The final straw-ripping up his Father’s Day card?

[Nowheregirl2000]

Just wanted to know if I am over reacting. After an argument last night about the lack of intimacy in our relationship, my partner has ripped up his Father’s Day card from the kids. I’m so angry and sad. It seems to nasty to do that. I found it in the bin, not them. I feel like this might be the final thing that makes me separate but I feel awful guilt about splitting the family up.

Then I’d start by seeing a lawyer to see how things could work in case of a separation, esp re who will be the RP, 50/50 care etc….

Then if you’re the highest earner and you need to sell the house anyway, I’d look to rent something until the house is sold.

You have agency and choices.

I wonder what happens if you make explicit that there will never be sex again but you invite him to stay together “for the sake of the children.”

It’s rather a “B’rer Rabbit”** strategy. What you want is for him to punish you by throwing his toys out of the pram and blowing up the household himself. “How dare you deny me sex and take advantage of my childcare! I will show you!”

** B’rer rabbit is an African American folk trickster character who tricks his enemy into losing a conflict by suggesting a punishment that is really a reward.

Actually the normal starting point in case of divorce is 50/50 Regardkess of whether the mother has been the primary carer.
Theres no reason why it shouldn’t be the case here too. They’re not babies!

I know. They aren't married, anyway. So no finances or assets to sort, just the house, and co-parenting.

With a man this shit, a parenting app is best for communications.