A thread for FwB survivors (perhaps a little tongue in cheek) Part 2

[Clytemnestra21]

Hi all 👋
New thread to continue the old one for those of who still take part. Hope this works and everyone can see it?

How is everyone? It’s Ruby Lion here but Ive
had to log in with a different log in 🙂

I actually plucked up the courage 3 nights ago to tell him via text that I liked him a bit more than friends with benefits. He kept saying what and then said we were never friends with benefits, we were nothing, just shagging. He said sorry but it still hurts to hear it.

Oh @joanna123457 that’s brutal. Just keep telling yourself you’re worth more than that. You are.

This says a lot about him and his lack of class / compassion. Definitely not the kind of guy you should be looking to build a future with.

You deserve better.

Thankyou. He then said he wanted a 3 way and asked me over the next night 😞

Oh no, what an arsehole @joanna123457! I hope you told him where to go..

Yes. I thought at least we were friends having fun in the bedroom but in his words we were nothing.

It’s the fact that he always kept going on when we were together saying if we were in a relationship together and stuff like that and when we were talking about types he was like oh aren’t I yours then etc, then the other night after not seeing him for 2 months not even fwb we were nothing

Hey @joanna123457hope you’re okay. He sounds so unpleasant.

hope everyone else is ok

I don’t know why I’m surprised as soon as he finds someone he likes enough to be with, I get dropped straight away

Anyone else still stuck in the loop?

@Clytemnestra21Yep, me 😅 I could easily get myself off the rollercoaster but seem to choose to stay on it for some ridiculous reason.. How are you doing?

@shivermetimbers77 I hope you’re okay and still enjoying yourself! I’m not sure I could get off the rollercoaster now, I’m quite embroiled. Ultimately I’m not satisfied. He tells me he loves me but nothing’s changed in terms of it feeling like a real
relationship. There have been some moments (Christmas etc) when if he was my partner for real
it would have felt really different. And those moments have felt really sad for me. But he’s going through some really difficult stuff and every time I raise how I’m feeling it starts to feel really
precarious and I back out of the difficult conversation.

I saw this today and it really fits here I think.

“You should think of your energy as if it’s expensive, as if it’s a luxury item. Not everyone can afford it.” - Taylor Swift

Chin up tits out ladies xx

How is everyone doing on here with their fwb? I blocked mine 8 weeks ago and I have absolutely no regrets that he is out of my life and cant use me anymore. He has a new "fwb" again that he is using and wanted me to go over there for 10 minutes for his own satisfaction to take part in a 3 way then leave! I now know that I want someone emotionally mature and not just a hookup as that is all he saw me as.

Hi everyone,

I'm out completely. Had a couple of potentials at the end of last year that fizzled out and have recently resurfaced. We've chatted for a bit, but nothing has come of either of them. I think that's because I'm happy on my own and haven't really shown much interest in meeting. Don't know how long this phase will last, but enjoying not being involved in anything right now. It always amazes me how much effort FWB can be at times - surely not the point of these types of relationships. 🤦‍♀️

I'm sure I'll be back here at some point...

Hi thisisalow, I completely understand. I spent pretty much a whole year last year and 2 months of this year running round for him (he was out sleeping with loads of other women at the same time) and now I just think I have freedom! I want someone who can meet me on my level and not take take take which is all he did. It is a lot of effort! So to be honest its a big relief now Im out of it all xx