Could you forgive your partner / spouse if they called you

[sunshineandroses25]

A fat cunt.. during an argument?

I’ve been dating a man for 3 months, not exclusive yet but very strong feelings and we were definitely heading in that direction. We had a bit of a tiff last night, things got heated and he called me a fat cunt and blocked me.

He messaged me today and apologised profusely, said he didn’t mean it.

I’m not sure if I can get past it though. He knows I’m insecure about my weight, we’ve talked about it a few times. I’ve dated men in the past who treated me like shit and always put me down because of my weight. He knows all of this. I just feel like it was such a low blow and I would never comment on his looks (he has insecurities too). It’s also made me think is that what he really thinks of me…

Absolutely zero forgiveness from me. What a horrible and nasty thing to say and do.

It’s 3 months. No. Absolutely not. If you ignore this he knows he can calibrate his expectations of you for accepting his abusive behaviour as a top score and act accordingly. If you ignore this you will regret it. I promise you.

How a person argues or resolves conflict tells you a lot about them. You don't want to spend a lifetime with someone who insults you and then thinks they can just apologise when they've calmed down. You want someone who can control their anger.

No I wouldn't forgive this, especially so early on.

No chance, especially after 3 months.

No.

Fuck no!! Especially as it’s 3 months in.
3 years in and just cunt I could - if I was being one.

in your situation though - graciously accept apology and say your goodbyes.

It's only 3 months, dump.

Nope, I wouldn't forgive someone I was dating for blocking me post argument never mind calling me a fat cunt.

I've had some proper shouty arguments with partners over the years. Not once has it decended to name calling. Because we are adults.

Do not continue to see this man.

After a little argument 3 months in? No way. He knows what your Achilles heel is and he’s shown he’s happy to use it. It will only get worse.

No I would never put up with that.

Absolutely no chance! You deserve to be with someone who doesn't throw your biggest insecurity at you in the midst of conflict. You deserve better!

Absolutely not. Get rid of him and don’t look back.

3 months? Fuck no. No-one talks to me like that! Have some standards OP!

Not exclusive after 3 months? So you’re not so special to each other anyway. And then he speaks to you like that? There’s nothing to stay for, move on

At 3 months it should be all romance and fun.
Ditch him.

If he was calling you something he didn't mean then why not say "you tall Egyptian" or "you left-handed heating engineer". He was trying to insult you based on what he thinks of you.

Of course not. Please raise the bar here.

Throw that one back, he’s no good.

An argument 3 months in is enough to put me off never mind being called a fat cunt.

Absolutely not. That’s disgusting and disgraceful. I’m sure that he will be sorry… until the next time. If it’s in him to say it then it’s in him to say it.

Run!

Christ, it’s a hard no on forgiving that. Totally unacceptable and you’re only 3 months in! So sorry he called you that, OP. 💐

Three months in? Absolutely not. This is the time when you get to know you the person really is. What you have learnt is that he calls women nasty names in conflicts. Not something you want to bring into your life.

No, GET RID of this horrible man!!!! If he treats you like that after 3 months, I dread to think how he’ll treat you after 3 years.