I’ve got the Ick and I don’t want to fix it

[theickisrealurgh]

It’s finally happened, my partner has given me the biggest ick that I just don’t want to be with him anymore. The sheer thought of being with him for much longer fills me with dread.

He’s paying for his daughter to have breast implants, she’s 19. I think it’s weird, and it’s made me feel sick. It’s want she wants and I get that, but something about it just doesn’t sit right with me. It might be normal to some and if it was anything else I wouldn’t be bothered but I can’t shift this feeling of discomfort. She’s a B cup.

I get on with his daughter very well, never had an issue so it’s not that. Luckily we don’t live together but we have been together for 10 years.

I don’t know how to get out of this

A nice man? Talking about his daughter's "titties"?

@Wherehaveallthegoodmengone it’s very real. I have been on this app since the dawn of time and have name changed.

I remember zombie, Mexican house thief, penguin bollards etc..

'Bitty'.

Jesus wept, that's a reasonable defence for murder, never mind dumping.

I didn't see ths issue until he said about "the dr playing with his daughters titties" 😮🤑, that would defo make me heave. I cannot imagine those words ever coming out my dad's mouth in relation to me.

Your partner sent you that message? Oh no no no thats bordering on incest no no

🤮

@Didshejustsaythatoutloudexactly. My dad would never dream of saying things like that, it’s made me feel really uncomfortable and I think when he replied I must have been joking because he laughing faced it. That’s why I responded with an emoji.

He hasn’t messaged since and I won’t be messaging him. I can’t get my head around it

Ah another man hating thread....how delightful.

Well your views are consistent beit mother or father so I can respect your viewpoint.
I would struggle with someone saying it would be ok for a mother to finance it but not a father.

I wouldn’t want my teen wanting to change their body either but I wonder if I am hypocritical as I wouldn’t have a problem if it was good quality cosmetic dentistry perhaps.
and if my dd was planning to get say her breasts done on the cheap and was 100% doing it, I would perhaps pay to have her do it properly by a well vetted surgeon

That message has made me feel sick.
It's beyond awful.
A father using that language about his adult daughter's body is one of the worst things I've ever read on here, I'll be honest.

I’d be more worried about the fact you are a couple with a baby but don’t live together?

Is that for benefit reasons or because of commitment issues?

I don’t think him paying for a boob job is a major deal if he can easily afford it and it’s what she desperately wants and she’s still financially reliant on Dad which - let’s face it - most 19 year olds are. Plastic surgery is almost commonplace these days.

This dude deserves it. He's being fucking gross and inappropriate.

That’s quite a leap.

@THisbackwithavengeanceI will never live with a man ever again after a past experience. I would say the relationship is more of a companion type setup and the baby wasn’t planned but very loved

Is he at the appointment with her!?!

So. He’s not only paying for the surgery, but is sat (presumably in the room watching) as the doctor examines her - I can’t even bring myself to use the phrase he used. It’s more than an ick I’d be getting.

Paying for something she wants to have done is one thing. But being so actively involved in the process is actually beyond creepy

@WFHforevermore I don’t hate men, I just don’t want to ask my friends/famiky for advice so asking strangers

Be thankful. It'll probably be easier to get out. Hope he steps up for the baby. Good luck. I really understand you getting the ick.

Ugh. How old is your child, I would be keeping an eye on them.

@whitewineandsunThank you so much, I’m sure he will step up, he adores our baby

@nomasThe baby is 2, so not exactly a baby

Girl or a boy?

If a girl I'd be keeping a very close eye if I were you. His behaviour isn't right and there's definitely something off in how he views women.

If your joint DC is female, I hope you work extra hard at helping her see her body in a positive, functional way rather than as an aesthetic object to tweak and perfect. And play with.

@PrizedPickledPopcornI’m a big believer in body positivity, and my DC will always be told they are perfect just the way they are

Do you mean he said that about ‘her titties’?

Does he make other physical remarks about her?