Did he lie about the snip to stop using condoms?!

[Unbelievable27]

I'm fuming.

So I've been seeing this guy casually for a bit. We started off using protection, but he kept complaining about it and wanted to do it without. I held my own for a while, told him I was on no contraception (trying to get my hormones to sync naturally after years of the pill) but he said he will get an STD test done for me and that's when I'm sure he said he had the snip also!!

Anyway a bit of time went on, and after a few drinks one night, I gave in.

From there it has seemed we had already broke that boundary so we carried on unprotected, me convinced it's safe because he's had the snip and I also get myself checked.

Anyway fast forward and I find myself PREGNANT.

I tell him about being late on and my worries of falling pregnant (him still unaware of the pregnancy), so I ask him to confirm if he has had the snip. He tells me that's he's been circumsied and not the snip and perhaps I got confused and to just go and take the morning after pill.

Considering it's been months of unprotected sex, it's a bit late to be suggesting that now and why wasn't he worried of this consequence. I also wouldn't be allowing this if I thought there was a risk of pregnancy.

I'm just in shock and confused because all this time I thought he had the snip and now I'm being told otherwise. I wouldn't just make this up in my head but that's basically what he's telling me.

I don't know what exactly I'm looking for on here - perhaps confirmation that this isn't just something I would make up?! Why was I so sure he had the snip? He must have told me but I'm doubting my own mind now.

Gosh wish I had this evidence in a text or something..
It's true, I wouldn't have agreed to it otherwise.

He's a weasel OP.

Is it not better for the child to have a dad around also? Your 27 not 37 you still have a decade and more to meet a good guy.

I just wouldn't want to have a child wth this deceitful careless man who's prepared to gaslight you by saying you somehow got confused between him being circumcised with him telling you he'd had a vasectomy. More to the point he knew he hadn't had a vasectomy and carried on having unprotected sex. Being kind I'd say that he's not going to be much of a dad. Being blunt I wouldn't want that DNA for my child.

I’d very rarely say this, but…

There will be other chances for a baby with a man that is likeable and has the ability to be a good dad.

This is a cluster of his dna that’s been deposited in you without consent.

You already have a child?!
That’s quite the drip feed. Perhaps focus your resources on him or her.

You might want another child but how about thinking about wanting a decent and present father for a child.

Op, be kind to your future self and end this pregancy asap, this early on it can easily be done with medication.

If you go ahead and keep it there's no guarantee this fucking clown won't find out and make you're life a misery, please don't tie yourself so a disgusting man like this in any way.

Agree. I also feel a sense of protest that this deceitful man's genes will be perpetuated. His genes should die out.

Women don't want abortions the way we want icecream. We want them the way that a fox caught in a gin trap wants to chew its own leg off to escape. You aren't choosing the option you want because "what you want" probably isn't on the table here. You are instead choosing the least-worst option out of two hard options and you are choosing for yourself, your existing DC, and any future DC.

Yes, this could be a least worst option, rather than a a choice that feeling like a good option.

Another way of viewing this is to ask yourself how you would feel if you miscarried tomorrow, because the only difference between a miscarriage and an early medical abortion is that you take tablets to start the EMA.

I get this. As the age gap gets bigger there is much more of a sense of going back to square one just as you were getting a bit of freedom back.

on the other hand. This is the dad. I would certainly research whether he gets a say if you do have the baby, whether or not you want him to pay CM.

Much sympathy. It’s a really difficult situation to be in.