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Partner has left with no warning

231 replies

Confused225 · 05/05/2025 04:38

Hi all just need a hand hold or some advice really.
I've been with .my partner 2 years in general it's been good. However whenever we have a disagreement his reactions are always way over the top.
We have been away this weekend and have had a minor disagreement. His response has been to storm off block me on everything and not come home.
For context he doesn't come from my area and moved here a year or so ago so has nowhere to stay.
All his stuff is here including passport ,driving licence etc. He quite regularly storms off in huff's but not to this level. We have joint bills etc and now I have no way of contacting him. I have a DS and he's really bonded with him. Before when he's stormed off he hasn't been present but now he's aware of what is going on,and is really upset.
This isn't normal behaviour is it? Just feel so confused

OP posts:
PeppyTealDuck · 08/05/2025 12:05

You are doing the right thing for you and your DS. That’s the only thing that matters.

Knowing this will keep you feeling strong. You’ve grown as a person in the process. Well done!

pusspuss9 · 08/05/2025 19:13

TUCKINGFYP0 · 06/05/2025 16:11

He is telling your to bin his stuff to ramp up the drama. You are supposed to think I that he is suicidal. . He is not of course.

Reply with a thumbs up, then block him.

Do nothing else. Put it all his stuff the shed in black bins bags. Don't email him or phone him. Dont contact his parents or his friends.

If you have not heard from him in 6 months, return the docs to the authorities as Pp have explained and bin the rest. You are not a free storage facility.

Be very VERY glad you’ve found this out now and not after you had a child with his or married him.

He is telling your to bin his stuff to ramp up the drama. You are supposed to think I that he is suicidal. . He is not of course.

but he could be. He sounds very unhappy and in need of help (not from you of course). I would do nothing at them moment.

BrightGreenPoet · 11/05/2025 16:39

This is not normal behaviour. This is not healthy behaviour. This is not behaviour you should allow a man to model for your son. If he's not already back, file a missing persons report and pack his things in boxes. Once he's found, end things. If he doesn't pay rent then get him out the second he walks through the door.

Lonleyfox · 30/09/2025 13:16

Pack his stuff and put it in the garage or shed, out of sight. Is it possible to drop it off at his workplace?

Omgblueskys · 30/09/2025 14:32

Lonleyfox · 30/09/2025 13:16

Pack his stuff and put it in the garage or shed, out of sight. Is it possible to drop it off at his workplace?

Op hasn't been on here since may ???

MooseFlower · 30/09/2025 14:41

Confused225 · 05/05/2025 04:50

Yeah he lives with me . He's done it about 8 times now but this is most definitely the worst. We were away when he stormed off this time and I have no idea where he is or anything.
Messaged me to say he wanted his work stuff then sent another.message to say he didn't want it then blocked my number.
I'm unsure what to do next

Change the locks and tell him eight occasions of storming off were too much, it’s now affecting your child and you won’t tolerate it.

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