My partner told me the reason we aren’t engaged is me

[NeatGoldGuide]

I’ve been with my partner 7 years. We went out at the weekend and after a few drinks I had the courage to ask why we weren’t engaged.
He proceeded to tell me that because I’m not in the best financial position (I have a credit card with about £500 on it) and not much in savings, that it would be irresponsible of him to propose until I was more stable, financially.
does this seem fair? I feel like I have to prove myself before I am worthy of getting engaged.

Gosh romance really is so dead isn't it. That's sad

Same

Im sure there was a thread not long ago that was the same but it was a man that didnt have very much and op got told to find a better man.

@cofffeeee personally l didn’t see that thread, doesn’t sound like the same situation though.
This is about stringing someone along for 7 years, now all of a sudden saying you have £500 of debt, so l won’t marry you.And as many have already said, he has no intentions of marrying op, he’s not being honest with her.How would you feel, if your partner of 7 years said that to you?

We don't know that he has strung her along though or why it has seemingly taken Op 7yrs to broach the subject.

pity about the 7 years but you dodged a bullet there.

Women are always advised on here not to settle for men that might be in the same financial position as you.

Well ok then, he’s wasting her time and using a feeble excuse as to why he doesn’t want to commit, after 7 years.
Would be good if @NeatGoldGuide joined the thread.

What? Your comment doesn’t even make sense
She has £500 on a credit card, it’s hardly a financial concern, why bring this up after 7 years!
He has no intentions of committing.

Honestly we see it on here all the time where women are praised for not sharing finances with someone they know to be 'bad with money'.
The op may be perceived by her partner as being reckless with money and is wary of being linked financially with her. Which I understand if she is bad with money.
if on the other hand she is just poor or a low earner than he a gobshite.

A credit card with £500 is nothing. He’s behaving like you have gambling debts of £5000.

He doesn’t want to marry you. Get rid of him pronto, assuming that there are no children involved.

£500 on a credit card? An unexpected car repair bill or emergency plumber could easily be the reason for that. Lots of people don't earn enough to save up for big one-offs.

He could have said that a long time ago before wasting 7 years of her life.

I think it’s just an excuse.

'I've paid off the credit card so when should we set the date for? Spring wedding give us enough time do you think?'.

@Sodthesystem😂

God. Do not waste any more of your precious life with this inadequate loser. Plenty more fish in the sea.

Well it isn’t, of course…BUT…this isn’t the kind of decision that can be made unilaterally, is it? It has to be joint…and one of them isn’t interested, so 🤷‍♀️

Odd sort of thread to set up and then abandon …

Not cool to say that, get someone else !!

Sounds like an excuse to me. I wouldn’t want to marry him if that’s his attitude.

OP posted once in July and hasn't updated since.

How old are you and how much money do you have if you paid off your debt?