Could you forgive your partner / spouse if they called you

[sunshineandroses25]

A fat cunt.. during an argument?

I’ve been dating a man for 3 months, not exclusive yet but very strong feelings and we were definitely heading in that direction. We had a bit of a tiff last night, things got heated and he called me a fat cunt and blocked me.

He messaged me today and apologised profusely, said he didn’t mean it.

I’m not sure if I can get past it though. He knows I’m insecure about my weight, we’ve talked about it a few times. I’ve dated men in the past who treated me like shit and always put me down because of my weight. He knows all of this. I just feel like it was such a low blow and I would never comment on his looks (he has insecurities too). It’s also made me think is that what he really thinks of me…

No - anyone that called me a c**t would be out of my life. A vile word, used to insult women. 🤮

Absolutely not. He’s shown you his true colours there.

He's a nutter, get rid of him.

nope. The word 'cunt" would be enough without "fat"

Three months in? He'd be getting the boot pronto.

It can only get worse if he's like that at what's effectively the start of your relationship. Don't agonise over it. It should be an easy decision.

No, no forgiveness, if my partner of 10 years called me that we'd be done. Bin this one OP, I'm sorry. The blocking is childish and unnecessary too. It will get worse.

After 3 months?! Definitely not. Very odd to be having an argument so soon too.

Absolutely no way, he will do it again and again, anyone who calls names mid argument are emotionally immature and unable to be adults in situations where there is any form of conflict. Block him and move on you deserve better.

Wow. Please ditch this nasty bully

Thank you all for responding.

We found ourselves in a disagreement when I asked him whether he was seeking a sexual relationship (we have previously been intimate, but he recently made several comments that implied he was only interested in fun). He became quite annoyed with me and said that he had already told me he wanted a relationship, accusing me of not believing or trusting him. He said I accused him instead of simply asking, and started making comments like, "he might as well take what he wants from me as that’s what I think of him anyway." I told him he was being a dick mocking me, which prompted him to respond, "it’s not normal for your tits to bounce during sex, you fat cunt." and blocked me.

I feel like a mug.

No no no, away with that cunt 👊🏻

Good lord NO.
That you need to ask indicates vulnerability and low esteem.

He's low life scum.
Save yourself the inevitable drama mixing with low life brings.

He has shown you who he is, believe him the first time.

If my DH called me this, I would file for divorce. I would never have this. Never.

He can’t have had much sex with women then because hey, TITS BOUNCE 🤦🏻‍♀️

Not at 3 months…. I would ghost him

OMG No. That is utterly unforgiveable. I wouldn't even accept the apology - never mind consider ever seeing him again under any circumstances.

That’s a bye bye phrase !! I’m afraid

Absolutely not. Get rid.

3 months in and he calls you a fat cunt? Knowing that past wankers have done this to you and it's badly affected you? I'd be telling that abusive cunt to fuck off out your life and go and find someone who isn't a nasty cunt. You deserve so much better. If he can be like that in what's generally the honeymoon phase, imagine what he'd be like further into the relationship. Please don't stay with this prick

At no point, ever!

What a cruel and vile thing to say.
Says a lot about his character and if I were you I'd block and run. Huge red flag here..he will only get worse down the line.
Hope you're ok.

Absolutely not. And if he is like this 3 months in, before you are even exclusive, then imagine what he’d be like later down the line? Don’t stand for this, OP. He’s a horrible man who has shown his true colours.

He’s told you who he is. Believe him. Get rid. x

And also....of course boobs bounce during sex!!!! They aren't solid objects. They are not made of wood.

Er, what? I'm willing to bet I've had sex with more women that this repellent man, and I can assure you that all tits definitely bounce during sex, even the smaller ones.