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rubberduck68 · 2025-10-27T10:29:12+00:00

I went on a date last night (met online). In his profile he said he was 6ft (I have nothing set for height restrictions) but when he turned up I knew he was not 6ft. My ex-husband, family members and male friends are 6ft. I know what 6ft looks like. I’d put him at 5ft 10” on a good day. I asked him about it and he said, “I’m 5ft 11” seemed silly to worry about an inch.” I don’t care how tall he is, but I am worried that this is an indication that he will lie about other things too? I don't date the men who put in their profile “Not really 55, 65” as though my chosen age filters are not important. Is this the same? Anyone dated someone who lied about this online, and they turned out to be an honest, okay guy?

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rubberduck68 · 27/10/2025 11:51

Bagsintheboot · 27/10/2025 11:48

Look, this thread is a bit pointless isn't it. If you can't get past the lie, don't date him again. If it's not that big a deal and you liked him in person, there's no harm in a second date.

We don't know why he lied. Maybe he's a serial conniver desperate to get his end away, maybe he's a decent type who made an error of judgement.

You're the only one who's met him in person and can make the judgement OP.

I can't make that judgement from one date. I came on here to see if it's a common thing, and if it means it's a bigger picture problem or not. If you think it's pointless, just don't engage.

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Cheesyfootballs01 · 27/10/2025 11:52

OP his reason for lying would be my concern.

“I asked him about it and he said, “I’m 5ft 11” seemed silly to worry about an inch.”

Interestingly he didn’t round his height down, no?

It would make me think that he listens to the internet ‘ bros’ who think that women all want 6” men. I would be cautious and probably not pursue it further.

McSock · 27/10/2025 11:53

Perhaps do him a favour and block him?

Give him short shrift.

badstrict · 27/10/2025 11:53

I’m very black and white (autistic) and I don’t tolerate lies. This guy would be filed in the bin.

KittyMacNitty · 27/10/2025 11:53

I met a guy online years ago and we had a first date at The French House Pub in Soho where they are known for a huge range of different kinds of beer. When I arrived he had a bog standard bottle of ale and was not 6 ft tall. I am 5'7 and we were eyeball to eyeball. I drank my beer (an unusual one) and said I had something to go onto, nice meeting you etc and left.

Maraa · 27/10/2025 11:54

I think you’re getting an unnecessary hard time here. You’ve stated you’re not bothered about height but want honesty in a partner…. He hasn’t been honest about his height, your right to be annoyed from the outset. He wasn’t honest, and that’s it. I’d feel the same too! And again, I’m not bothered about height and have dated what they would call “a short king”.

Figroll16 · 27/10/2025 11:56

It’s not about the height-it’s about how he lied. That would put me off too OP

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rubberduck68 · 27/10/2025 11:56

McSock · 27/10/2025 11:53

Perhaps do him a favour and block him?

Give him short shrift.

A favour? Why, because women with standards and boundaries are such hard work?!

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Bagsintheboot · 27/10/2025 11:57

rubberduck68 · 27/10/2025 11:51

I can't make that judgement from one date. I came on here to see if it's a common thing, and if it means it's a bigger picture problem or not. If you think it's pointless, just don't engage.

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It is pointless though OP. Some people who lie will be bastards. Some people who lie will be generally decent. You're asking strangers to make a judgement call on someone based on a very tiny element of their entire, complex personality.

Only you can decide if you like him enough to see him again. I would suggest though that if you're overthinking to this extent already, you're probably going to find dating extremely tiring.

Lockdownsceptic · 27/10/2025 11:57

If he is obviously not 6 ft then he is a lot shorter then 5 foot 11. How old is he? Some men do shrink as they get older and would state the height they used to be but I don’t think that applies in this case.
If this is the only red flag and you like him, otherwise I wouldn’t bother much about it but if you catch him out in any more lies, I’d be out

NopeNopeNopeNopeNope99 · 27/10/2025 11:58

GoldDuster · 27/10/2025 10:51

I've got an alternative perspective, as a female friend of some "short" men. There is an obesession with dating six foot plus, and while it's pointless to lie unless you're going to wear platform shoes on the date, it does get you on a date in the first place.

What you make of this is up to you, for me it wouldn't be an indicator of someone with bad character, would he be worth a second date otherwise, this aside? Personally if I was a man under six foot I wouldn't be interested in wangling a date with a woman who was as shallow as to prescribe six foot plus men only.

I am 6ft3 female, am I allowed to date people my height? Or would you think me shallow too?

EstherGreenwood63 · 27/10/2025 11:58

No to silly liars. Bye Felipe.

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rubberduck68 · 27/10/2025 11:58

Maraa · 27/10/2025 11:54

I think you’re getting an unnecessary hard time here. You’ve stated you’re not bothered about height but want honesty in a partner…. He hasn’t been honest about his height, your right to be annoyed from the outset. He wasn’t honest, and that’s it. I’d feel the same too! And again, I’m not bothered about height and have dated what they would call “a short king”.

My ex was 5ft 8" which is close in height to me.

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ShesNeverSeenAShadeOfGray · 27/10/2025 12:02

Height is apparently one of those things that gets listed on a lot of dating sites. Personally, I reckon if someone is going to lie about their height, then that's an indicator that they're insecure about it as well as a liar, two things I don't want to deal with in a guy. Insecurity usually comes out in other ridiculous behaviour, too, so I would be out.

TenGreatFatSquirrels · 27/10/2025 12:06

I think men have developed this weird obsession with being over 6ft and thinking that women won’t date anyone shorter (I’ve never met anyone who cared - maybe not a man shorter than them but the 6ft limit is bollocks). And they somehow think we will be blown away by them and decide THIS 5’10 is ok because I like him. Like they’re getting the foot in the door. And then they take rejections that are due to the lie and say it’s because of their height… and the cycle continues

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rubberduck68 · 27/10/2025 12:06

Bagsintheboot · 27/10/2025 11:57

It is pointless though OP. Some people who lie will be bastards. Some people who lie will be generally decent. You're asking strangers to make a judgement call on someone based on a very tiny element of their entire, complex personality.

Only you can decide if you like him enough to see him again. I would suggest though that if you're overthinking to this extent already, you're probably going to find dating extremely tiring.

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Yes, OLD is tiring enough without having to deal with liars. I quite liked him on paper and in person, but I am wondering about what other insecurities this might be a part of.

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XiCi · 27/10/2025 12:07

I think for you to immediately notice the height issue he must have been quite a bit less than 6 foot. So i imagine he lied again when he said he was 5ft 11. He would be binned off if this had happened to me. I don't want to be with a liar or a man who is so insecure about his appearance that he makes something up. Something that is an obvious lie upon first meeting and therefore he must assume that any woman he's meeting is an absolute idiot and cannot see what is plainly in front of her face. The fact he doubled down when you questioned him and didnt just laugh and admit it would have pissed me off even more.

ShesNeverSeenAShadeOfGray · 27/10/2025 12:07

Also this ..

I’d put him at 5ft 10” on a good day. I asked him about it and he said, “I’m 5ft 11” seemed silly to worry about an inch.

He was clearly worried about that 'inch', though, which was really more like 2 or 3 inches shy of the mark he actually put down.

So yeah, no. An insecure, potentially gaslighting(doubled down on it), liar.

Kimura · 27/10/2025 12:09

Men will often lie about a couple of inches 👀

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rubberduck68 · 27/10/2025 12:09

XiCi · 27/10/2025 12:07

I think for you to immediately notice the height issue he must have been quite a bit less than 6 foot. So i imagine he lied again when he said he was 5ft 11. He would be binned off if this had happened to me. I don't want to be with a liar or a man who is so insecure about his appearance that he makes something up. Something that is an obvious lie upon first meeting and therefore he must assume that any woman he's meeting is an absolute idiot and cannot see what is plainly in front of her face. The fact he doubled down when you questioned him and didnt just laugh and admit it would have pissed me off even more.

I told him I was married to a man who was 6ft for a really long time; he still maintained the 5ft 11" lie (he's not). I did feel at that point that this and him using the word "silly" was treating me like an idiot!

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ChickpeasOnEarth · 27/10/2025 12:10

The lie would annoy me too, as well as how quickly he dismissed it as "silly".

MrFluffyDogIsMyBestFriend · 27/10/2025 12:10

Almost every (short to medium height) man lies about his height...not just on their profile but in real life too. I think some of them genuinely think they're taller than they are and they come up with a height for themselves and forget that they weren't actually measured.

PuggyPuggyPuggy · 27/10/2025 12:10

How can anyone tell someone's height to the exact inch, just by looking at them? Does it work for the difference between 5'6" and 5 '7" , or only when it's the magical inch between 5'11" and 6 ft? Is this an ability that comes naturally when one's ex-husband, family members and male friends are all 6ft, no more, no less?

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rubberduck68 · 27/10/2025 12:12

PuggyPuggyPuggy · 27/10/2025 12:10

How can anyone tell someone's height to the exact inch, just by looking at them? Does it work for the difference between 5'6" and 5 '7" , or only when it's the magical inch between 5'11" and 6 ft? Is this an ability that comes naturally when one's ex-husband, family members and male friends are all 6ft, no more, no less?

I don't wear heels, I'm a trainers person so I know exactly where I was height wise on my ex husband, and I know when that's at least a couple of inches out... you can tell by how far you have to look up!!

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JosephineBoneApart · 27/10/2025 12:12

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

If he'd said 6ft and turned out to be 5 6" then yes.
But what's an inch matter?

I think you're being overly picky.