GF left me when I came out to her as bisexual, are there any women who would be ok dating a bi man?

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So I was dating a woman for 5 months and I decided to tell her that I was bisexual but hetromantic (meaning that your sexually attracted to both but only see yourself in relationships with the opposite sex). She then said that its a turn off, gross and that she cant date a man who is bisexual.

I know we all have preferences but are there any women who wouldnt mind or even prefer it?

By the way im 27 and she was the only girl that I dated, I've never been with a man before but I dont see myself ever being with a man long term.

There is SO much stigma in this thread. You can't be arsed with the way someone self describes their sexuality, which is a fundamental part of ourselves? Bi just means attracted to both sexes. It doesn't mean you can't be in a committed relationship, FFS.

My DP has had experiences with men but only wants to be in a relationship with a woman.

when he first told me I did think that he wouldn’t be satisfied with just me, that there are things as I woman I can’t do than a man could……..but at the end of the day he loves me, he says he’s happy being with me so I accept that

OK, I am old and morality wise different, but how can you guarantee they will never cheat on you. He is saying that he finds other men appealing, sorry, you are saying it, I talk to a woman here but you are the man who posted.

If I find other women attractive just by seeing them and seeing they are indeed attractive, does that make me an old bi woman or just a woman who appreciates God's creatures

How do you know you want a long-term heterosexual relationship when you've never been with someone of the opposite sex? Don't you think you should explore both sides first, just in case?

I've never been with a man, and I'm damn sure I'm a lesbian and was before I'd been with a woman. I absolutely will not be sampling cock any time soon.

We develop attraction during puberty. Most people know their sexuality from the off without testing it, especially in this day and age where it's more acceptable to be LGB (apparently not bi though, if we're judging by this bloody post)

I don’t think it would bother me that you were bisexual but it’s more the stage that you’re currently in. I’d be fine if you’d had previous experience with men but if you told me you were bi and hadn’t yet been with a man it would put me off continuing a relationship as I would feel like I was just a stop gap till you go explore

Regardless of how old or young you are, if as a woman you see another woman and they give you the fanny gallops, make your heart flutter and take your breath away then yes, you are either bi or lesbian (depending on whether or not you also feel the same way about men). It has nothing to do with whether you actually shag them or not.

If you are just “admiring gods creatures” the same way as you might appreciate a cat or a flower, then you are not.

Very true. And sorry OP, I would not wish to date a bi sexual man

What the hell...biphobic. that's a loaded word.

When the hell did this start. If you have a preference to not do something, it's called a phobia. Or it suggested your phobic, which is derogatory, and suggesting youre prejudiced.

People seem to have forgotten that you can be or not be in a relationship for any reason at all. You don't need a reason not to be with somebody..not wanting to be with them is enough.

So now everybody has to be accepting of being with a partner who is potentially bisexual otherwise you're considered biphobic. That's just ridiculous.

There are a lot of bi-phobic people around. Just as unpleasant as homophobia or xenophobia, and to be honest you dodged a bullet with her. Anybody who is insecure enough to be bothered by this is going to be a pain to live with in the future.
Just because someone is bi doesn’t mean they are any more likely to be unfaithful than straight people. So it is pure narrow mindedness of bi-phobic people, and being narrow minded in my book is a deeply unpleasant trait.

I think I would struggle with it. I mean I get teenage or young experiments.

But I feel that if a man is into sex with men then female sex won't live up to it. It depends I guess but many women don't like anal and wouldn't do pegging.

I would basically assume they were gay.

I don't know if that sounds homophobic. I hope it doesn't.

No, it’s just really simple.

If you call a gay person gross because they are gay, it’s homophobic.

Equally if you call a bisexual person gross because they are bisexual, it’s biphobic.

No-one at any point has said someone has to be in a relationship with someone when they don’t want to be.

Sorry, are you saying that anyone who has a preference not to date, a bisexual person is biphobic?

People can say no to a relationship for any reason. It doesn't make them phobic of something, just not for them.

@ILoveWhales if you break up with a partner just because they are bisexual, you are biphobic.
Its not about your preference, its you not being able to deal with someone else’s (theoretical) preferences.
Similarly to someone who has a specific hair colour braking up with a partner who happens to not care about hair colour.

Ermm I don’t have that belief. I don’t think I said all bi sexuals are cheaters anywhere in my comment

Where has anybody said that being bisexual is gross?

Not wanting a relationship with a bi person isn't thinking it is gross. It's just not wanting a relationship with somebody who's bi.

It's been suggested that everybody who doesn't want a relationship with a bi person is biphobic.

What if he likes sex with a man but like sex with a woman too? He likes both? A relationship isn’t all sex - there’s more to it, the person themselves and how they make you feel also has a lot to do with it

They should have disclosed it at the outset of the relationship at that point and not several months down the line. That was disingenuous of the bi person.

They denied her the opportunity to choose and she is not biphobic.

Why is not finding men who find other men attractive ‘biphobic?’ I feel embarrassed for people that come out with this stuff embarrassing.

It’s right there in the OP 🙄

Biphobia is the prejudice, fear, or hatred directed towards bisexual people, based on negative stereotypes and the belief that bisexuality is not a valid sexual orientation. It often manifests as disbelief in bisexuality, accusations of dishonesty or promiscuity, and erasure of bisexual identities.
This thread is full of stereotypes….

I also think male and female sexuality is very different (whether the man or woman in question is gay or straight) and going 'oh well I'm bisexual and my DH doesn't care' is misguided and naive.

I don't see it as unacceptable in theory, but would find hard to interpret what it means for the relationship.

Can you imagine, all things going well in the relationship that you will never try the men? Or is it something which will always be in the back of your head? I suppose it is hard to know now, but it is even harder to guess for any prospective partner.

I know. I'm just saying how I think I'd feel about it. I've never dated someone bi and not sure I would want to. Nothing wrong with it of course, but I said my reasons. For another reason, it's an extreme turn off to imagine my boyfriend sucking a cock or getting bummed. But each to their own.

There's a common perspective in the men-who-have-sex-with-men (MSM) community that "sex for fun" is separate from "meaningful relationship". So having some "fun" doesn't have to be a threat to the meaningful relationship at all.

I wouldn't like sharing, myself, and would struggle with viewing sex-for-fun = not a threat.

FWIW, I think gay relationshps can be a lot more honest than hetero relationships for being honest about what actually qualifies as 'cheating.' But sharing is still not for me.

Because if, like the OP, they have never had a same sex relationship or even a hookup they might be more likely, down the line, to wonder what they are missing - and not want to live their whole life not having experienced it?