Could you forgive your partner / spouse if they called you

[sunshineandroses25]

A fat cunt.. during an argument?

I’ve been dating a man for 3 months, not exclusive yet but very strong feelings and we were definitely heading in that direction. We had a bit of a tiff last night, things got heated and he called me a fat cunt and blocked me.

He messaged me today and apologised profusely, said he didn’t mean it.

I’m not sure if I can get past it though. He knows I’m insecure about my weight, we’ve talked about it a few times. I’ve dated men in the past who treated me like shit and always put me down because of my weight. He knows all of this. I just feel like it was such a low blow and I would never comment on his looks (he has insecurities too). It’s also made me think is that what he really thinks of me…

No of course not. He's shown you who he is. Believe him.

God, no. Your standards don't need to be that low.

Ew no. Nasty man.

Block him

Dump and block

When somebody shows you who they really are - believe them.

Not a chance would I be continuing with this relationship.

God no, absolutely not. What a dreadful person.

12 weeks you’re having heated arguments & he’s calling you horrible misogynistic names?

Have you got idiot tattooed on your forehead?

PS whilst this is not the point, he plainly hasn't done the deed with anyone else if he thinks that it's not normal for breasts to bounce during sex

Get him booted tae fuck! No way should you be with someone that verbally abuses you like that. And only 3 months in too! Big dangerous red flag there. What will he be doing 3 years in? Strangling you? Get him blocked and don't look back. You need to protect yourself!

Absolutely no and that’s an alarm. Especially so early on. Don’t have to specifically elaborate loads around it, that it was the exact thing he said, he might be able to turn it around and minimise it and convince you to stay, just call it a day and I hope you’re luckier next time. I think if you really really think about it you might have noticed other little things here and there and just brushed them off. It’s a massively mean thing to say.

No not after three months. this is supposed to be the fun fancying other time. Ditch him now before you get in deeper.

I’d struggle to forgive a LTP or husband for that.

Boyfriend of 3 months? Nope - fuck that for a game of soldiers.

You deserve better

His comment was disgusting! I wouldn’t be able to move on and continue an relationship with this person.

I also think it’s incredibly immature to block someone in the middle of an argument/ discussion. I wouldn’t be able to trust that he could discuss thinks properly without blocking and disappearing for a while.

So I know it’s an inexcusable thing to say to anyone but if my husband of 10 years said that to me I as a once off during an argument and apologized I may not throw my marriage away… but 3 months? He wouldn’t hear from me again.

Too much porn? Silicone filled breasts?

Absolutely no.

He got very angry, escalated massively, called you an unforgivable name and blocked you. Basically lost control of his emotions, like a toddler. Bin him now it’s not worth your time

No way. Decent people don’t call each other names.

You’ve dodged a bullet nice and early in the relationship.

OP your update is worse than your first post. Calling you a cunt wasn't even an isolated thing, it was part of a small torrent of abuse. And the fact that he wouldn't have a discussion about your relationship just leapt to accusing you.

Dump him. ASAP.

There's no need for you to insult the OP as well.

I’m assuming he’s an ex now OP

Absolutely.

For one thing I abhor that word & DH would never, ever use it, neither would be call me fat (even though I'm carrying more weight than I should).

Neither would I call him a fat prick or similar. Even though, like me, he's carrying more weight than he should.

Time to walk OP BIG RED FLAG. 3 months is honeymoon period it will never be better than now.

I told him he was being a dick mocking me, which prompted him to respond, "it’s not normal for your tits to bounce during sex, you fat cunt." and blocked me. I feel like a mug.

You're only a mug if you keep seeing him. Fucking arsehole.

This!
33 years and my dh has never once sworn st me!

Massive red flag- bin him!