My boyfriend isn’t talking to me after a night out

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I don’t often go out late in the evenings but I had a work invitation to go to a really nice event, as there were free drinks there I had a few but by no means was I drunk
My partner collected me from the station and stayed the night but has been ignoring ever since
I am racking my brains to think of what I could have done because now I feel stressed and anxious and cannot sleep
The only thing he has said to me is I should know why because of Tuesday night

What a baby! You really don't need him.

Then you need to walk away now!
A grown man, approaching 50 sulking because you went out to a special works event………he has serious issues with trust and has been controlling you for years!
IMO, do not contact him, pack any belongings of his at your home and return them as do not see him again, he is not a nice person.

Agree with others, awful controlling behaviour, surprise him by making the silent treatment permanent.

Sounds like your life would be so much more pleasurable without him in it.

OP, why is being single any worse than walking round on eggshells and being anxious, fearful and weary? Life is too short to live like this. No matter how you try you'll never be able to please this man by the sound of it.

Don't allow him to wear away your self esteem any more. It's great you have a busy life. Get rid of the bloke and get back out there enjoying life.

You have got yourself a sulker.

Oh ffs, kick him to the kerb, controlling wanker. The silent treatment is so childish and abusive. He has zero emotional maturity. As you ‘knew it would be problematic’ before you went, he clearly has form for being a pain in the arse about you going out. How dare he?!

Right, "body count" is a massive incel/MRA term, and accusing you of cheating constantly is also an abusive trait. Red flags all round. He's ruining your fun and soon your life. Time to call it off.

Clearly you won't be lonely, and you will be free of being anxious and worried every time you dare to go out and enjoy yourself. This is your time to be free, don't let this idiot tie you down.

You can find so much better than him! Also, if you stay with him, you will end up lonely because he's going to isolate you from everything and everyone. He will wear you down by acting like this every time you socialise to the point you'll stop to avoid his reactions. You'll be less lonely without him, believe me!

Oh dear OP. Somehow you need to tackle your fear of being alone as that's led you to ending up with an unpleasant abusive man who is frankly ruining your life.
Is there someone in real life you could talk to? Everyone on here has instantly spotted the abusive nature of his behaviour and what it must be doing to your self confidence and how you live your life.
Living alone with a dog is infinitely more pleasurable compared to treading on eggshells and being verbally abused and controlled.

Time to make a big change methinks and rid yourself of this unpleasant controlling man.

Ugh I would have absolutely no time for someone who gave me the cold shoulder and wouldn't tell me why just saying "you should know why". It's so frustrating, cruel and childish. Honestly this is a massive red flag and please do LTB.

This is him trying to stop you from going out without him.

Wouldn’t it be better to be lonely than with a sulky middle-aged man baby?

This. Dump
him and move on

There is no future in this relationship. He is obsessed with your body count, irrationally jealous and sulks if you have any social time away from him. Where is this going? You know it’s going nowhere, please just realise that when he walks round with a massive sign saying ‘I’m a walking red flag’ that he means it, the sign is true. Don’t be scared of being alone, be scared of being with him.

I’ll carry on and read any more updates you post, but this post is where I’d read enough

take it from me (in my rapidly becoming LATE (FFS) 50s.) this is him controlling you.

this will only get worse. You’ll eventually stop going out altogether because how he makes you feel will ruin every plan you make

take decisive action today, bin him.

stonewalling (silent treatment) is one of the worst methods of abuse, it destroys the victim from the inside out.

if you one thing for yourself, it’s to end this relationship today. Tell him it’s not working, you won’t be ignored and you’re worth better.

Whatever he says grey rock him, no engagement, tell him he can think what he likes, but your life is not his business anymore

You would be happier on your own OP, you know that. This isn't normal or healthy.

Getting him out of your life frees up the possibility of better

imagine next year going to this special event again without worrying about fallout from a controlling abusive wanker

you can and will find better, never give up on yourself and faith in your own happiness

Come on, this isn't a normal relationship with a normal man. He's worked himself up because you've had a night out and he is punishing you for it. You haven't done anything wrong. You need to stop seeing this man as he is bad for your mental health. You are now trying to think what you have done wrong yet you know you have done nothing wrong. Can you see how twisted that is?

PS I just asked my dogs - they agree!

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Get out while you still have the emotional strength to do so. You already doubt yourself and stop doing what you'd like to do because you know he will make an issue of it. In a few years you are likely to be a husk of your former self, always second guessing, afraid to interact with anyone but him. His controlling behaviour is more likely to get worse, not better and leaving gets harder. Don't be afraid of life without him!

Big red flag. You already knew it would be ‘problematic’. He’s conditioning you. The next step will be for you to refuse invitations because you’re afraid of the consequences if you go. You’re already feeling sick and anxious because he’s not speaking to you and won’t tell you why. He’s fifty - what’s his history with past partners ? This is the start of progressively controlling behaviour that will get worse until you’re isolated from friends and family and at his beck and call - and l’d bet the farm it’s happened before..

I’d rather be lonely than have this toxic, controlling piece of shit in my life. This is NEVER going to get better. Please end it OP, you deserve the chance to meet somebody kind and respectful.