I’ve got the Ick and I don’t want to fix it

[theickisrealurgh]

It’s finally happened, my partner has given me the biggest ick that I just don’t want to be with him anymore. The sheer thought of being with him for much longer fills me with dread.

He’s paying for his daughter to have breast implants, she’s 19. I think it’s weird, and it’s made me feel sick. It’s want she wants and I get that, but something about it just doesn’t sit right with me. It might be normal to some and if it was anything else I wouldn’t be bothered but I can’t shift this feeling of discomfort. She’s a B cup.

I get on with his daughter very well, never had an issue so it’s not that. Luckily we don’t live together but we have been together for 10 years.

I don’t know how to get out of this

I can't be pleasant to anyone who wants to be an influencer so that would be that. The gross message would be the last straw.
Way too Peter Andre the pair of them.

That's revolting

Blegh. You're right, it's just turned my stomach reading that.

That is an truly revolting thing to say about his own daughter! Disgusting. I don't agree with him paying for her to alter her body either. And all this because she wants to be an influencer/famous? If he can't see how vacuous that all is, I wouldn't want to be around him either. What kind of man is he?! I'd be kicking that one to the kerb and slamming the door. Gross.

Sorry I don't understand your comment.

I'm on the fence on this one - his daughter is an adult and may be resolutely set on getting it done, with or without her father's financial input.

Perhaps he's finding it to ensure it's done at the most reputable venue they/he can afford, rather her perhaps getting it done regardless, somewhere potentially dodgy?

I think his language about the consultation is vile. I’m not sure re the paying for augmentation, we’re living in very shallow and superficially focused times. There’s a lot of people who live for how they look. It’s not me and not my style but I see so many people like this. I also think it’s a dumbing down of society generally.
i don’t like it. I wouldn’t be with people like this for more than five minutes because the whole thing gives me the ick anyway, regardless of whether it’s the dad or not.
but… if he’s got money and he paying for it, for this kind of people it sounds ‘normal’.
the titties comment is vile but tbh it fits the demographic.
bitty is also grim but I can’t see how it might be an awkward gauche joke from a vintage tasteless comedy show

Bloody hell, that's gross.

@MyCrushWithEyeliner thanks for the banging ear worm!

Just seen the remarks further down about the comments the father made - vile.

The word ‘titties’ makes me feel ill 🤢

How on earth is it man hating to be disgusted by a man talking about someone 'playing around' with his daughters 'titties'.

He is repulsive.

@lashyi completely get you, but i can’t help how i feel

God, society is so depressing now. I mean, there have always been girls and women who wanted bigger boobs, myself included at some point, but now people think nothing of actually going and doing it just because they can. Bloody influencers and (anti)social media - ugh. Has anyone stopped for a minute to think that her body is unlikely to have stopped developing and changing yet?! Or encouraged her to change her brain instead of her boobs? No wonder you have the ick.

...and her father to boot. Surely her father should be telling her that she's beautiful as she is, not encouraging & paying for cosmetic surgery at the age of 19?

I'm very petite & a 32AA.

For many years I had a 'boob fund'. As I got older (and after BFing 3 babies), I realised that I didn't need bigger breasts. DH fell in love with me with 32AA breasts, my 32AA breasts fed my children (though I did make the most of having a cleavage while BFing & my breasts swelled to a 32C😜) and they are still pretty-much where they were when I was 18, which bigger ones wouldn't be.

So I used my 'boob fund' to go towards a family holiday to visit DH's DB, SIL & our DC's cousins in Australia. This was well over 20 years ago & they still talk about it. Money well spent I think.

edited for grammar

...and her father to boot. Surely her father should be telling her that she's beautiful as she is, not encouraging & paying for cosmetic surgery at the age of 19?

But more importantly, that her brain and personality and what she does in the world is more important than her bloody boobs.

What a shit show
Poor child

This will be in keeping with his character OP

There will be a host of other issues between the pair of you two

a depressing mess of a relationship

Are you sure she's ok?? If her father is talking about her like this are you sure he's not being really inappropriate to her in other ways? This sounds like a way for serious issue than just getting the ick.

Eeeww

You’re definitely not being unreasonable.

Good point - all kind of weird & concerning.

I can't imagine even discussing the size of my breasts with my father.

That’s so young. At that age I wasn’t thinking about having children so the idea that my body would change a lot due to it wouldn’t occur to me. Also like some others have mentioned it might cause issues if you wanted to breastfeed.

And you have a child together OP? 😢

a DD?

When ending it, I'd be making it very clear not only how inappropriate his language was about his daughter and this matter, but also how you cannot be with someone who supports such body mutilation that carries serious risks.

It's now well known how dangerous implants are, it's deplorable that he's encouraging this.

I just think the whole idea of a father paying for their 19 year old daughter to have breast augmentation is gross. I'd have problems being in a relationship with him.

@theickisrealurgh
‘Surgeon’and ‘examining ‘ would be the correct terms, even if he had used these he sounds sleazy and I’m not surprised he has revolted you.