A thread for FwB survivors (perhaps a little tongue in cheek) Part 2

[Clytemnestra21]

Hi all 👋
New thread to continue the old one for those of who still take part. Hope this works and everyone can see it?

@mummypigoink,@OfcourseitsaNC,
@Kat888@ThisIsaLow25

Thanks @Clytemnestra21 how are you feeling since?

Hey 👋
we’re done, i think for good this time, trying to hold it together

I tried to add @moresunlessrainand @chatonetteand ThisIsALow and @ThatRubyLionbut not sure if it worked

👋 I hope you are ok @Clytemnestra21 you deserve so much better. As you know these next few weeks will be tough but we’ve got you

How are you doing today?

Hi @Moresunlessrain- thank you for asking 🙏
I’m weak and obsessed and answering his texts again. (I know, it’s masochistic at this stage).

I hope you’re well.

I’ve fallen out with mine! Not sure I’ll see him again. Trying to keep busy.

what happened this time @Clytemnestra21 did you end things and he’s trying to get passed your boundaries again?

No judgement from me, I’ve had many ONS and FWB but came to the conclusion that they weren’t for me because I need more depth and emotional connection and would always end up being upset that they didn’t want more.

I had an anxious attachment style and not always the best sense of self-worth, I was just curious if some of you feel the same?

Is it really worth the upset?

Oh shoot @Moresunlessrainare you okay? I hope you have something good to keep you busy this weekend?

mine knows which buttons to press. It’s like he thrives on hooking me back in. Was something pretty sweet this time- can’t say what as outing. But it’s exhausting too.

hope you’re ok x

Hi all, how is everyone?

so after taking steps towards ending it, I caved and ended up chatting again with FwB and have just made a plan to see each other. I’m already regretting it and thinking of cancelling. What’s bad is I’m thinking of making up an excuse/white lie to cancel because I can’t face the upheaval again of trying to cancel

Are you still on OLD apps? This situation must be starting to really drag you down? I honestly do think blocking is the only way to get out of but I know it’s not easy

@Clytemnestra21 so you had a blip, and as you say, you regret it. No shame in cancelling! And no, I wouldn’t make up an excuse/white lie to cancel. Be honest, cancel, and let him sit in the discomfort of those feelings. Lord knows he’s left you to sit in discomfort and not felt bad about it.

Hi everyone how is everyone doing. I went to see mine last night and talk about confusing me. Loads of times last night he kept saying this has got me thinking all sorts like what would we would get up to sexually if we were together/ a couple (he said this last time but like twice) this time he mentioned it 7/8 times. I said but you don’t know want that do you, then he said I don’t want a relationship with anybody. And then back onto the we’d definitely be compatible sexually as a couple (then said not saying we wouldn’t be in other ways). So yet again I’ve come away wanting more and confused

Oh he loves keeping you on the hook @ThatRubyLion why can't you see it? He wants to keep you confused. This man has no intention of ever being official with you I'm sorry. He loves dropping in oh if we were together lol as if

Sorry only got a bit of your message x

It’s not your fault at all xx I know by experience how hard it is not to just send the one text, or ask him if he wants to meet up it’s not easy

hi @wheresmymojo thinking about your message and wondering if I’m the same. Since you set aside FwB arrangements have you been able to meet someone you have an emotional connection with? How did you go about it?
Question for everyone: how feasible is it to meet someone capable of that emotional
connection, who is both available and with whom you can be sexually compatible?

Hi how’s it going? For me and current FWB I think we both have genuine feelings. We have never discussed though. I just feel very strongly I would never want to get involved with each others kids or have him move in with me. So I hold back. It is what it is

And he’s never made any attempt to make it more. Well he did once but I backed off and he’s never revisited. We do message throughout the day though. And the sex is amazing. Overall I’m happy as we are.

This is what I worry about. So with the Fwb we are most def sexually compatible but according to him he doesn’t want a relationship with anyone. But I want both - which is where I struggle

How is everyone. I’ve seen my fwb quite a lot the past 2 weeks

Hey 👋 are you okay @ThatRubyLion?

@Moresunlessraino didn’t respond to your message, your situation with FwB sounds ideal, glad it’s working for you x

Sounds like boyfriend territory?

hey how are you? How are things with you and Fwb situation? I’m not great if Im honest. Every time I see him which has been about 4 times the 2 weeks I just see him and I know I like him more than fwb 🥺 he even said to someone else today no not together just fwb so it’s clear where he stands, but it doesn’t help that every time I see him he goes on about if we were together we’d be this we’d be that sexually, then he says not saying we wouldn’t be compatible in other ways but def sex