I’ve got the Ick and I don’t want to fix it

[theickisrealurgh]

It’s finally happened, my partner has given me the biggest ick that I just don’t want to be with him anymore. The sheer thought of being with him for much longer fills me with dread.

He’s paying for his daughter to have breast implants, she’s 19. I think it’s weird, and it’s made me feel sick. It’s want she wants and I get that, but something about it just doesn’t sit right with me. It might be normal to some and if it was anything else I wouldn’t be bothered but I can’t shift this feeling of discomfort. She’s a B cup.

I get on with his daughter very well, never had an issue so it’s not that. Luckily we don’t live together but we have been together for 10 years.

I don’t know how to get out of this

And previously this was a happy healthy relationship?

doubt it

There is something particularly gross about a man paying for a young woman to alter her natural body shape .

@ItsisthattimeI have had doubts but this has just sent me over the edge. I feel repulsed by him

Does he know what it’s for? Is he blindly handing over his credit card with some vague idea it’s a health related thing?

And I do appreciate I’m clutching at straws here.

Yes and I imagine you could write many OPs of all the other issues Op.

Do you have children together?

But if a loving mother did because the adult daughter really wanted them it would be ok?

Could it be just that he gives her absolutely everything she ever wants and this is just another expensive capitulation in an endless list of her demands?

@Itsisthattimethats the thing, that’s why I’m posting. I feel like i’m wrong because if it was a nose job or getting her teeth fixed I wouldn’t have an issue. I don’t know why I have the ick but I just do

@ScrollingLeavesShe isn’t a demanding girl, she just asks for things like a normal teen would. She wants to be an influencer/famous and she think by changing herself it’ll help

What @ScrollingLeaves said, or is she deeply unhappy with her body image (eg body dysmorphic disorder level trauma) and he's trying to help her?

Does her mum have a boob job?

My point is

this issue aside, I’m guessing this relationship was rotting anyway

any children involved?

@Rocket1982yes she does

@Itsisthattimewe have one together yes

No it wouldn't be ok.
I would hope that any loving parent would be resolute in not funding breast surgery, or any other cosmetic surgery, for a 19 year old young woman. I hope they would be advising her against it and trying to get her help for her issues with self esteem.
But I find it very disturbing that a man is being instrumental in moulding a young woman's body.

If you've got the ick, you've got it. It wouldn't bother me but each to their own

Shes just got the dr playing around with her titties

He’s just sent me that, I feel repulsed beyond repair. I know some of you will think I’m pathetic but I can’t help it

Does she have issues around the size of her breasts?

There's a recurring poster on here who posts every few months desperately unhappy about the size of her breasts, and convinced that she's unlovable because of them. Hundreds and hundreds of people on this site have told her that having small breasts is absolutely no hinderance to being happy, but I don't think anything will ever convince her. (To be honest, I don't think implants will even convince her)

If it was my daughter feeling that way (I'm a father), then I could see myself paying for the surgery that would (hopefully) make her happy and improve her mental health. I'd probably want her to have therapy first, but I'd do it none-the less.

If on the other hand your boyfriends daughter just fancies new boobs, then yeah, I can see why you've got the ick a bit @theickisrealurgh

But you live apart? Who does your child live with?

I don’t believe this.

At 21 my dd paid for her own breast enlargements. She had been adamant since 14/15 when her boobs barely fit an A cup she wanted them done. An inheritance paid for it.. I went for the consultation to ensure they were a reputable company... She travelled alone for the surgery. Just Manchester not abroad! Been in 15 years and no issue. I would have felt weird if her df had paid..

@Chobby

I'd suggest he pays for her to have therapy instead.

Why have you put her boob size here as if it makes a difference what people would say? 🤔

His use of the word "playing around" is gross. And I'd say reflects something that would give me the ick too.

Like he's just seeing them as play things for a man...which in his own daughter is particularly gross.