

I wouldn’t care about a couple of inches; of course it’s different if he’s claiming to be 6’2” and he’s actually 5’2”.

I’m surprised you didn’t whip a tape measure out your handbag OP and ask him to prove it.

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rubberduck68 · 27/10/2025 10:56

columnatedruinsdomino · 27/10/2025 10:53

Height obviously means a lot to you as I wouldn't have a clue what a 6' person looked like let alone discern they were 'lying' about being an inch or so shorter!

In my original post I say "I have nothing set for height restrictions." I don't care about height. I care about dating someone honest.

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SardinesOnGingerbread · 27/10/2025 10:56

I agree that I wouldn't start a relationship on a lie. It's a no from me.

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rubberduck68 · 27/10/2025 10:57

GoldDuster · 27/10/2025 10:51

I've got an alternative perspective, as a female friend of some "short" men. There is an obesession with dating six foot plus, and while it's pointless to lie unless you're going to wear platform shoes on the date, it does get you on a date in the first place.

What you make of this is up to you, for me it wouldn't be an indicator of someone with bad character, would he be worth a second date otherwise, this aside? Personally if I was a man under six foot I wouldn't be interested in wangling a date with a woman who was as shallow as to prescribe six foot plus men only.

In my original post I say "I have nothing set for height restrictions." I don't care about height. I care about dating someone honest. By lying about his height he has put himself into that "shallow" bracket of women only seeking men of this height?

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idri · 27/10/2025 10:57

I don’t think it’s a big deal.

I think a LOT of men lie about their height when they are under 6 foot. My partner, as far as I’m aware, is not a big liar or a red flag (but I guess you never know!) and he definitely adds a couple of inches onto his height when I know he’s not that tall.

I think it’s just insecurity. Silly lie though.

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rubberduck68 · 27/10/2025 10:58

THisbackwithavengeance · 27/10/2025 10:55

I would 100% lie if asked about my weight on an online dating site. So I imagine men do the same re height.

I wouldn’t care about a couple of inches; of course it’s different if he’s claiming to be 6’2” and he’s actually 5’2”.

I’m surprised you didn’t whip a tape measure out your handbag OP and ask him to prove it.

Weight is not an option to select on dating apps, whereas height is. His profile said he was 6ft because he had typed that in.

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 27/10/2025 10:59

I agree the lying is weird and suggests insecurity or a desperation for sex

The right man is comfortable in himself and doesnt care about a silly internet fad (re being over 6ft to be desirable) 🙄

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rubberduck68 · 27/10/2025 10:59

columnatedruinsdomino · 27/10/2025 10:53

Height obviously means a lot to you as I wouldn't have a clue what a 6' person looked like let alone discern they were 'lying' about being an inch or so shorter!

In my original post I say "I have nothing set for height restrictions." I don't care about height. I care about dating an honest man.

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rubberduck68 · 27/10/2025 11:00

There are a lot of replies implying that I care about height. I don't. I say so in my post. I want to know if lying about this means he might be a liar generally, or not?

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isitmytime · 27/10/2025 11:00

I don’t understand the reason to lie about something so obvious as height. When I was OLD I met with someone who was allegedly 6ft. I turned up we were eye to eye and I’m only 5ft8!
he was absolutely adamant that he was 6ft though and would not back down at all!
height doesn’t bother me much but lying does

Goldfoxwife · 27/10/2025 11:00

None issue over reaction from you

TwistedWonder · 27/10/2025 11:01

I’ve had the same and it’s the lying that’s an absolute deal breaker for me.

Same as when they knock a few years off their age.

When they lie from the off, that’s me out

Randomer75 · 27/10/2025 11:02

GoldDuster · 27/10/2025 10:51

I've got an alternative perspective, as a female friend of some "short" men. There is an obesession with dating six foot plus, and while it's pointless to lie unless you're going to wear platform shoes on the date, it does get you on a date in the first place.

What you make of this is up to you, for me it wouldn't be an indicator of someone with bad character, would he be worth a second date otherwise, this aside? Personally if I was a man under six foot I wouldn't be interested in wangling a date with a woman who was as shallow as to prescribe six foot plus men only.

But do they actually want to be in a relationship with someone for whom height is that important?

Why bother bagging the date, when the person is shallow anyway.

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rubberduck68 · 27/10/2025 11:02

isitmytime · 27/10/2025 11:00

I don’t understand the reason to lie about something so obvious as height. When I was OLD I met with someone who was allegedly 6ft. I turned up we were eye to eye and I’m only 5ft8!
he was absolutely adamant that he was 6ft though and would not back down at all!
height doesn’t bother me much but lying does

This is my concern too. Not his height, but his honesty.

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Belladog1 · 27/10/2025 11:03

I met my partner online. He had to put a height range, and he chose 6ft (he swears to god he didn't). It turns out he is about 5ft 8.

I couldn't give a monkeys, but I rib him about it occasionally. I go for what's inside, not the physical.

Chinupchindownchinroundandround · 27/10/2025 11:04

columnatedruinsdomino · 27/10/2025 10:53

Height obviously means a lot to you as I wouldn't have a clue what a 6' person looked like let alone discern they were 'lying' about being an inch or so shorter!

She said in her OP she didn't care about height. It's the lying. And lying is lying regardless how small the lie is

And you really can't tell what a 6ft person looks like? Really? 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

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rubberduck68 · 27/10/2025 11:04

columnatedruinsdomino · 27/10/2025 10:53

Height obviously means a lot to you as I wouldn't have a clue what a 6' person looked like let alone discern they were 'lying' about being an inch or so shorter!

Nope. Read my post, it doesn't. Honesty means a lot to me. I've dated liars before and I don't want to do that again.

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TwistedWonder · 27/10/2025 11:07

isitmytime · 27/10/2025 11:00

I don’t understand the reason to lie about something so obvious as height. When I was OLD I met with someone who was allegedly 6ft. I turned up we were eye to eye and I’m only 5ft8!
he was absolutely adamant that he was 6ft though and would not back down at all!
height doesn’t bother me much but lying does

I went on a date with a man who said in his bio he was 5’11 and 54 - he was actually about 5’8 and 59.

He was an attractive articulate guy and we had a great date but I couldn’t get past the lies - which he said were typos. Hmm that’s why his user name was along the lines of Dave1970