Won’t live with dogs.

[OneDaringDreamer]

Hi there
this is the 2nd time I’ve reached out on here for your help in my relationship.
so my boyfriend and I have been dating 18 months and everything has been great except one hiccup last month that has been resolved.
we live an hours drive apart and have spoken about one day coming together to live.
i have 2 small dogs and my boyfriend isn’t a dog person. He’s tried hard to adapt to them and has even got beds for when we stay at his.
anyway last night on our date night he’ told me he’s considering moving down to my area. Which is great and exciting.
however, I’ve asked well why don’t we join forces and get somewhere together. Which we’ve talked about a lot.
he has now laid his cards on the table table (his words) that he can’t live with the dogs. Especially 2 dogs and that our time to live together will be after my oldest dog goes to heaven. He’s 10 and could live another 4-10 years being a terroir.
this has got me somewhat confused and unsure of the future.
before he’d say we can get a house with a nice conservatory for them. So they can have there space.
Help ???? it’s seems like a lovely prize of moving closer but with a sting attached.

I wouldn’t want to live with 2 dogs either.

To be fair better he tells you know than you moving in together and then a short time later telling you he wants to move out. Ok he has changed the goalposts a bit but something we say things about things in the future but when they are actually going to be reality we sometimes reflect.

I am not a dog owner but the majority of my friends who have dogs have got another one when their dog passed away. Are you willing to sign up to living apart for four or five years and then a dog free life for this man?

I'm sure this has resolved one way or another by now, as the original post was made a year ago.

@OneDaringDreamer , do you have an update?

All dogs smell of something. All animals (including humans)smell of something - it's part of being a living organism. That something may be pleasant, or so slight it's undetectable to some people, but there will be a smell.

A journalist resurrected the thread and got deleted.

This ^^

I sat in A waiting room yesterday with someone that had dogs. She was well dressed and very presentable but the stench ( and that is a fair description) was awful. I had to put my scarf over my mouth and the poor man next to me had to leave. It was made even worse when her husband came in to join her.