Could you forgive your partner / spouse if they called you

[sunshineandroses25]

A fat cunt.. during an argument?

I’ve been dating a man for 3 months, not exclusive yet but very strong feelings and we were definitely heading in that direction. We had a bit of a tiff last night, things got heated and he called me a fat cunt and blocked me.

He messaged me today and apologised profusely, said he didn’t mean it.

I’m not sure if I can get past it though. He knows I’m insecure about my weight, we’ve talked about it a few times. I’ve dated men in the past who treated me like shit and always put me down because of my weight. He knows all of this. I just feel like it was such a low blow and I would never comment on his looks (he has insecurities too). It’s also made me think is that what he really thinks of me…

Disgusting.
Never forgive that.

Nope. Not after 3 months. After 3 years if it was literally the only nasty thing he ever said to me, and he was an amazing partner, and had suffered a bereavement, and was in physical pain, and I had actually actually been horrible to the man I may overlook it one time. If he begged forgiveness.

Horrible, horrible man and clearly one to never see again.

Why the fuck would you want to get past it?

"he might as well take what he wants from me as that’s what I think of him anyway."

Damn, he's rapey as hell. And that's besides the name calling 3 months in.

He showed you what he is and you'd better believe it.

Block block block block block block block

Nope. Totally unforgivable. The blocking is petty and childish too. He’s done you a favour by showing his true colours so early on. 3 months in should be the honeymoon period, he sounds awful and totally incapable of resolving issues or having a discussion like a grown up. Not the type of bloke you want in your life. Sorry OP, it must be disappointing but he needs to go.

He's been watching a lot of porn with women with rock hard plastic boobs basically.

@sunshineandroses25 It's a no from me. The C word is my line in the sand if it's used as a weapon. Calling you fat is bad enough but the two together. Block and delete (and a ring doorbell maybe).

Immature and nasty. That's what he is. Now you know.

What the hell are you doing with this repulsive man?

If he's behaving like this after only three months, what the hell do you think he'll be like long-term? I'll give you a clue: an abusive bag of shit. Block, block, block and don't ever speak to him again. Seriously. He is utterly repellent and I strongly suspect he will eventually become violent.

"it’s not normal for your tits to bounce during sex, you fat cunt."

Has this man ever actually had sex with an adult woman before? Because that is exactly what all tits do during sex and men invariably love it.

The minute the Cunt word made an appearance we would be done. If he's showing his true colurs this early on, it won't get any better

It's the "fat" bit you are more upset with? That is awful but "c*" is even worse (IMO).

I would run a mile from any person who spoke to me like this. If you forgive this, he will know just how much abuse you are willing to take. This will not be a one off. A decent man would never speak to a woman like this.

Firstly, it wasn't just the name that was horrible, it was everything he said. He revealed himself to have a nasty streak. Lucky escape for you that he showed you how repellent he is early on.

Secondly, all tits bounce during sex. If you think about what they are made of, it is obvious that they are going to bounce. Has he actually had sex or just watched porn?

Pretty Unanimous I’d say. Bin him and Block him.

Well, I’m not sure what kind of sex he’s been having….

Think more of yourself, want more for yourself.

I’d never speak to him again. He sounds vile.

Absolutely not. You've know this guy for 3 months. Honestly, this is as good as it gets. In the first 2 years they are on their best behavior. If he's calling you a can't now I dread to think how things will escalate.

Wow - been with my DH over 30 years and he's never called me anything like that. 3 months! Flipping hell OP get rid.

This ⬆️

I’m in my 60s now, and as far as I can remember no man has ever called me this!
What a foul thing to say…particularly as you’re in a relationship… and still in the “early days” of it ( when it should be 💋❤️‍🔥💘 )

No. No. No.

You can do SO much better than this vile person.

If your boobs don't bounce, he ain't doin' it right...

Absolutely, utterly awful.
Its not just the c**t either, it’s the whole way he tried to make you feel bad and punish you by criticising your body on top.

If he is like this after 3 months, I dint want to think how he’d be inn1 year or more.

Get rid and save yourself some heartache.

Simple - no.

After 3 months?!?!? I’m aghast honestly.

I’m 6 years married with two kids and I wouldn’t forgive my DH!

Not someone I had only been with for 3 months, no. If he’s calling you this now, what will things be like in years to come.

if it’s a long term relationship that is otherwise happy, I would think that there would be something more behind that remark.

Run, OP. This one needs to get back in the bin.

Your question is a bit misguided too. He is nowhere near your partner or spouse. He is a dickhead that is using you for sex, and went on the vicious attack when it was pointed out or questioned.

Some arguments/comments/behaviours may be forgiven by spouses or long term partners (within reason, and depending on context/remorse erc) but there is NO reason to try and work through anything with this piece of shit.