My boyfriend isn’t talking to me after a night out

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I don’t often go out late in the evenings but I had a work invitation to go to a really nice event, as there were free drinks there I had a few but by no means was I drunk
My partner collected me from the station and stayed the night but has been ignoring ever since
I am racking my brains to think of what I could have done because now I feel stressed and anxious and cannot sleep
The only thing he has said to me is I should know why because of Tuesday night

We need to know what you did Tuesday night. Unless we all have to guess ??

So would I to be honest
I went to a party and came home slightly tipsy but by no means drunk I keep thinking about what I could have done but there is nothing I can think of

Just get on with your life, I'm sure he'll eventually reach out. When he does, tell him that you won't tolerate that again.

Is he usually a bastard?

So he's ignoring you, but you know you didn't do anything that could be considered wrong, and he won't tell you why?

Get rid.

Maybe it’s because I fell asleep on the sofa instead of the bed because I didn’t want to disturb him watching tv that’s all I can think of
I didn’t get home even that late but I had had a really nice time, it’s an event I am lucky to have an invitation to and I look forward to it all year

This is immature twattery. Tell him he can cut out the toxic silent treatment and talk to you like an adult in a relationship or he can get out of your life. I don’t know how anyone has the time or patience for this.

Sounds like the start of controlling behaviour. Doesnt like you going out without him/didn't like your outfit etc

He’s training you to not go out without him again. Classic sign of a toxic and controlling man. Next time, you may turn down the work events, which is what he wants. Get rid.

You’ve been out and had fun. Most controlling men don’t like that. Reminding him you have a life outside of him has pissed him off. This isn’t behaviour normal secure men show and it isn’t healthy or going to change.

This is how my abusive ex started. Would make me feel guilty and anxious for going out until I stopped going out altogether so as not to upset him.
It's a slippery slope from here

I really don’t know what I have done, but he has totally refused to speak to be for two days
This man is rapidly approaching 50 as well
I guess I am just trying to unpick my feelings around this as I feel sick and anxious at the moment

Doesnt sound like you have done anything wrong. In case you’re questioning yourself, it’s fine to have a few drinks at a work do and come home a bit tipsy.
Even if you’d been blackout drunk and done something terrible that you don’t remember, him not telling you why he’s pissed off is controlling.
Big red flag here unfortunately.

I hope you don’t live with him, it’ll make it so much easier when you dump him for his toxic, controlling behaviour.

Why aren’t you angry? How dare he treat you like this! Who does he think he is? Please get rid and accept every invitation that comes your way.

He clearly doesn’t like you going out and enjoying yourself so the best thing you can do is dump him and go out and enjoy yourself.

Tell him to grow up or get out. Silent treatment is controlling as well as childish.
How long have you been together? Who owns the property?

You haven't done anything wrong and a partner should not make you feel sick and anxious. End this relationship, he's exhibiting controlling behaviour sulking because you went out without him. It will only get worse so get out now.

Ignore him and get on with your day!

Please don’t put up with this shit. It is total controlling behaviour and leaving you walking on eggshells. This is not a great relationship.

I don’t live with him thankfully, I feel too worn down to be angry and I am still wondering what I have done wrong
but I knew before I went it would probably be problematic even though he said he didn’t mind but he was only there to walk the dog otherwise he wouldn’t have come over
I was back by 1120
I have been with him nearly four years

You haven’t done anything. He is the problem.

This is what he's doing. The next time you think about going somewhere you won't go. Nip this in the bud straightaway or get rid of him

Why are you sick and anxious? He's being a total dickhead. Ignore him right back. Dumping him would be best.

I always feel anxious when I go out as I know he doesn’t like it deep down
he asked me “what my body count is” the other week and became cross when I wouldn’t give him a figure
he is always telling me he knows I have another boyfriend

This Don’t tolerate shit behaviour in boyfriends. If you do they learn they can always use it whenever they feel like punishing you for something or nothing and it will only get worse.
He's probably doing it to train you into never going out without him. DROP.

Oh god. Classic insecure, jealous, controlling type. Again, DROP. You won’t even realise the extent to how anxious he’s making you until it’s over then you’ll be horrified when you feel free and look back on it. These are such massive red flags for a bastard, OP. 🚩 🚩