Earrings found and they aren’t mine! WWYD?

[Strugglingmama1]

In brief, I found a pair of earrings behind my air fryer when I was cleaning and they aren’t mine. I’ve asked all my children and they are adamant they aren’t theirs and haven’t seen them.

my husband works away. I’m a SAHM so always here.

If this was you, what would you be thinking? Because my mind is in a mess

Thanks!

It doesn't sound like its him if you're the SAHM and he works away? Sounds more like a kid's friend has left them?

Wow what a drip feed. No sex life at all and no visitors ever?! Sounds like a terrible relationship. Not condoning him playing away but why are you together?!

I can't understand why IF he is having an affair he would choose to throw them there. Does not make sense.

If they belonged to another woman and he had picked them up why put them behind the air fryer? I would have lost them in a waste bin out somewhere.
Always the chance of them being found in rubbish bin at home.
I'm on top of my game I guess.

Bit of a strange response from him!

Why would he throw them there though. It is weird thing to do. He'd be more likely to just throw them away. They sound like tat and of no value

Depends if the ow wanted them back. Not that I'm saying there is another woman.

That's easy!it's the psychopath living in your loft, who sneaks down whilst you're out to writhe around in your bed, licking your tooth brush whilst they do their hair 🤪😆😂

I think you need to find a way to regain your financial independence. Being a SAHM in a sexless marriage that your H is unhappy with is not a secure position for you to be in.

My friends husband had an affair and the first sign was a necklace on the counter which had come out of his pocket following him working away.

This actually the most sensible of the suggestions, and not that unlikely 🤷‍♀️

You mention only having the air fryer for a few weeks. Could the earrings have been in the box when the air fryer arrived? My explanation is the air fryer was returned by a previous customer and somehow the earrings were in the box, caught underneath and have now fallen off.

I'm not sure that is that far-fetched. Sounds plausible if you think it's the type of thing he might do. Have you noticed anything else in the last while? Has he been nicer, meaner, not asking for sex?

I would go with your 1st your first scenario. Makes sense.

I think its more likely its to do with your DD if she likes charity shops and she simply forgot. If your DH is having an affair, its a bit random to carry some earrings into the house and dump them behind an airfryer (and not bin them). I'm very sure there's an innocent explanation.

which I thought could be my eldest who is 16 and loves charity shops.

Friend of hers maybe?

Him moving them from his lorry to your kitchen would be a bit stupid - which doesn't rule it out of course. But it would be odd.

In my house, this 100% would be that my dd ‘borrowed’ them from a friend’s house. She and her friends seem to come back with all sorts of stuff that they seem to swap each other for, but I am convinced must belong to older sisters or mums that conveniently goes missing though I can’t prove it.

I didn’t want to go this deep but the last few years have been rough and I tried to leave but he became nasty refused to leave and involved the children trying to manipulate them by playing the victim. Not a reasonable way to react when your wife tells you she is unhappy. Part of me wishes he had had an affair so I could get out, even though I’m scared. Genuinely wondered what people would be thinking if they found what I found but now I feel worse, but I know people are honest and I appreciate it but I regret posting and I’ll leave it there