Ghosted & maid of honour in 3 days

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Hi all, I have been ghosted by a man who I was in a relationship with for 18 months.
I am in shock and utterly heartbroken.
It came completely out of the blue.
We had a fantastic relationship ( or so I thought) the last time I saw him things were good & he even booked a nice weekend away for the both of us.
It was a serious relationship. Saw each other regularly, met each other's families etc.

I am absolutely broken
I can't eat or sleep
I cannot focus. I almost hit my car today and I took the wrong turning twice.
I am either sat frozen with a painful heart looking into space or moving continually.
My heart is racing constantly & my stomach is churning and I feel absolutely dreadful.
I am going through the motions at home with my two teen and pre teen children as to try not to upset them but they can see I am not myself.

To top all of this off It is one of my best childhood friends wedding in 3 days and I am not only a bridesmaid but maid of honour.
I have duties. I have 2 readings to do. I am sat at the top table with her , her husband , parents and there will be an empty space where my partner was suppose to be sitting.

I'm in such a horrible position as I do not wnat to make her day about me so I have lied to her and told her that her has the flu.

I can tell her after , the next few days is about her. That's not the problem .

I'm just struggling to see how I can get through the wedding day.
I can barely shower and walk my dog.

I was so excited about my friends wedding.
What he has done has ruined this for me

Please help me I need some advice something to hold onto and something to keep me strong, I am in such a state and I am broken 💔

Do you no he is safe?

Oh OP. I’m so sorry. Can you tell someone who will be there at the wedding so you have an ally for some secret support? Are there any friends there who could help?

You will get through this and remember he has shown his true colours. Cowardly, unkind. The trash took itself out.

Look after yourself ❤️

No but he has blocked me on everything. What's app. Facebook. Instagram etc after going quiet on me a few days before

Has he just disappeared off the radar completely?
After that amount of time together I'd be more worried something has happened to him rather than ghosting.

Hi thank you for your reply. I have told another best friend but she will oy be coming to the evening do. So I will have her around in the evening to be there. I'm struggling to think straight right now. The timing if this is hurrendous

Go to the wedding and be there for your friend. Be around people who care about you and try and put it out your mind for one day. When you're in a better place you'll regret not being there.

Please tell her the truth, you will get some support and understanding, see the day as a distraction, once it's happening, your mind won't be as focused on him, you'll have lots of new people to talk to on day!
Sorry this has happened to you

I was worried initially but after seeing he had read my are u OK messages and then blocked me , I'm pretty certain I have been blocked

That is just so cruel. I feel for you

I was once ghosted in the days before my siblings wedding after a three year relationship. I honestly didn’t know how I would get through the day but it was actually very easy and I had a great time surrounded by people I loved.

Of course he popped back up to tell me I looked amazing in my bridesmaid dress as I posted on social media 🙄 He will be back with some shitty excuse I can guarantee that.

I'm confused. I am 100% going to this wedding. I'm just asking advice on how to survive atm.

How horrible. Cowardly git.

Was he invited to the wedding

Yes ..there will be an empty space where he would have been sitting next to me

Can you ask your doctor some low dose diazepam to get you through the day, and skip alcohol that won’t be helpful for you.

So sorry he has done this to you.

Maybe ask the bride if that can get changed, get your pal next you or something. Are you in contact with Abby if his family or anything?

Pretend you’re an actress in an episode where you have to be the most attentive MoH EVER. Throw yourself into the role to the absolute max.

Thank you for this. I am so sorry this happened to you also & after 3 years oh my goodness that must of been so tough 😢

Can your mate who’s joining in the eve become your Plus One?

And you get through this by finding your anger. He is a cockweasel of the HIGHEST order and you will be glad to be rid of him one day very soon.

Good idea, I will contact the GP first thing tomorrow, thanks

She thinks he has the flu. I think she is trying to fill the seat with another relative atm

Tell your bride so she can inform the venue. One of my bridesmaids split up with her ex the night before my wedding. By the next morning there was no trace of his name or place anywhere.

He’s a bastard and you are well rid but it won’t feel like that now. You’ll have to smile your way through the wedding and then lick your wounds after. What a vile selfish git for doing that to you now.

Tell the bride asap so they can rearrange the seating plan.

They are rearranging anyway as I've already told her is unwell and unable to attend

It was horrendous at the time but I got through it and you will too.

In my case he did come back but I never let him back in.