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Lied about his height

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rubberduck68 · 27/10/2025 10:29

I went on a date last night (met online). In his profile he said he was 6ft (I have nothing set for height restrictions) but when he turned up I knew he was not 6ft. My ex-husband, family members and male friends are 6ft. I know what 6ft looks like. I’d put him at 5ft 10” on a good day. I asked him about it and he said, “I’m 5ft 11” seemed silly to worry about an inch.” I don’t care how tall he is, but I am worried that this is an indication that he will lie about other things too? I don't date the men who put in their profile “Not really 55, 65” as though my chosen age filters are not important. Is this the same?

Anyone dated someone who lied about this online, and they turned out to be an honest, okay guy?

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DingDongJingle · 27/10/2025 12:25

rubberduck68 · 27/10/2025 11:00

There are a lot of replies implying that I care about height. I don't. I say so in my post. I want to know if lying about this means he might be a liar generally, or not?

Well how would we know? It may be the only lie he’s ever told, he may lie as easily as he breathes. We’ve never met him, so it’s impossible to tell.

AdoraBell · 27/10/2025 12:25

For me the height wouldn’t be a problem but I would have had asked why he didn’t put the right figures on his profile.

That said, I’m not dating and haven’t used online dating.

jonathanwoss · 27/10/2025 12:26

how many women lie about their weight, past sexual partners etc, I bet if you actually fancied him or the energy on the date, this post wouldn't have happened.

Let's be honest lol

WhamBamThankU · 27/10/2025 12:26

I had a height filter on when i used dating apps because I’m tall and just not into shorter men. I wouldn’t bother with him again after lying about a basic like that.

BountifulPantry · 27/10/2025 12:27

MaryLennoxsScowl · 27/10/2025 12:16

It says to me that he’s been following those misogynistic twats who say that women will put out for 6’ alphas. No woman I’ve ever met cares about height unless the man is really particularly tiny or shorter than them - say under 5’5” you might have an issue. A couple of inches short of 6’ is not a problem for anyone! So he’s not only lying, he’s doing it from a very dodgy perspective that’s a lot more troubling than a missing inch. And he’s belittled your concern.

I agree generally except it’s worth noting that in other countries the average height of men is shorter that Europe/ USA. So 5ft5 might be about average there.

agree for the UK though.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 27/10/2025 12:29

GoldDuster · 27/10/2025 10:51

I've got an alternative perspective, as a female friend of some "short" men. There is an obesession with dating six foot plus, and while it's pointless to lie unless you're going to wear platform shoes on the date, it does get you on a date in the first place.

What you make of this is up to you, for me it wouldn't be an indicator of someone with bad character, would he be worth a second date otherwise, this aside? Personally if I was a man under six foot I wouldn't be interested in wangling a date with a woman who was as shallow as to prescribe six foot plus men only.

I feel like, if you cant get a woman unless you lie about your height, you are going for the wrong women

This woman wants a certain physical characteristic and your friends dont have it, meaning they arent in the league that she is in

They should go for women who are in their league

Its like me knocking a few stone off my weight to attract a man who likes slim women, knowing full well that they dont see me as desirable 😭😭

As long as a man isnt dickish about it, i have no problem with a man liking slim women and it should be the same for men, stop whining and date a woman who doesnt care about height

PuggyPuggyPuggy · 27/10/2025 12:30

rubberduck68 · 27/10/2025 12:12

I don't wear heels, I'm a trainers person so I know exactly where I was height wise on my ex husband, and I know when that's at least a couple of inches out... you can tell by how far you have to look up!!

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ok... but is he an inch below 6ft, or at least a couple of inches below 6ft? I'm 5'10" , so I would judge people to be "about my height", "taller than me", or "shorter than me". I wouldn't be able to put a number on it because I don't care about height to the degree that I have no idea how tall anyone in my life is, so I'm not mentally using them as measuring sticks for new people 🤷

ThatJollyGreySquid · 27/10/2025 12:30

I have recently met a man on OLD who said he was 5’7, I think he may be a little shorter but I wouldn’t really know-I’m 5’3 so definitely shorter. I’d set my filter to 5’6 -6’ . I’m really having a lovely time with him. We’ve just had our sixth date. I don’t mind if he exaggerated his height a little.

notatinydancer · 27/10/2025 12:30

YaWeeFurryBastard · 27/10/2025 10:50

Complete non-issue. How many women would round down their weight if they had to declare it? I know I would.

No. Because the date would be awkward and you’d be lying from day one. How weird.

HenDoNot · 27/10/2025 12:31

Lying about height and age is an indicator of a man who thinks women owe him a chance/date.

People are entitled to filter people out on dating apps, based on any criteria they like.

Let’s be honest lol
Oh the irony.

C8H10N4O2 · 27/10/2025 12:32

rubberduck68 · 27/10/2025 11:48

He realised. He admitted he'd lied about it on the date then got ahead of my concern by calling it "silly" to worry about that.

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You are silly because you have a problem with liars? That would put me off.

If he had said “I’m a bit insecure about my height so I added a bit” and had been honest about everything else I’d be unimpressed but not automatically a deal breaker. Being told I was “silly” to care about honesty by someone supposedly looking for a relationship would be a massive turn off.

I think also age is relevant. If you/he are 50+ and he still isn’t settled in his own skin then he wouldn’t be the person for me.

McSock · 27/10/2025 12:32

Don't bother with him, who knows where his outrageous dishonesty may lead.

He may end up telling you your hair looks great or your bum doesn't look big in that!

MrsSlocombesCat · 27/10/2025 12:33

My son is shorter than his brothers. He tries to claim he's 5"11 but he's not. More like 5"9 if that. He clearly hates being the shortest but it's not a hill to die on, is it?

ViewFromTotherSide · 27/10/2025 12:34

OP it’s clear from his response that the guy purposefully lied which is to be honest imho iffy. If you really liked the guy you wouldn’t be posting here about it…

If he had instead told you he thought he was 6’ he might have been telling the truth as not all blokes actually know how tall they are or how much they currently weigh or their accurate shoe size even.

I’m 5’ 11” ish and for some years I thought I was 6’ because everyone (since schooldays) kept referring to me as 6’ and I didn’t really care - I was usually over 6’ in my boots. That said, maybe I was 6’ but am now not?

Footwear I’ve always worn size 9 since I was at school but recently discovered when I moved to more expensive brands that I’m actually more like 8.5.

UpDownAllAround1 · 27/10/2025 12:36

does it really matter? Are you ready for OLD is more relevant

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rubberduck68 · 27/10/2025 12:40

UpDownAllAround1 · 27/10/2025 12:36

does it really matter? Are you ready for OLD is more relevant

I think so... done it on and off for a while, weeded out the usual weirdos and sex pests... it is what it is... but I've not met the lying height man before although it would seem according to posts on here, he's quite common!

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Blodwynne · 27/10/2025 12:46

FrauPaige · 27/10/2025 11:08

An inch? A single inch?

Was he wearing Oxford's as opposed to casual leather boots because that is the difference between 6ft and 5ft11

The single inch matters to him!

JosephineBoneApart · 27/10/2025 12:47

People use OLD because they are not having any luck elsewhere.

I think it's quite sad that men and women have to lie to meet certain expectations and for men it's often being a certain height.

Some people lie indirectly by not having full length photos or old photos.

Maybe he thought an extra inch would max his 'likes' and dates. And maybe he'd hope a woman would like him enough to ignore the slight exaggeration.

No one can tell you if he's married with 6 kids or is an angel.

You need to decide and it sounds as if it's bothering you too much.

I'd be pretty put out if the boot was on the other foot and some man said 'Josephine, you told me you were 5 5" and I can assure you I know you're 5 4" because my ex was 5 5" and you are definitely shorter'.

No5ChalksRoad · 27/10/2025 12:48

TwistedWonder · 27/10/2025 11:33

Why shouldn’t lies be called out! It’s not rude at all to pull someone up on dishonesty.

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I wonder if you’d challenge a new coworker, book club friend, school mum or boss on every thing they claimed.

A first date is just a meeting with a new acquaintance. They haven’t taken vows. By all means evaluate them, and decide against a second meeting for any reason.

But aggressively confronting a stranger about their supposed transgressions is quite obnoxious. One can have boundaries without “gotcha!” and finger-wagging.

Blodwynne · 27/10/2025 12:49

"aggressively confronting a stranger about their supposed transgressions is quite obnoxious. One can have boundaries without “gotcha!” and finger-wagging."
Oh the irony!

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rubberduck68 · 27/10/2025 12:49

Blodwynne · 27/10/2025 12:49

"aggressively confronting a stranger about their supposed transgressions is quite obnoxious. One can have boundaries without “gotcha!” and finger-wagging."
Oh the irony!

😂

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DramaAlpaca · 27/10/2025 12:50

I'm with you, OP. I like tall men because I'm tall myself, but I cannot bear people who tell lies.

MarvellousMonsters · 27/10/2025 12:50

If he’s comfortable lying about something that easily rumbled, how much will he lie about that isn’t visible? Hmm

roses2 · 27/10/2025 12:51

Unless you are of similar height and height is important to you this is a non issue and he was likely rounding if you are talking about two inches here. It's not as though he is really 5ft7 and said he was 6ft.

It sounds as though the overall date didn't go well which is why this is being added to a list of issues in which case send this one back and carry on looking.

JosephineBoneApart · 27/10/2025 12:53

Blodwynne · 27/10/2025 12:49

"aggressively confronting a stranger about their supposed transgressions is quite obnoxious. One can have boundaries without “gotcha!” and finger-wagging."
Oh the irony!

Except the 'stranger ' here has asked for opinions. So it's not really ironic (another word that everyone likes to throw out on MN when they read something they don't agree with.)