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Why are people long term single?

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loveyoutothemoon · 08/05/2025 19:38

So people that want a relationship and are single more often than not, is it more because they're difficult to get along with, insecure etc? Or could it be more down to luck?
I suppose I'm looking for personal experiences really.
For me it's fussiness and impatience and insecurity, which I'm having counselling for.

OP posts:
AskNotForWhomTheBellCurves · 11/05/2025 03:47

I vaguely like the idea of being in a relationship but I don't care enough to actively go out and look for one. If one happens to fall into my lap one day then cool, otherwise I'm happy enough doing my own thing.

CleanShirt · 11/05/2025 04:22

Because men.

RawBloomers · 11/05/2025 04:54

I think culturally we've become much more individualistic. In particular, women have started to want to direct their own lives as much as men do and very few men have changed to accommodate that.

Disturbia81 · 11/05/2025 08:42

NaeRolls · 10/05/2025 17:42

I'm not single, I'm married but my husband and I live separately. Both of us prefer having our own space. I can do what I want, when I want. We get together for dates, hikes etc, and enjoy each other's company, laugh a lot and have a wonderful time. Then I get to go home and be in peace and quiet with my two cats. I have friends, a bookclub, a job I love. He has his friends and hobbies. We are both independent and self-sufficient. We live a 10 minute drive apart from each other.

We have a few married friends and we all get together sometimes. I think they think our living arrangement is a bit strange! But we like it and that's what matters.

We're in our 40s with no kids (by choice). Maybe as we age we might want to move in together in order to help each other if one of us gets sick or frail. But for now we are happy with how things are.

If we split up or he passed away I wouldn't bother dating again. It took me a long time to find someone who suits me so well and I doubt it will happen again. Also I doubt there are many men who would be happy living apart; most want to be mothered.

This is the perfect compromise. I will never live with a man again, it keeps it fresh living apart and no resentment creeps in

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