Anyone else have no friends?

[Lostworlds]

I’m in my early 30’s and have absolutely no friends. I don’t really know how it happened as I used to have friends but everyone drifted away from me. I put in a lot of effort and still people aren’t interested.
I had 2 close friends but turns out they weren’t my friends at all.

I’ve tried meeting people at baby and toddler groups, I’ve suggested meeting up with people I’m friendly with at work. I’ve gone out with my dh’s friends partners but nothing sticks. I’m on mat leave which means I’m at home a lot more than I’d like to be so I take the kids out a lot and do things otherwise I spend the day alone with my kids which is great but I don’t hear from any adults at all. No one ever makes the effort to contact me.

Sounds so pathetic and I have no idea what I’m asking here other than is anyone else like me?

I am in West London if anyone is local and would like to get in touch 😊 feel free to get in contact.

Good bit in the Let Them Theory book but Mel Robbins about adult friendships

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Why not? Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Most of the women whose profiles I looked at were either not my type or they didn't reply - much as would be the case if I was looking for men to date, so it depends if you're prepared for all that. I only met the one woman and we are still friends 2 years later, meeting up quite regularly.

I am mid 50s and in Warwickshire with no friendships. Would be good to get to know people of similar age etc. I would happily set up a WhatsApp group for anyone who wants to message me their number.

@Lostworlds I'm Glasgow based too, feel free to send me a message if you fancy a chat.

I consider myself lonely and friendless. Literally I have some friends but we don't see each other often, also we don't have same interest for example I invite them to visit some places they show no interests. They are very dependent on their husband and refuse to drive. So when I need to meet them it means I drive to their place or only when their husbands are free and the activities become families gathering.

I have no one to talk to.

Send me your number and I’ll set up a mumsnet Manchester branch 😂

Mylasycatspyjamas - Thrive is a Facebook page and it is called 'Thrive - Women living our best lives'. Only joined it today after it being recommended on this thread but not seen anything religious on there at all. I think you may have the wrong one?

There are lots of events listed on there in areas across the country where people are people meeting for coffee and chats. 👍

I don't and it's very lonely. Apart from DH and family I don't speak to anyone else day to day. I'm at SAHM now but when I was working I always got on well with people but they were never friendships that continued outside of work.
I'm SW London/Surrey borders if anyone's local and lonely

Oh and I'm 40 with 2 DC

I’ve obviously got the wrong one. Thanks

Can relate to this. I WFH so feel extra isolated. No work nights out, no face to face interaction or even going for lunch with someone else.

Toddler groups are not the one; some of the most snide people seem to congregate there.

I’m in Glasgow, same as a few others I think.

I hear you OP. I’ve tried a lot with family, school friends, work colleagues, college courses, school mums and I have lots of acquaintances but not 1 good friend apart from DH or DD. I’ve put myself out there and invited people round , out etc but everyone seems busy with their own stuff to want to hang with me. I’m always told I’m kind and funny etc but can’t seem to make any lasting friendships. I even considered getting a dog to be more sociable! I’m in north Kent if anyone is interested.

I think you may be onto something!

Same here, apart from work colleagues and people to chat to on Facebook, I don’t really have friends. I do activities by myself that I’ve got comfortable with however. . . Last year I had a big birthday where I really felt it having no friends to celebrate with and felt so awkward at a family lunch aunties and uncles I don’t see often, with all the “what are you and your friends doing to celebrate”. Plus other occasions where I had no friends for. It’s given me the push to try and change the situation.

Londoner here too

Me 👋

I’m Glasgow based too (bit older at 40 argghhh!)

I'm older than that😬🫣 and also Glasgow based.

I went on a tiktok retreat in 2023 for women made ten friends and three great friends xxx

A tiktok retreat?!

Not me. My dh.

There is a Facebook group for women looking to make friends, but I can’t remember what it’s called. They have local groups so you join your nearest. Mine was having a meet up not far from me but I didn’t go. Some of them sounded a bit batty, one was asking if she could park her campervan on someone’s drive overnight. But I’m sure there would be others you’d get on with in there.
Just need to remember what it’s called.
Plus, there’s groups and a holiday company on TikTok specifically aimed at women looking for friends, or for other women to holiday with.